I don't understand my matches...at all

In my own words

The most influential person in my life has been:

I influence myself. I see what I do bad, ugly, and good. Then I learn from it.

Hi Raquel. This part comes off a bit conceited that you admire yourself, inspite of all the "bad" and "ugly" things you do. A little worrisome to a guy that you give yourself permission to continue to do ugly things and just write-them-off as learning experiences.

Give more time; guys will be communicating with you so much it will drive you crazy trying to keep up. Best wishes.

So I have allot of matches, and they view my profile, but I don't receive any icebreakers nor messages.... Is there something wrong with my profile?






The one thing I am most passionate about: I am passionate about being self satisfied, doing the right thing in spite of what other might do or say, working for what I want, learning and continuing my education, art, dancing, my career, my daughter, and taking care of whats important to me.



The most important thing I am looking for in a person is: I'm a loyal, caring, fun, and down to earth person. I like to relax, chill, hang out, and sometimes party. I am easy going and a very grateful person. School and my daughter is my number one priority, but I don't mind making room for one more. I'm looking for someone who can be open, and giving.

• About Me

Basic Information

Occupation: Student/ Bank Specialist Age 21 Height 5' 4" Wants Kids: Yes Kids at Home: Yes
Ethnicity African-American Religion: Spiritual, but not religious Drinks: About once a week Smokes: Never

In my own words

The most influential person in my life has been:

I influence myself. I see what I do bad, ugly, and good. Then I learn from it.


The three things which I am most thankful for:

• I am most thankful for my mother and father because they are the only two people who are always standing behind me to catch me when I fall.
• I am most thankful for my healthy baby girl who is my guide to a better future and the caffeine in my Red Bull.
• I am most thankful for my beauty,nice body,good health, smile, and smarts.

Three of my best life-skills are:

• Maintaining an organized life
• Making improvements and repairs around the house
• Achieving personal goals

The things I can't live without are:

• Books
• Internet
• Someone to talk to
• nice clothes
• My family

The first thing people notice about me:

The first thing people notice about me is my in-dependency. I have held a job since I was thirteen and I always work for what I want. When people hear about me doing this and that they say, " Your such a good kid, your mother must be proud to raise such a independent woman."


My interests

I typically spend my leisure time:

I love to draw, paint, sculpt, and create. I love to go dancing at clubs in Miami, and I love to read.

The last book I read and enjoyed:

Dutch III and it was great. I can't say what it was about because I would be re-writing the book lol.


According to my friends:

My friends describe me as:

• Creative
• Easy-Going
• Affectionate
• Hard Working

So I have allot of matches, and they view my profile, but I don't receive any icebreakers nor messages.... Is there something wrong with my profile?






The one thing I am most passionate about: I am passionate about being self satisfied, doing the right thing in spite of what other might do or say, working for what I want, learning and continuing my education, art, dancing, my career, my daughter, and taking care of whats important to me.
This section is asking for ONE thing that you are passionate about. While some of this is related it comes across as a list. You could re-write this in a way to have a focus while still giving details as to what that focus entails.


The most important thing I am looking for in a person is: I'm a loyal, caring, fun, and down to earth person. I like to relax, chill, hang out, and sometimes party. I am easy going and a very grateful person. School and my daughter is my number one priority, but I don't mind making room for one more. I'm looking for someone who can be open, and giving.
This section is the ONE most important thing you are looking for in your match. You have written a list of things that YOU are.

• About Me

Basic Information

Occupation: Student/ Bank Specialist Age 21 Height 5' 4" Wants Kids: Yes Kids at Home: Yes
Ethnicity African-American Religion: Spiritual, but not religious Drinks: About once a week Smokes: Never

In my own words

The most influential person in my life has been:

I influence myself. I see what I do bad, ugly, and good. Then I learn from it.
This is just bad. Someone, teacher, friend, boss, relative, must have been influential at some point in your life.

The three things which I am most thankful for:

• I am most thankful for my mother and father because they are the only two people who are always standing behind me to catch me when I fall.
• I am most thankful for my healthy baby girl who is my guide to a better future and the caffeine in my Red Bull. Your baby is caffeine in Red Bull
  
• I am most thankful for my beauty,nice body,good health, smile, and smarts. Comes off rather conceited.

Three of my best life-skills are:

• Maintaining an organized life
• Making improvements and repairs around the house
• Achieving personal goals

The things I can't live without are:

• Books
• Internet
• Someone to talk to
• nice clothes High maintenance!
• My family

The first thing people notice about me:

The first thing people notice about me is my independence. I have held a job since I was thirteen and I always work for what I want. When people hear about me doing this and that they say, " You're such a good kid, your mother must be proud to raise such a independent woman."


My interests

I typically spend my leisure time:

I love to draw, paint, sculpt, and create. I love to go dancing at clubs in Miami, and I love to read.
I would like to see more here than just a one-liner.

The last book I read and enjoyed:

Dutch III and it was great. I can't say what it was about because I would be re-writing the book lol.
It does not need to be a book report but I need to know something about what the subject matter is and WHY you enjoyed reading it.

According to my friends:

My friends describe me as:

• Creative
• Easy-Going
• Affectionate
• Hard Working

So I have allot of matches, and they view my profile, but I don't receive any icebreakers nor messages.... Is there something wrong with my profile?






The one thing I am most passionate about: I am passionate about being self satisfied, doing the right thing in spite of what other might do or say, working for what I want, learning and continuing my education, art, dancing, my career, my daughter, and taking care of whats important to me.
This section is bad, especially the 'self-satisfied' line. Choose one thing that deeply matters to you and talk about it, in detail.


The most important thing I am looking for in a person is: I'm a loyal, caring, fun, and down to earth person. I like to relax, chill, hang out, and sometimes party. I am easy going and a very grateful person. School and my daughter is my number one priority, but I don't mind making room for one more. I'm looking for someone who can be open, and giving.

You made this about you, not your match, and it comes across as self-centered. If you want someone who can be open, that's great. What does that mean to you? Open to new ideas? Open to spur-of-the-moment plans? An open relationship where you both date other people?

• About Me

Basic Information

Occupation: Student/ Bank Specialist Age 21 Height 5' 4" Wants Kids: Yes Kids at Home: Yes
Ethnicity African-American Religion: Spiritual, but not religious Drinks: About once a week Smokes: Never

In my own words

The most influential person in my life has been:

I influence myself. I see what I do bad, ugly, and good. Then I learn from it.

I would immediately close anyone with this statement in their profile. It sounds as if you think you are better than everyone else; no other person in your life has had any influence on you.

The three things which I am most thankful for:

• I am most thankful for my mother and father because they are the only two people who are always standing behind me to catch me when I fall.
• I am most thankful for my healthy baby girl who is my guide to a better future and the caffeine in my Red Bull.
• I am most thankful for my beauty,nice body,good health, smile, and smarts.

Remove 'the only' from the first one, sounds self-pitying. Don't throw Red Bull in there with your daughter. Red Bull is not THAT important.
Lose the last sentence entirely - it is vain.

Three of my best life-skills are:

• Maintaining an organized life
• Making improvements and repairs around the house
• Achieving personal goals

The things I can't live without are:

• Books
• Internet
• Someone to talk to
• nice clothes
• My family

These are boring. Books, family and internet are okay if you give us some detail and make it personal. 'Nice clothes' just adds more weight to the 'pretty princess' image you have created so far. 'Someone to talk to' is vague - do you mean a friend? A partner? A shrink?
The first thing people notice about me:

The first thing people notice about me is my in-dependency. I have held a job since I was thirteen and I always work for what I want. When people hear about me doing this and that they say, " Your such a good kid, your mother must be proud to raise such a independent woman."
In-dependency is not a word. And it is 'you're', not 'your'. I don't care for this section because you are just boasting.

My interests

I typically spend my leisure time:

I love to draw, paint, sculpt, and create. I love to go dancing at clubs in Miami, and I love to read.
This section should be used to describe your activites in such a way that a match will think "She sounds like fun! I would love to go do that with her!"

The last book I read and enjoyed:

Dutch III and it was great. I can't say what it was about because I would be re-writing the book lol.
Indicate book titles with quotation markes or italics; lose the 'lol'. If the book is so great you need to tell us something - was it action filled? Romantic? Did you learn something?


According to my friends:

My friends describe me as:

• Creative
• Easy-Going
• Affectionate
• Hard Working