happy_me is offline happy_me Post #1  November 9,2011, 5:37pm
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OK folks...here's my story.
I initiated an eharmony email...he likes hockey...I love hockey...had to send a comment about his team...great texting for a week...love his vocabulary...then it stopped nothing, nada, zip, zulch!

I know...oh well, move on but he hasn't closed me yet.

What to do...send another email? If the shoe was on the other foot and I had stopped communication, I wouldn't want another email and I would have closed the match....hmmm.
 
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I am a little confused on the events and the timeline..

You had texting...why didnt you CALL AND TALK ??? Why not set up a date?
 
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ami1uwant wrote :
I am a little confused on the events and the timeline..

You had texting...why didn't you CALL AND TALK ??? Why not set up a date?
Maybe all she wanted was a text buddy
 
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I, too, am a little confused about the how all this progressed. Did you initiate the original contact with this match? Did you skip Guided Communication and go directly to e-mail?

It could be that he figured that you were not interested since you had not suggested a date within that first week of texting.
 
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It is such an inordinate hassle to close many don't bother.........Others just get more interested in someone else......pursue that for a bit..... then go back to the back-burner options..... if it fizzles.

Best not to "put the shoe" on anyone's foot but your own.. it's all assumption and reading into things that aren't there.

Not closing is meaningless.. .......pursue matches you are communicating with......Good Luck....
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I know...oh well, move on but he hasn't closed me yet.
If the shoe was on the other foot and I had stopped communication, I wouldn't want another email and I would have closed the match....hmmm.
 
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happy_me is offline happy_me Post #6  November 11,2011, 9:06am
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Ouch! No sugar coating here ...

Yes, I initiated the text...skipped all the other stuff. I initially made a one liner about his profile and that's how the text started. It was for a one solid week. I hoped that he would say...let's meet up but it appears from your comments that I should have said it first...since, of course I was the instigator. It has been 2 weeks since our last communications and no response from my last text.

I close matches daily...I know I've been too selective. I'm quite embarrassed at my keep ratio.

I will sadly move on....
 
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Before you move on, stop, reflect, and learn a lesson. Otherwise, you will just repeat this scenario time and time again.

Next time, if you like someone, consider picking up the phone after the first text exchange. Chat once or twice, then if all still looks good, meet. While you were texting ad infinitum, another match probably progressed into his real life and was a real connection. Texts and e-mails are just words on a screen. You never know if you'll connect with someone until you speak with the person and actually meet.

Don't mean to be harsh, but the reality is that the early bird generally catches the worm. You were worse than late. You were not even present.

Best of luck next time.
 
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happy_me wrote :
OK folks...here's my story.
I initiated an eharmony email...he likes hockey...I love hockey...had to send a comment about his team...great texting for a week...love his vocabulary...then it stopped nothing, nada, zip, zulch!

I know...oh well, move on but he hasn't closed me yet.

What to do...send another email? If the shoe was on the other foot and I had stopped communication, I wouldn't want another email and I would have closed the match....hmmm.
What you should do is move on to other matches. Personally, I would close the profile if I felt that someone wasn't showing enough interest in me, but you could keep it open and put him on ice like he did to you.

B.Y.
 
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