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michaell1999, wrote :

For the second questions I always send custom questions, never from the eharmony list.

My matches seem to enjoy the questions. Some say they are thought provoking.

A few close after I send the questions. I guess if my questions are too difficult to answer then they should close

One of my favorite questions is "You can invite 4 people (throughout history) to dinner. Who and Why?"

Do you have any favorite second questions (not on the eharmony list) ?

You should check out the BOOK OF QUESTIONS by Gregory Stock. There's over 200 questions that are very thought provokingand fun. I get some of my questions from there. It's a great read.



- May 9th, 2008, 10:14 am
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One thing that drives me batty in the 2nd questions are the extreme qunatifiers, like "The ONE thing" and "most" and "least." I don't think that way. When asked what is the one trait, besides love, that I've seen in couples with long lasting successful marriages, my way of thinking does not lend itself to saying that it's one trait. I see things as intermixed, so if I say respect, that includes communication and fidelity because the first leads to the 2nd and 3rd. If I say communication, well, that includes respect because it's tough to have open communication with a person you don't respect.

Back when I was a teen, I started thinking about who was my best friend and realized one friend was best in one way, another was best in another, and so on. Then I decided "ranking" someone's friendship was sometimes an ugly thing to do because it reduces something wonderful to numbers. It attempts to qunatify the unquantifiable. That was part of me starting to take a more wholistic view of humans and how we interact.

For me, there are many cases where I do not prioritize, since I see no need to. I prioritize my goals and my todo list, but I see no benefit and possibly even a detriment to ranking or prioritizing when it's not needed, so I just do not think in those terms and dislike questions that expect me to think that way. Those questions presume a certain mindset that not all people have.
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This is a great topic..thanks for all of the good ideas. I like them all. The next match I get that replies to my profile I will have to ask them some of these questions..all are great..

I wish some of the people that answer this discussion board would be sent to me as a match! I have gotten more response talking on this part of eHarmony than on my actuall matches!

You all take care.....Pam
I agree Pam! Maybe we should make our own sub-committee for matching ourselves up with people here!
I suggested this on another topic. I think we should do it!
I agree!

So would we start a topic for it or is there another way to get something going?

Since I've found this board I've realized that this is something Match.com does not have (and other matching sites as well). I've been here a short time, but I've had to work at the computer a lot this week, so I come by here when I take a break and read new posts, then respond. (Yeah, I respond a lot -- again, I'm at the computer a lot and I don't have a boss checking what I'm doing.) From what I've seen, it seems to me a community like this is as powerful a tool in matchmaking as 29 dimensions or anything else. We don't just see a profile and possibly have it closed before we have a chance. We get to mix and see what others say and get a sense of someone so we can see if we want to get to know them better.

It would be nice to see what we can do to match people on the forums.
- May 9th, 2008, 10:25 am
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We get to mix and see what others say and get a sense of someone so we can see if we want to get to know them better.

It would be nice to see what we can do to match people on the forums.
Exactly. I don't know how we can do it but its something we should definitely explore. I bet someone would end up with a success story out of it for sure!
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Thanks for the great ideas. I am definitely going to use some with my own twist.
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DreamingOfAtlantis wrote :

JerseyGirl wrote :
Red Sox Girl wrote :
Pam_S52 wrote :


This is a great topic..thanks for all of the good ideas. I like them all. The next match I get that replies to my profile I will have to ask them some of these questions..all are great..


I wish some of the people that answer this discussion board would be sent to me as a match! I have gotten more response talking on this part of eHarmony than on my actuall matches!


You all take care.....Pam




I agree Pam! Maybe we should make our own sub-committee for matching ourselves up with people here!
I suggested this on another topic. I think we should do it!

I agree!


So would we start a topic for it or is there another way to get something going?


Since I've found this board I've realized that this is something Match.com does not have (and other matching sites as well). I've been here a short time, but I've had to work at the computer a lot this week, so I come by here when I take a break and read new posts, then respond. (Yeah, I respond a lot -- again, I'm at the computer a lot and I don't have a boss checking what I'm doing.) From what I've seen, it seems to me a community like this is as powerful a tool in matchmaking as 29 dimensions or anything else. We don't just see a profile and possibly have it closed before we have a chance. We get to mix and see what others say and get a sense of someone so we can see if we want to get to know them better.


It would be nice to see what we can do to match people on the forums.
I'm in...
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Just wrote short answer questions to a Christian lady who has a hobby of reading about military history.


Asked her 1. what her favorite book of the Bible is and why. What has she learned from it.


2. Who was the greatest military strategist in history. Why. Was it one battle or many moves that made the person, the greatest?


3. If you could talk with any person who ever lived for one hour, who would it be and what would you ask the person? Why?


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michaell1999, wrote :

For the second questions I always send custom questions, never from the eharmony list.

My matches seem to enjoy the questions. Some say they are thought provoking.

A few close after I send the questions. I guess if my questions are too difficult to answer then they should close


One of my favorite questions is "You can invite 4 people (throughout history) to dinner. Who and Why?"


Do you have any favorite second questions (not on the eharmony list) ?

I like to send custom questions as well. It's somtimes hard to craft a relitive one if their profile is skimpy. This is one I thought would open things up a bit It's based on each others "can't stands" and in hindsight maybe baseing it on the "must haves" might be a more positive way to craft it...of well next time....here it is.....


"I had an Idea....lets trade......Im going to ask you to pick one item from your "can't stand" list and tell me more about it.

The one you pick must be the one that really burned you in your last relationship. When you picked it you said to yourself "Oh Man!! I will never put up with that again!

And then I will pick a cant stand from my list that means the same to me. sound fun?"


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It occurs to me the thing I like about this aproach is both have to agree on the form the questions might take. one might say "OK you go first" or "that sounds good but lets base the question on must haves instead" The question just expands on inforemation the other has had to consider a bit. But the neat idea here is to discuss what questions would be apropriate


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