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For the second questions I always send custom questions, never from the eharmony list.

My matches seem to enjoy the questions. Some say they are thought provoking.

A few close after I send the questions. I guess if my questions are too difficult to answer then they should close

One of my favorite questions is "You can invite 4 people (throughout history) to dinner. Who and Why?"

Do you have any favorite second questions (not on the eharmony list) ?

- January 23rd, 2008, 09:05 am
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Wow, I can't believe people close out when they see different questions! I love to get thought-provoking questions. Similarly I equally love it when a guy doesn't simply choose a/b/c/d options to answer my first questions - even if I want to choose one of the options to answer those questions I at least check "e" & write a bit more in my answer. Someone once asked me what I'd do if i won several million dollars on the lottery! That was a fun question to answer.
- January 25th, 2008, 05:40 pm
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I always ask at least 2 custom questions - usually related to something in the person's profile. If he mentions having pets, I ask about that. Music lover? I ask about favorite artist. Sports nut? "What are the Packers' chances of making the Superbowl?" (Well, can't use that one anymore....) If there happens to be a funny or smart a$$ line in the profile, I make sure to create a question around that. Custom questions always get better answers, not the boring one sentence or short phrase answers the canned questions usually come back with.
- January 25th, 2008, 07:51 pm
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michaell1999, wrote :

For the second questions I always send custom questions, never from the eharmony list.

My matches seem to enjoy the questions. Some say they are thought provoking.

A few close after I send the questions. I guess if my questions are too difficult to answer then they should close

One of my favorite questions is "You can invite 4 people (throughout history) to dinner. Who and Why?"

Do you have any favorite second questions (not on the eharmony list) ?

One of my favorite custom questions is "how did you come to join eharmony?" I have gotten great information every time about what led people down this path and what they are looking to get out of it; I really like that question. And I totally agree about not using the canned responses - you get such a good sense of what a person is like when they don't just go down the list and check responses! I think you are right - if someone doesn't want to take the time to think up a sincere response, then I don't think they are serious about this and them closing at that point is just a time saver for you, since they are obviously not your equal!
- January 28th, 2008, 08:18 pm
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That's a pretty tough questions. I usually use what eharmony offers, but I like adding, "Tell me 5 random things about yourself." I don't feel a need to get too philosophical or deep too early. Isn't this supposed to be fun too...
- February 2nd, 2008, 11:27 am
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Hey I love the "5 random things" option!
- February 2nd, 2008, 10:05 pm
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I like... what are you looking forward to? How did you come to be on e harmony? I always ask a question about something they mention in their profile too. people get bonus points if they chose their own answers in the first round of questions too! Just this morning I got 2nd questions where the guy SEVEN" questions and four "essay questions."I tried to answer... but ran out of room.LOL!! He asked me if I was looking for a buddy... how do I answer that without sounding mean? "I wouldn't used those terms exactly..." It made me feel like he wants someone to play video games with rather than a romantic relationship! Anyway, I didn't close him out 'cause I'm dying to see how he answers my questions!!
- February 3rd, 2008, 02:13 pm
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I also asked him what he read in my profile or about me that led him to contact me... that should be interesting!!
- February 3rd, 2008, 02:14 pm
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Fabulous advice to be original in 1st round answers and second round questions. Definitely sets a person apart and lets the personality shine through. There's always the classic: "You are going to be stranded on an deserted island for exactly a year. What 3 things (including people) would you want to have with you?" Eharmony has some good questions also. I like using them to get to know a match even better in open communication.
- February 4th, 2008, 10:33 pm
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michaell1999, wrote :

For the second questions I always send custom questions, never from the eharmony list.

My matches seem to enjoy the questions. Some say they are thought provoking.

A few close after I send the questions. I guess if my questions are too difficult to answer then they should close

One of my favorite questions is "You can invite 4 people (throughout history) to dinner. Who and Why?"

Do you have any favorite second questions (not on the eharmony list) ?

Michael, Thank you very much for creating this topic, I think we will all learn from it, I have! Bill

- February 5th, 2008, 08:56 am
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