DON'T POST THE AGE!!!!!

Hi!
If we are based on 29 dimensions of compatibility why is it that eharmony posts: our name, our city....and our AGE as the top 3 things that people should see. This is bad for women like me who are 62. I really don't look nor feel like I am 62. But there it is for my matches to see "62." not a good place to have it!
I was on eharmony a few years back when I was 53 and I can tell you that I had a lot of men looking at my profile and communicating. Now...not much at all, they don't even look at my profile! I gathered my 3 grown children in their late 20s and asked them to individually look at my profile and make a comment, I wanted them to criticize it. Even though all of them are very opinionated they all thought that my profile was fine and they could not understand why men were not looking at my file like they did when I was 53.....the reason is that eharmony posts the "age" and at that moment forgets about the 29 other dimensions of compatibility. Men are weary of opening a file where they see that the woman is 62! Eharmony, give US girls a chance! Just write our names and the city that we are from, let them find out our ages when they click on the profile and by then, they will probably like what they see and will not mind the age. Do that please.....Take it out!
Thanks!

Hi, DoctorMari, welcome to the boards.

I hope your profile isn't written in the same style as your post here. No personal offense, but it's hard on the eyes. Paragraph breaks are your friend. Less use of emoticons would be helpful, too. If you use this style on your profile, it may be the "thing" that is deterring your matches from contacting you.

If no one is actually looking at your profile, you might want to consider adjusting your settings so you are matched with more men. Extend your settings by one or two years of age on both sides. Relax the height setting to "not important" (believe me this makes a big difference and it doesn't just add more men who are "short" either). Adjust your distance to the next notch in or out, or change up the states you selected to include one more or one less. After you make those changes, wait a few days to see what pops up. The system needs a couple of days to realign itself to give you matches within your new settings.

If you are being matched with someone then you fit their age settings. So, your age should not be a turn off. They have full control over that portion of their settings and would set it to a younger age if that was truly what they were looking for.

I would hate to remove the ages. I personally do not want to be matched with someone close to my parents' ages or as young as my nephews. But, I'm in my late 30's, so my view on this part may be different than yours.

Good luck!

Thank you friends for your advice and the age is important and we should be matched on that. I just do not think that it is right to post it as one of the 3 main things before you click on the person's profile!

Don't put it outside! Put it inside with the rest of the profile. Is it that important that it should be ONE of the THREE things that they only see as a preview of your profile?

Thanks for the advice and great tip on the writing. I write technical documents and that is how they are written so I need to make changes.

Take care!

Someone's age is just a fact of life. If you have photos of yourself, then how about letting the matches decide if you look 'way younger'...

I personally want to know the age of someone who is a potential match. I am 43, and choose to date up to 10 to maybe 12 years my senior and a few years younger...So...I have no desire to match someone who is 56 and over...no matter how 'great' they think they look or feel.

If there wasn't age listed...I could get matched with someone who is 21 or 65....sorry...that would be a total waste of time to not match people based on their ages...

That is my preference...everyone has preferences....Again...letting them decide is best...Holding out or even lying (which some do) about your age doesn't prevent them from seeing you and finding out on the first date what your real age is.

There are other websites now dedicated to 55 and older and there have just been new studies that this age group is the fastest and most popular with online dating!

I would only use online dating sites as just ONE extra way to get to meet people...Make sure you are keeping up your flirting skills in public...And doing things like art or cooking classes...volunteering at organizations you love...and even going to Home Depot or Lowe's on a weekend...They are FILLED with men your age...a lot of them work there too

Clearly the most feasible solution in this case, is to ADD a fourth field to first thing matches see. This new field would precede, and be an extension of, the "Real Age" field, and it shall read:

Age you look and feel: XX

The above solution would put an end to this issue, and many many other issues with eHarmony as a whole. I'm positive of this!