Do your friends really describe you as "Physically fit"?


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mitchell175 is offline mitchell175 Post #1  November 11,2011, 5:40pm
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I cannot tell you how many of my EH matches list that under the "My friends describe me as..." section.

C'mon, guys, I know what you are trying to accomplish here - telling your match: "Look how physically fit I am!"

It just seems really odd that your friends would ever actually say that about you when they describe you to others. This is a section on your profile where you are required to check off 4 boxes. The other choices are things like "outgoing", "intelligent", "genuine", "easy-going" or "funny". Those are all the kinds of words that I would expect your friends to use to describe you, say when they are trying to set you up with one of their other friends. I don't think anyone would ever say "You should meet my friend John. How would I describe him? Well, he's hard-working, caring, creative, generous... and oh yeah, physically fit."
 
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I agree. "Physically fit" is an empty descriptor for me since (1) it's subjective and (2) if I'm not attracted to the person, it doesn't matter how fit the guy is.
 
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If I were to describe a friend as physically fit, that person would have to be some one who was a serious athlete, and not necessarily related to body type.

I've know some chubby-looking people who run marathons, bike 100's of miles every week, train for triathlons, and have a daily activity lifestyle that would mow me into the ground.
 
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mitchell175 wrote :
It just seems really odd that your friends would ever actually say that about you
I've gotten Wow, you're strong!, and Damn, you look good!, even handsome a few times, but never physically fit. ::sigh:: It's such a blow to my self-esteem.

Any good-willed folks on eHA? If you want to make a new or better friend, please message me the words "physically fit". Thank you.
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Update: a friend officially described me as physically-fit!
 
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The ones that get me are the ones who have to mention their "physical fitness" more than once in their profiles. Same goes for the matches who repeatedly mention their religious faith. Once is sufficient. Any more than that and it makes the person sound like those things are all they know or care about.
 
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I actually looked for "physically fit" in profiles. Doesn't much matter how much his mind intrigues me, or that I love his sense of humor, if he's going to keel over any minute. And I mistake couch potatoes for things that need dusting...

It is true that many people who claim physical fitness in their profiles don't have it, and can be moved to your "liar" archive. But if there is no mention anywhere of fitness, ime that correlated to no chance our activity levels would be compatible.
 
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Agree......or they are over-compensating......
texasgal7611 wrote :
The ones that get me are the ones who have to mention their "physical fitness" more than once in their profiles. Once is sufficient. Any more than that and it makes the person sound like those things are all they know or care about.
Also agree with this... a specific mention of a regular sport or activity , combined with a full body shot.. might get the idea across better than "my friends describe me as"
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It is true that many people who claim physical fitness in their profiles don't have it, and can be moved to your "liar" archive.
 
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Is the "physically fit" really just a semantics problem here.

Some of you have associated "physically fit" to being healthy. Would I be "physically fit" since I am banging on the door of 60 and have NO medical problems?

Others have associated "physically fit" to being "buff" / serious gym rat / serious athelete. I cannot even begin to count the times that I have seen the buff, athletic gym rat take a break from his gym routine to smoke a cigarette. Is that person actually physically fit?

"Physically fit" is a check box on an eHarmony profile that is the only choice for indicating a healthy lifestyle.
 
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[QUOTE=Gr8Guyn2008;1446192]
Would I be "physically fit" since I am banging on the door of 60 and have NO medical problems?

Others have associated "physically fit" to being "buff" / serious gym rat / serious athelete. I cannot even begin to count the times that

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I have seen the buff, athletic gym rat take a break from his gym routine to smoke a cigarette. Is that person actually physically fit?
Yup, he's physically fit. Watch some TV shows or movies from the 40s to 60s. You'll see men and women who are amazingly fit who just happen to smoke cigars or cigarettes. Smoking has a horrible effect on life expectancy, but even smoking ten times per day is less likely to send you to an early grave than obesity according to a recent comparison study.

If you exaggerate your fitness level, you'll waste time with matches who aren't interested, plus lose out on some matches who would've been interested but don't accept deception. There already is a toggle you can use to indicate you don't smoke so the majority, who are looking for non-smokers, can spot you easily!
 
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