texas_girl is offline texas_girl Post #1  November 9,2011, 9:43am
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Men, please review & let me know what scares you off! Anything helps. Thank you.

The one thing I am most passionate about:
Living a life worthy of my calling.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
A strong relationship & pursuit of Christ. A great sense of humor, optimistic, open to adventure, & pushing past the ordinary; compassionate, & committed to good health. Someone to grow with spiritually & mentally. Bonus points if you are a fan of live music and dominating games like CatchPhrase.

IN MY OWN WORDS
The most influential person in my life has been:
My brothers, who are 10 and 15 years younger than me. Kids unknowingly teach us what love really looks like and the joys of everyday life. They rock!

The three things which I am most thankful for:
God's grace & my relationship with Jesus
Family
Life's trials (and triumphs!)

Three of my best life-skills are:
Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis
Continuing to expand my knowledge and awareness
Being a good friend and companion

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
I'm an Iowa girl, very thankful for my upbringing. I wholeheartedly appreciate the simple things.


The things I can't live without are:
My contacts (and glasses), a positive attitude,
Band-Aids, intellectual stimulation,
awe of the natural world,
working out, & God's word.

The first thing people notice about me:
My sarcasm & even temperament.

Some additional information I want you to know:
Relatively new to Austin (just over one year!). I did not move here for a boy (I get asked a lot). I have a B.A. in Graphic Design & Marketing, with a handful of graduate classes in Education. Not a fan of fairy tales, chick flicks, or The Bachelor I do, however, have a particular fondness for Wilson Phillips.


INTERESTS
I typically spend my leisure time:
Working out, being outdoors, discovering new places & learning new cultures; reading; spending time with friends.

The last book I read and enjoyed:
Sun Stand Still by Steven Furtick. It was challenging and gave me insight on practicing more audacious faith. I enjoy keeping up on local & international events; health & fitness; psychology; science; & faith. I enjoy studying the Bible & meditating on Scripture.

ACCORDING TO MY FRIENDS
My friends describe me as:
Funny
Creative
Genuine
Passionate
 
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tweet37 is offline tweet37 Post #2  November 9,2011, 10:01am
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All the references to religion /God / Jesus scared me off.
 
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texas_girl is offline texas_girl Post #3  November 9,2011, 10:41am
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Thanks for replying. I have to laugh. As it seems, I am clearly weeding out the right people. I am a follower of Christ and that is of utmost importance. Perhaps I don't need a profile review after all.

My issue is not initial interest. I currently have 18 open matches, most at stage four and some (three) I have actually dated. All are on the same page spiritually. Disregard that life choice. It is the ones that simply quit communicating once they've shown definite interest on multiple levels. I don't understand that. Maybe i'm the girl who always comes in second. Cest la vie. Good thing I am happy solo.
 
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ami1uwant is offline ami1uwant Post #4  November 9,2011, 11:36am
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texas_girl wrote :
Thanks for replying. I have to laugh. As it seems, I am clearly weeding out the right people. I am a follower of Christ and that is of utmost importance. Perhaps I don't need a profile review after all.

My issue is not initial interest. I currently have 18 open matches, most at stage four and some (three) I have actually dated. All are on the same page spiritually. Disregard that life choice. It is the ones that simply quit communicating once they've shown definite interest on multiple levels. I don't understand that. Maybe i'm the girl who always comes in second. Cest la vie. Good thing I am happy solo.

That isnt the case.....


when you mention it so many times even regular church goers wil say no.

Be honest here how much do you go to church? every week? twice a week? Do you volunteer heavily in the church?

Are you a bible thumper or do you ome off as someone who isnt that religious in public?

How are you with the type of religion? Are you open to those who are of a different fath as you? Do you expect them to go to church with you and convert to your faith?

If so....then...eharmony isnt going to work for you...likely nothing will...you may need to resort to meeting people in your own church. If not your church then use a similar church across town as the dating church
 
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Stephen Blaxland is offline Stephen Blaxland Post #5  November 11,2011, 12:59pm
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I am a man....but not sure if I can help as I only joined a few days ago.
As I am from England probably even less help as I think I get lost a bit with "dominating games like catchphrase" that sounds bit strange to me but I really like it except for
The one thing I am most passionate about:
Living a life worthy of my calling.


I don't really understand what you mean by this it makes me think you don't have a lot of passion what is your calling helping people?
Anyway hope it was some help
 
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texas_girl wrote :
Men, please review & let me know what scares you off! Anything helps. Thank you.

The one thing I am most passionate about:
Living a life worthy of my calling.
That is a good opening statement. Now tell me what this means to you. What is your calling? How /what do you do to live this life?

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
A strong relationship & pursuit of Christ. A great sense of humor, optimistic, open to adventure, & pushing past the ordinary; compassionate, & committed to good health. Someone to grow with spiritually & mentally. Bonus points if you are a fan of live music and dominating games like CatchPhrase.
This is OK. However, from the standpoint of grammar it is abominable

IN MY OWN WORDS
The most influential person in my life has been:
My brothers, who are 10 and 15 years younger than me. Kids unknowingly teach us what love really looks like and the joys of everyday life. They rock!
This is good.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
God's grace & my relationship with Jesus
Family
Life's trials (and triumphs!)

Three of my best life-skills are:
Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis
Continuing to expand my knowledge and awareness
Being a good friend and companion

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
I'm an Iowa girl, very thankful for my upbringing. I wholeheartedly appreciate the simple things.
This is good but you could continue on and tell me about some of the simple things that you appreciate.

The things I can't live without are:
My contacts (and glasses),
a positive attitude,
Band-Aids,
intellectual stimulation,
awe of the natural world,
working out, & God's word.
This is good.

The first thing people notice about me:
My sarcasm & even temperament.
This is OK

Some additional information I want you to know:
I am relatively new to Austin (just over one year!). I did not move here for a boy (I get asked a lot). I have a B.A. in Graphic Design & Marketing, with a handful of graduate classes in Education. I am not a fan of fairy tales, chick flicks, or The Bachelor I do, however, have a particular fondness for Wilson Phillips.
This is good. Note: Contrary to popular belief some guys actually have a pretty good understanding of the English language and care about proper grammar (and spelling though that has not been a problem so far).


INTERESTS
I typically spend my leisure time:
Working out, being outdoors, discovering new places & learning new cultures; reading; spending time with friends.
This section IMO should be the largest and most detailed. Working out is more likely than not to be a solitary activity. Reading is a solitary activity, it is also covered in the Last Read section. What you want to do here is give me an idea of what sort of activities we would be sharing together.

The last book I read and enjoyed:
Sun Stand Still by Steven Furtick. It was challenging and gave me insight on practicing more audacious faith. I enjoy keeping up on local & international events; health & fitness; psychology; science; & faith. I enjoy studying the Bible & meditating on Scripture.
I am a little up in the air on this. This really should be a "book report" on ONE book that you read and enjoyed. Not a laundry list of the types of things you like to read.

ACCORDING TO MY FRIENDS
My friends describe me as:
Funny
Creative
Genuine
Passionate
Comments above in red.

Stuff in BOLD purple are corrections.
 
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Stephen Blaxland wrote :
I am a man....but not sure if I can help as I only joined a few days ago.
As I am from England probably even less help as I think I get lost a bit with "dominating games like catchphrase" that sounds bit strange to me but I really like it except for
The one thing I am most passionate about:
Living a life worthy of my calling.


I don't really understand what you mean by this it makes me think you don't have a lot of passion what is your calling helping people?
Anyway hope it was some help
Catchphrase is a game. Not sure if the OP is speaking of enjoying the TV (I think you would say telly (sp) ) or playing it online or playing a handheld electronic game. Google is your friend

Forgot to mention that it is a British television show.
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notyet is offline notyet Post #8  November 13,2011, 12:20pm
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texas_girl wrote :
Thanks for replying. I have to laugh. As it seems, I am clearly weeding out the right people.
/\this/\

i did not read your entire profile either, initially - just the first line. and as soon as i did, i knew what the comments would be. i was right!

don't sweat it. the right guy will be attracted to what you have written. good luck!
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ami1uwant wrote :
...when you mention it so many times even regular church goers wil say no...
this is not true. you are just filtering better than most.

Stephen Blaxland wrote :
...sounds bit strange to me but I really like it except for, The one thing I am most passionate about: Living a life worthy of my calling.

I don't really understand what you mean by this...
see?

ami1uwant wrote :
...eharmony isnt going to work for you...likely nothing will...
this is also not true. do not be discouraged. i was on eHa for two years and did not suffer any lack of interest from my very overtly christian profile. but silly me, i did not need eha since my mate was waiting for me right here on Advice!

just give it time. but also be open to meeting men IRL and through other venues. i'm sure you are already. matches that "poof" (seemingly disappear without reason) are common.

one thing you have not addressed that i am curious about- how long have you been on eHarmony? it seems to take a while to actually find someone through their process.
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harnomygirl is offline harnomygirl Post #10  November 13,2011, 12:43pm
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texas_girl wrote :
Thanks for replying. I have to laugh. As it seems, I am clearly weeding out the right people. I am a follower of Christ and that is of utmost importance. Perhaps I don't need a profile review after all.

My issue is not initial interest. I currently have 18 open matches, most at stage four and some (three) I have actually dated. All are on the same page spiritually. Disregard that life choice. It is the ones that simply quit communicating once they've shown definite interest on multiple levels. I don't understand that. Maybe i'm the girl who always comes in second. Cest la vie. Good thing I am happy solo.
It's a good profile. Gr8's advice is worth a look though.

Do your matches stop communicating after you've dated them or before? It's possible that you're waiting too long to set up a meeting offline.
 
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