Profile Advice - Female/45

I thought I would also let you all know that I've been on eh for about 1 month. I've contacted numerous matches with 1st questions. I would say maybe 50 matches. Two have responded - one with an ice breaker and nothing more after that and the other I have been on 3 dates with (see my thread in Ask a Dating Expert). While I really like this one match I don't want to get all hung up on him just yet. Thus - my desire to get some feedback.

Hi All,

I would love to get some feedback on my profile. Any advice would be helpful. Please be gentle.

Thanks!
Tricia

PS. I am a tall (5'10) bigger woman. I am active and am more shapely I think than huge. I do not consider myself overly attractive or really unattractive -- I guess I would consider myself average looking. I take care of myself, I dress stylishly etc . I know that I will not be for everyone -- but I think I will definitely be for someone. This being said ---I have 4 pictures up - two are full body, two are head shots. One full-body is of me running in one of my races, the other full body is relaxing on the beach (body is covered up but it is a nice relaxed shot of me), the two head shots are of me dressed up at family events.
Can't see your photos but this sounds like a nice mix. Except I don't know what you mean "covered up" for your beach shot. If you mean that you have something like a beach towel laying over you then this is going to send a message that you are trying to hide something.
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The one thing I am most passionate about:
There are two main things that fit into this category for me. The first would be people. From my son to family and friends to new people I meet through work etc --- I love how interesting every life is. It's really very true that "every life has a story". The second would be running. I am fairly new to it so perhaps this is why it takes up some head and heart space for me. For me running has become "meditation in running shoes"
This is good. I am a little up in the air if the running part belongs here but am inclined to leave it here because of the last sentence.

The most important thing that I am looking for in a person:
I would like to meet someone who is positive, who enjoys the simple things in life, who is emotionally mature, who has built strong relationships and who loves what he does.
This is kind of a list. You should pick one thing and focus on that. Describe it, how your match will display this trait, etc.

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been: Two of my long time friends have shown me by example how to be as genuine and authentic as possible. They have taught me to speak my mind with kindness and good intent.
This is good.

Three things for which you are most thankful for:
My family and friends
My spirituality
My ability to see the positives in life even during tough times.
This is good.

Three of my best life-skills are:
Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis

Communicating my innermost thoughts and feelings
Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things

The one thing that I wish MORE people would notice about me:
At first I think people see me as being a little reserved. There is definitely that side to me at first however I love a good laugh and I certainly have a mischievous, edgy side to me.
This is good.

The things that I can’t live without are:
My son
My family
My friends
Books, movies & music
My running shoes
This is OK. If you want you can combine family, son and friends.

The first thing people notice about me:
That I am a good listener and that I am articulate.
This is OK.

Some additional information I want you to know:
I have been divorced for eight years. I have a wonderful group of friends, and a job that I enjoy. I feel that I am ready now to find a true life-partner.
Your last sentence has a negative feel and should be re-written.

My Interests:
I typically spend my leisure time:
Catching a movie, reading a book, going for a run, browsing a book store, grabbing coffee with a friend, going for a hike with my son, visiting family.
Write this up as a narrative instead of a list.

The last book I read and enjoyed:
I always have a book on the go - reading has always been a great enjoyment of mine. I am currently just starting Fall of Giants by Ken Follett. It is set just prior to and during WWI in Wales, England and the US. So far it is turning out to be a good read.
This is good.

According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:
Optimistic
Caring
Warm
Articulate

Hi All,

__________________________________________________ _________________

The one thing I am most passionate about:

There are two main things that fit into this category for me. The first would be people. From my son to family and friends to new people I meet through work etc --- I love how interesting every life is. It's really very true that "every life has a story". The second would be running. I am fairly new to it so perhaps this is why it takes up some head and heart space for me. For me running has become "meditation in running shoes"


Passionate about means why you chose your career, what drives your life, is there an interest you would not give up, is there a hobby/interest you have that may produce a second career for you, a hobby/interest you would never give up for any guy, is there a cause you believe in or volunteer for.

The most important thing that I am looking for in a person:

I would like to meet someone who is positive, who enjoys the simple things in life, who is emotionally mature, who has built strong relationships and who loves what he does.

This is very generic...after reading many many women profiles I see these statements in 90% of them. Say something that sets you apart or talk about an interest that the guy may also have that you would love if he had it with you.


In my own words

The most influential person in my life has been:

Two of my long time friends have shown me by example to be as genuine and authentic as possible. To speak my mind with kindness and good intent.

It would be better if you personalize what you say and talk about more details instead of just generalities.

Three things for which you are most thankful for:
My family and friends
My spirituality
My ability to see the positives in life even during tough times.

Three of my best life-skills are:
Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis

Communicating my innermost thoughts and feelings
Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things


The one thing that I wish MORE people would notice about me:

At first I think people see me as being a little reserved. There is definitely that side to me at first however I love a good laugh and I certainly have a mischievous, edgy side to me.

The things that I can’t live without are:
My son
My family
My friends
Books, movies & music
My running shoes



The first thing people notice about me:

That I am a good listener and that I am articulate.


Some additional information I want you to know:

I have been divorced for eight years. I have a wonderful group of friends, and a job that I enjoy. I feel that I am ready now to find a true life-partner

My Interests:

I typically spend my leisure time:

Catching a movie, reading a book, going for a run, browsing a book store, grabbing coffee with a friend, going for a hike with my son, visiting family.

The last book I read and enjoyed:

I always have a book on the go - reading has always been a great enjoyment of mine. I am currently just starting Fall Of Giants by Ken Follett. Set just prior to and during WWI in Wales, England and the US. So far it is turning out to be a good read.

According to my friends:


My friends describe me as:
Optimistic
Caring
Warm
Articulate

I thought I would also let you all know that I've been on eh for about 1 month. I've contacted numerous matches with 1st questions. I would say maybe 50 matches. Two have responded - one with an ice breaker and nothing more after that and the other I have been on 3 dates with (see my thread in Ask a Dating Expert). While I really like this one match I don't want to get all hung up on him just yet. Thus - my desire to get some feedback.

Hi All,

I would love to get some feedback on my profile. Any advice would be helpful. Please be gentle.

Thanks!
Tricia

PS. I am a tall (5'10) bigger woman. I am active and am more shapely I think than huge. I do not consider myself overly attractive or really unattractive -- I guess I would consider myself average looking. I take care of myself, I dress stylishly etc . I know that I will not be for everyone -- but I think I will definitely be for someone. This being said ---I have 4 pictures up - two are full body, two are head shots. One full-body is of me running in one of my races, the other full body is relaxing on the beach (body is covered up but it is a nice relaxed shot of me), the two head shots are of me dressed up at family events.
__________________________________________________ _________________

The one thing I am most passionate about:

There are two main things that fit into this category for me. The first would be people. From my son to family and friends to new people I meet through work etc --- I love how interesting every life is. It's really very true that "every life has a story". The second would be running. I am fairly new to it so perhaps this is why it takes up some head and heart space for me. For me running has become "meditation in running shoes"


The most important thing that I am looking for in a person:

I would like to meet someone who is positive, who enjoys the simple things in life, who is emotionally mature, who has built strong relationships and who loves what he does.


In my own words

The most influential person in my life has been:

Two of my long time friends have shown me by example to be as genuine and authentic as possible. To speak my mind with kindness and good intent.


Three things for which you are most thankful for:
My family and friends
My spirituality
My ability to see the positives in life even during tough times.

Three of my best life-skills are:
Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis

Communicating my innermost thoughts and feelings
Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things


The one thing that I wish MORE people would notice about me:

At first I think people see me as being a little reserved. There is definitely that side to me at first however I love a good laugh and I certainly have a mischievous, edgy side to me.

The things that I can’t live without are:
My son
My family
My friends
Books, movies & music
My running shoes



The first thing people notice about me:

That I am a good listener and that I am articulate.


Some additional information I want you to know:

I have been divorced for eight years. I have a wonderful group of friends, and a job that I enjoy. I feel that I am ready now to find a true life-partner

My Interests:

I typically spend my leisure time:

Catching a movie, reading a book, going for a run, browsing a book store, grabbing coffee with a friend, going for a hike with my son, visiting family.

The last book I read and enjoyed:

I always have a book on the go - reading has always been a great enjoyment of mine. I am currently just starting Fall Of Giants by Ken Follett. Set just prior to and during WWI in Wales, England and the US. So far it is turning out to be a good read.

According to my friends:


My friends describe me as:
Optimistic
Caring
Warm
Articulate