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The one thing I am most passionate about:
Contributing, in some way, to the idea of karma, or at least leaving the world having done more good than bad... It doesn't matter exactly how, so much. I take advantage of the opportunities that present themselves. As far as hobbies and such, I train dogs in a sport known as Schutzhund, German for "Protection Dog". Which is teaching obedience, protection, and tracking/scent detection... my dogs, other peoples dogs, it doesn’t matter. It consumes a bit of my free time, but I’ve developed great interest in it as found many of the things I’ve learned in interacting with a dog actually apply to people as well.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Beyond the things that apply to everyone, I’d say the most important thing would be a quick wit and a healthy sense of humor. If you can throw the sarcasm and banter back at me as fast as I can at you and keep me sharp and on my toes, you’ll probably have my attention indefinitely. I’m not the typical guy, and I’m not looking for the typical girl. They didn’t break the mold when they made me... I was free-handed and I'm looking for the same. If the word "eccentric" has been used to describe you, we will probably enjoy each other's company.

Basic Information
Occupation:
SEntrepreneur: founded & run 2 engineering firms & a few other random companies
Age
32
Height
5' 8"
Wants Kids:
Yes
Kids at Home:
No
Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks:
About once a week
Smokes:
Never

In my own words

The most influential person in my life has been:
Hmmm... There is not one person that stands above the rest in terms of influence, but there has been many who were very influential... If I had to pick one, it would be my father, BUT, that breaks the eHarmony rules, so I'll roll with this random guy in the walmart checkout. I had a 20oz red bull, and the lady turned off the light the second I arrived from the 40 person long line to go to hers. She told me "I'M CLOSED" in a rude way. The guy being rung up in front of me grabbed it and bought it for me despite my protest it was unnecessary, and I had no cash on me to pay him. I wanna be that guy. That guy inspired me in a very real way lol.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
My intelligence. I wasn’t a football captain or basketball star in highschool. What I’ve always been is “that smart kid”, and probably the first thing my friends would say when describing me.
My self reliance. Growing up with 3 sisters, I always had to sort of fend for myself. My parents always had the “he’ll do fine, concentrate on the girls” approach. It made for some tough times growing up, but its a comforting feeling to be confident you can tackle whatever life throws at you.
My ability to roll with the punches. Life always has some tough spots. I think many people struggle with them, but I’ve always been noted for my enduring the hits with style and grace.

Three of my best life-skills are:
Using humor to make friends laugh
Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis
Achieving personal goals

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
I've been told, repeatedly, that I am a very difficult read. Even a few times by a clinical psychologist. That being said, I'll go with my honesty and a rigid set of morals. I actually do what I believe is right when no ones looking, and even when its going to personally negatively affect me. Not because I care all that much about others perception of me... I'd venture I care less than is normal (or I should) about how others view me, but because of my own self perception... its critically important to love thyself, and at the end of the day I have to live with me.

The things I can't live without are:
My dogs. Nobody likes you as much as your dog
Adventure! I need regular does of epinephrine
Saltwater! I get land-sick when I leave the coast
Good food. I put a lot of effort into my meals
Friends. Dogs are great but suck at conversation

The first thing people notice about me:
My smarts and sense of humor. I can generally make people laugh until it hurts. Its probably my greatest social skill. I can harness it at will and use it for forces of good or evil. Which, depends on your perspective. You'll either laugh till you can't breath, or feel reeeeallly awkward around me. Possibly, I'll push the limits a bit and strike a nerve or accidently hurt a feeling or two, but I'm quick to apologize if my humor isn't well received. You can't make an omelet without egg cracking and all that

Some additional information I want you to know:
Its Movember, so I am currently growing a mustache (even frosted the tips) for charity. I don't normally sport this look. no holding it against me The important things are best captured in person, but I’ll take a stab at it. I grew up in Charleston, did a contract with the USMC, traveled the world working for a DoD contractor. I quit working for them, figured I could do it better & started a company. That was an adventure, and had its ups and downs. Now that I've weathered the storm, I'm eager to share my life with the right person... albeit unsure where to even begin to look. I don't care how we meet, so long as we do, so here I am!

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:

Experimenting in the kitchen, often using experiments from my garden. I’m not so much the cook-by-numbers type and have difficulty repeating meals often. The bright side is I’ll probably never send you to the store for a cup of sugar. The down side, sometimes we might have to scrap the meal and order emergency delivery. Adventuring. I started skydiving at 16, USMC at 18, scuba to 150ft, motocross, catching snakes, you name it, I'm down for it. Dog training (schutzhund). This is usually a few nights a week Boating in general, and offshore fishing in particular. I think I’m happiest ~50 miles offshore, floating in the sun and baby blue water

The last book I read and enjoyed:
A book about Austrian economics. I’ll save you the boring details, but it explains a great deal of what has happened in our economy, how things should work, what we (as a country) are doing wrong, how a free market economy works, explains the business cycle, etc. I have a strong desire to know how everything works, from car engines, to neural synapses, to motivating dogs and people. The topic doesn’t even matter so much so long as I'm learning. I personal library looks like a combination of the reference, how to, science, and technology sections of the book store. Fiction has never been my bag

According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:

Funny
Ambitious
Passionate
Intelligent
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I'm not sure if I'm the right person to give you advice because I haven't had much luck either but here it goes. lol

If I was browsing profiles and came upon yours the first thing that stood out was."The one thing I am most passionate about: "My dogs, and dog training. Also, about politics to a degree". Maybe the reader would think you while you're out on a date with her you'll be talking about politics all night. And the rule to socializing is...never talk about religion or politics. I'm not saying you will but someone might think your a politics junkie. The second thing that stood out was there isn't much written in "additional info I want you to know". Describe yourself in at least 5 sentences or more. Maybe describe your career. When people see "self employed" they might think of someone who has dreams and goals but never accomplished it.

Good luck with finding someone who is compatible with you.
 
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Alrighty then. I'm not your target audience. Nor can I claim to know the magic key to success in online dating. But, I CAN express my opinion, which is what I shall be doing... So do take it with a grain of salt. See my comments in red below

The one thing I am most passionate about:
My dogs, and dog training. Also, about politics to a degree
Care to elaborate a little more about each? What can your matches expect you to be doing, on a realistic and/or daily level, to "feed" these passions? What do you ACTUALLY do about your passions, is the key to this section.

Also worth noting, I think you should aim to hit that "cool! He's passionate about dog training, but he's not the gross type that's obsessed with them and gives them open mouth kisses or something" note with the dog training bit... and with the politics bit you want to aim for the "ok, he cares about politics but he's not a politics nut and is open to views different than his" thought. (Obviously you need to achieve these 2 things without spelling them out like I did, but by implying them when you're talking about exactly what you do to "feed" these passions of yours)


The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Loyalty. It's really important to know my partner will be by my side through thick and thin, good times and bad. As long as the chemistry is there, loyalty is the most important for me

Meh. Loyalty is much like Honesty when it comes to this answer, and they both suffer from the same issue: They're too broad in concept and too basic of a requirement to have any true meaning. EVERYONE wants an honest and loyal person. None of your matches will feel special to fall into this category.

Don't get me wrong, you can get away with this answer, but you'd be doing so by blending in with the surroundings, and not standing out in any way.


Basic Information

Occupation:
Self employed
Age
32
Height
5' 8"
Wants Kids:
Yes
Kids at Home:
No
Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks:
About once a week
Smokes:
Never
In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:

Hmmm... There is not one person that stands above the rest in terms of influence, but there has been many who were very influential... I've learned many things from many people, and continue to collect whatever tidbits I can from who I can.
Standard cop out answer here. Doesn't say much about you, and is one more answer that achieves nothing but to make sure you don't stand out from the crowd.

The three things which I am most thankful for:

My intelligence To some this might come off as a little arrogant
My self reliance
My ability to roll with the punches

Another thing to note in this section, is that it's not too restricted with number of characters allowed. So you could stand to elaborate with a sentence or 2 on these things.

Three of my best life-skills are:

Using humor to make friends laugh Reading your profile, I don't believe this, and neither would your matches. Claiming to be funny achieves nothing. Being funny does.
Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis
Achieving personal goals

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:

My honesty and morals. I actually do what I believe is right when no ones looking, and even when its going to personally negatively affect me

I dunno, this kind of rubs me the wrong way even though it's a perfectly OK answer.

Still... Honesty is not something people don't notice... and even if it is... if you're truly the kind who does the right thing when no one's looking, you wouldn't wish more people would notice it, as that kind of defeats the purpose.

EDIT: How bout this answer for a little humor, and to also communicate the same thought:

Well, the next time the cashier at the grocery store gives me an extra $20 in change, and I point out his error and return it to him like I always do, I suppose I wouldn't mind it if a beautiful woman in the aisle next over noticed that and was impressed


The things I can't live without are:

My dogs
Adventure
Saltwater
Good food
Friends

a few words about each answer, particularly the general ones (like adventure and good food) or the ambiguous ones (like saltwater... why wouldn't you be able to live without it, for example), could help in this section, though is not necessary.

The first thing people notice about me:

My intelligence and sense of humor. I can generally make people laugh until it hurts. Its probably my greatest social skill

See my above comment about mentioning you intelligence. It can (and likely will) come off as arrogant.

As for sense of humor, again... see my comment above. Up to this point in your profile, you have yet to say anything humorous. You're much better off SHOWING your matches you're funny, not claiming that you are... because quite frankly... everyone claims to be funny. Not a whole lot of them actually are though.

Some additional information I want you to know:

The really important stuff about me you can only learn in person

Yet another cop out answer. This reads as "I don't have anything to say, so I'll just state that I have nothing to say". Which achieves... you guessed it... nothing.

Either leave it blank, or put something meaningful here IMO.


My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:

Dog training (schutzhund) Boating/offshore fishing
Way too short of an answer, and with no material in it either. Dog training is mentioned yet again... starting to get a little old already... And the other 2 are just meh.

You might also want to think about mentioning a few things you like doing that your dates could relate to, and see themselves doing WITH you. And don't just say "going out" or "hanging out with friends and family".


The last book I read and enjoyed:

A book about Austrian economics. Lol I won't bore you with the details. I have a strong desire to know how everything works, from car engines, to neural synapses, to motivating people.

According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:

Funny
Ambitious
Passionate
Intelligent
Overall, I'd say this is a very bland profile that has nothing that stands out in it other than the fact that you train dogs... something you don't even offer specific details about. You just mention it.

I, of course, don't mean to offend you in any way. Just expressing my opinion... as an objective stranger... which your matches will be as well.
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Harryoss wrote :
Alrighty then. I'm not your target audience. Nor can I claim to know the magic key to success in online dating. But, I CAN express my opinion, which is what I shall be doing... So do take it with a grain of salt. See my comments in red below



Overall, I'd say this is a very bland profile that has nothing that stands out in it other than the fact that you train dogs... something you don't even offer specific details about. You just mention it.

I, of course, don't mean to offend you in any way. Just expressing my opinion... as an objective stranger... which your matches will be as well.
lol no offense taken. I'll revise and repost.
 
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I'm not your target audience...lol...DancingFool and the other ladies here do a great candid job at this... but here are some things from experience. Overall very good profile...You'll do very well...Good Luck..
The one thing I am most passionate about:
My dogs, and dog training. Also, about politics to a degree
Try to use each section to showcase a different aspect of yourself, and not mention anything twice.
The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Loyalty. It's really important to know my partner will be by my side through thick and thin, good times and bad. As long as the chemistry is there, loyalty is the most important for me

Basic Information

Occupation:
Self employed...State your profession / field here.. IT, academics, medicine, whatever ...."self employed" can get misinterpreted as "unemployed"
Age
32
Height
5' 8"
Wants Kids:
Yes
Kids at Home:
No
Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks:
About once a week
Smokes:
Never
In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:
Try to answer this one as dumb or difficult as it is... maybe some mentor or historic figure?
Hmmm... There is not one person that stands above the rest in terms of influence, but there has been many who were very influential... I've learned many things from many people, and continue to collect whatever tidbits I can from who I can.

The three things which I am most thankful for:

My intelligence......This will reflect in how you write and your wit...best not to state this ..could come off as lofty
My self reliance
My ability to roll with the punches
Three of my best life-skills are:

Using humor to make friends laugh
Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis
Achieving personal goals
The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:

My honesty and morals. I actually do what I believe is right when no ones looking, and even when its going to personally negatively affect me

The things I can't live without are:

My dogs...already mentioned... good section to use a little dry wit
Adventure
Saltwater
Good food
Friends
The first thing people notice about me:

My intelligence
...already mentioned..and best not to state

and sense of humor. I can generally make people laugh until it hurts. Skip this part : Its probably my greatest social skill... Careful about that thin line between confident and possibly coming off boastful

Some additional information I want you to know:

The really important stuff about me you can only learn in person

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:

Dog training (schutzhund) Boating/offshore fishing.

.. mention a bit more than dogs, boats, salt water... use your imagination here to be "creative"
...perhaps showcase that humor and intelligence
The last book I read and enjoyed:

A book about Austrian economics. Lol I won't bore you with the details. I have a strong desire to know how everything works, from car engines, to neural synapses, to motivating people.
According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:

Funny
Ambitious
Passionate
Intelligent
 
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lol no offense taken. I'll revise and repost.
I've put in an edit to my comments to your "The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:" section (which I appropriately preceded with "EDIT:" )... Be sure to check it out .

Also don't let just my one review convince you to change your profile entirely. These things are subjective. Wait for some others to post reviews as well... It might help to get a second (or third, or tenth) opinion
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The one thing I am most passionate about:
My dogs, and dog training. Also, about politics to a degree

I would only include the part about politics if it is relevant to your choice of mate. If you are the type of person who is super into politics and wants someone on the same page as you, then it is wise to put it in your profile as a screening device. In fact, if it is that important to you, you should mention exactly what about politics you are passionate about (i.e. I just love a good political debate, and I am attracted to women who can have an intelligent discussion on matters of the day, OR I am a staunch republican/democrat and spend much of time volunteering for political campaigns).

However, if politics is not an critical screening factor for you in your ideal match, then you should just eliminate this. You will turn off the majority of women who fall in the "political meh" zone by even mentioning it.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Loyalty. It's really important to know my partner will be by my side through thick and thin, good times and bad. As long as the chemistry is there, loyalty is the most important for me

I'm fine with this

Basic Information

Occupation:
Self employed As???
Age
32
Height
5' 8"
Wants Kids:
Yes
Kids at Home:
No
Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks:
About once a week
Smokes:
Never
In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:

Hmmm... There is not one person that stands above the rest in terms of influence, but there has been many who were very influential... I've learned many things from many people, and continue to collect whatever tidbits I can from who I can.

Come up with a real answer for this, even if you have to qualify it as "One of the most influential people in my life has been" if there are more than one.

The three things which I am most thankful for:

My intelligence
My self reliance
My ability to roll with the punches
Three of my best life-skills are:

Using humor to make friends laugh
Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis
Achieving personal goals
The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:

My honesty and morals. I actually do what I believe is right when no ones looking, and even when its going to personally negatively affect me

Bland but fine. One thing though. This is the second section where you have not ended your last sentence with a period. Incorrect grammar is pretty much the top reason a smart person will eliminate you on the spot.

The things I can't live without are:

My dogs
Adventure
Saltwater
Good food
Friends
The first thing people notice about me:

My intelligence and sense of humor. I can generally make people laugh until it hurts. Its probably my greatest social skill

I agree that the last sentence is not needed. And the period issue once again rears its ugly head.

Some additional information I want you to know:

The really important stuff about me you can only learn in person

Nope. You need to say something more interesting than this. You claim to be funny. Show off your sense of humor or something.

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:

Dog training (schutzhund) Boating/offshore fishing

More info please. Without going out and googling it, I have no idea what "schutzhund" means. I find it is best to paint a picture of what you do in your spare time that the right person is going to want to be a part of. All you've done here is made a strange little list with no personality behind it.
The last book I read and enjoyed:

A book about Austrian economics. Lol I won't bore you with the details. (remove italicized part) I have a strong desire to know how everything works, from car engines, to neural synapses, to motivating people.
According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:

Funny
Ambitious
Passionate
Intelligent
Overall, your profile is all right, but definitely has room for improvement. That being said, if I was still in the market, there's nothing in your profile that would have caused me to "next" you. There is certainly a lot you could do to highlight your claimed sense of humor and make you stand out though.
 
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Round 2 is much better because it gives a good sense of your personality. That profile would definitely stand out from the crowd. I laughed out loud more than once.
 
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Much better.....I hope you mean "regular doses of adrenalin"......epinephrine is for acute asthma!........
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