tagline is offline tagline Post #1  November 11,2011, 9:07am
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Who finds it interesting to look at the aging process of the matches through their pics? I have to say, some of those pics will grab my attention and may tell me more about their "fun and youthful" side, but unless you've aged well, not sure if they really help. I prefer to look at a pic or 2 of your current state of being. What are your thoughts?
 
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Are you saying that you get matches that have posted several photos and noted in the caption that one is from high school, one is from college, one is from 10 years ago and one is current?
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That your matches post photos that are years old?

Actually eHarmony in their photo help says that it is a good idea to post a series of photos showing a progression through your life. (I tried doing that and my younger photos were rejected ). I only recall one match who had posted a photo of her at a much younger age from high school. She had noted it in the caption. I thought it was a nice touch. Of course she was still just as slim at 55 as she had been at 16.

Matches posting photos that are quite out of date is not at all uncommon and it is a frequent complaint on these boards.
 
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HowICIt is offline HowICIt Post #3  November 11,2011, 10:36am

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I am not sure what your question is?

Are you commenting on people placing old pics? I think that is a common complaint.
 
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Yes, I mean people posting pics that are 20, 10 years old. Btw, I didn't know that EH recommended that. I don't put my old pics because I no longer look like that and when I look at pics, it's important for me to know what you look like now as opposed to what you looked like 20 years ago. I guess just wondering what everyone's impression was when you see pics of different stages of someone's looks. Does the younger pics help or no?
 
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I never put anything but current photos up, and I don't use "the best I've ever looked" photos either. A) I wanted the guy to be able to find me when we met; B) I didn't want his face to fall in disappointment when he did; C) it's quite nice to see a guy's face beam with relief or even pleasure, that what showed up was what was "advertised".
 
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paintandbooks wrote :
I never put anything but current photos up, and I don't use "the best I've ever looked" photos either. A) I wanted the guy to be able to find me when we met; B) I didn't want his face to fall in disappointment when he did; C) it's quite nice to see a guy's face beam with relief or even pleasure, that what showed up was what was "advertised".
Exactly! Much more eloquently and clearly put than what I was trying to say.
 
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HowICIt is offline HowICIt Post #7  November 11,2011, 11:23am

This is just how this female sees it. Your mileage may vary.

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Yes, I mean people posting pics that are 20, 10 years old. Btw, I didn't know that EH recommended that. I don't put my old pics because I no longer look like that and when I look at pics, it's important for me to know what you look like now as opposed to what you looked like 20 years ago. I guess just wondering what everyone's impression was when you see pics of different stages of someone's looks. Does the younger pics help or no?
I think for females - it is always better to look better in person than online. They should always look better in person.

I am not so sure it applies the same to males. It definitely will hurt if a man is worse in person than what she thought of him but if she can still think of him how she thought of him even if he does not physically look the same, I think he will be OK.

But for females, I think this rarely would be the case.
 
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HowICIt wrote :
I think for females - it is always better to look better in person than online. They should always look better in person.

I am not so sure it applies the same to males. It definitely will hurt if a man is worse in person than what she thought of him but if she can still think of him how she thought of him even if he does not physically look the same, I think he will be OK.

But for females, I think this rarely would be the case.
Nice try at attempting to make women sound more forgiving in the looks department then men are. Both sexes will put a very high degree of importance on the physical attraction level and then the personality will either help it or hurt it.

They both are the same.
 
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Yes, I mean people posting pics that are 20, 10 years old. BTW, I didn't know that EH recommended that. I don't put my old pics because I no longer look like that and when I look at pics, it's important for me to know what you look like now as opposed to what you looked like 20 years ago. I guess just wondering what everyone's impression was when you see pics of different stages of someone's looks. Does the younger pics help or no?
From this article:

http://advice.eharmony.com/using-eharmony/dating-photos/your-photo-gallery-tell-the-story-of-your-life

"Some of the best laughs are based on real occurrences, so harness the comedic relief of those what-was-I-thinking times. Feature a shot of you as an awkward preteen ..."
 
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I posted photos of myself from HS, College, ten yrs ago, then 6 months, and then a couple of current ones. I made sure all were captioned with when they were, time wise, and I have had a few very good comments on them. People asking if I still do what I was back then ( I had a pic of me playing trumpet in the college yrs. And it makes for a good point of interest, to show I really like music. And yes I do still play trumpet a little.) And I have not had anyone say anything negative. So I think it's a good idea if the old pictures add something to your profile, like interests, things you've done ( I like to see pic's of other in exotic local's )or that show more about who you are. But if they are just to show you "used to look like this" and "now you look like this", well I don't see any advantage to that. Add a few more current pic's instead. As a side note to this, anyone else notice how many pictures of pet dogs are on here. I love dogs, and if you are in the pic with your dog I love it, but just of your dog ???? Not so sure.
 
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