rocker21 is offline rocker21 Post #1  August 10,2011, 4:57pm
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So, I came across a profile today that sparked my attention to some extent. I initiated communication with the girl and left it at that. Well, she responded. However, she responded with an icebreaker along the lines of "Your profile brought a smile to my face" or something like that and did not respond to my questions.

I'm a little perplexed because generally if I initiate communication with someone and they are interested, they respond to my first set of questions. If they are NOT interested, they simply don't respond at all. Why would you respond with an icebreaker? I read the rest of her profile. It's completely filled out with numerous pictures. Not once does it mention that she is a non paying member. Anyone ever come across this before or any ideas? It's really not a big deal. However, it is just a little odd as I have never come across this before.
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rocker21 wrote :
So, I came across a profile today that sparked my attention to some extent. I initiated communication with the girl and left it at that. Well, she responded. However, she responded with an icebreaker along the lines of "Your profile brought a smile to my face" or something like that and did not respond to my questions.
I am sorry, but she didn't really mean to send the "Smile" IceBreaker.

Go and look where that button is placed on your Profile.
It is right below your Photos.

She REALLY intended to view your Photos, but pushed the wrong button.

eHarmony:
Are you paying attention to me yet about this button placement??
The button is poorly placed, and you are causing confusion with MANY people still!
 
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rocker21 wrote :
I read the rest of her profile. It's completely filled out with numerous pictures. Not once does it mention that she is a non paying member. Anyone ever come across this before or any ideas?
I agree that a sparsely filled out profile and/or no photos usually means a NPM (or possibly a brand new member, which is why I always archive those first).

However, a completely filled out profile and several photos does not mean a paying member.My paid subscription ended in May, but why would I remove all the text and photos from my profile? I still have "open" matches, and if I ever re-join with EH, I can always go through those archived matches and see if there's anyone that I want to open communication with. (Yes, matching is off, these were matches that were archived for various reasons but never closed. Incidentally, I have a note on my profile that says that I am not currently a paying member, but will be active for the FCWs).

If this woman doesn't bother to close or respond to your GC request, then this is a little weird. Even as a NPM, you can still close, if you are so inclined.
 
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Even as a NPM, you can still close, if you are so inclined.
You can still close even if you aren't paying? I thought you had to pay in order to close.
 
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ScottK wrote :
I am sorry, but she didn't really mean to send the "Smile" IceBreaker.

Go and look where that button is placed on your Profile.
It is right below your Photos.

She REALLY intended to view your Photos, but pushed the wrong button.

eHarmony:
Are you paying attention to me yet about this button placement??
The button is poorly placed, and you are causing confusion with MANY people still!
I did that once - very embarrassing. I would have preferred to close later, but did it right away instead.
 
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You can still close even if you aren't paying? I thought you had to pay in order to close.
Nope. Free to view your matches, and free to close, apparently.

I don't actively close matches as a NPM (since I can't even view photos) but I will go through the Archive folder periodically and hit Close on any where I have that orange button that indicates the match has already closed me.
 
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rocker21 wrote :
So, I came across a profile today that sparked my attention to some extent. I initiated communication with the girl and left it at that. Well, she responded. However, she responded with an icebreaker along the lines of "Your profile brought a smile to my face" or something like that and did not respond to my questions.

I'm a little perplexed because generally if I initiate communication with someone and they are interested, they respond to my first set of questions. If they are NOT interested, they simply don't respond at all. Why would you respond with an icebreaker? I read the rest of her profile. It's completely filled out with numerous pictures. Not once does it mention that she is a non paying member. Anyone ever come across this before or any ideas? It's really not a big deal. However, it is just a little odd as I have never come across this before.
She could be very busy right now, and will get to your first questions this weekend. OR...

She could be a NPM, but is considering joining eH soon. In this case, her IB is trying to keep you from getting impatient or closing her. (She may have even seen your profile photo and is attracted to you. As a NPM about a month ago, I was able to see the main profile pic of my initial matches by uploading one of my pics. That's what got me to pay to communicate). Give her some time.

Just archive her, but not close her. Wait until after no response during a Free Communication Weekend (there may be one in a couple of weeks during Labor Day weekend).
 
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Just archive her, but not close her. .
He can't archive her since he started GC..
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
He can't archive her since he started GC..
No worries. This match will keep getting pushed down the list as others communicate. No need to close the match just yet until after the next FCW or later.
 
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ScottK wrote :
I am sorry, but she didn't really mean to send the "Smile" IceBreaker.

Go and look where that button is placed on your Profile.
It is right below your Photos.

She REALLY intended to view your Photos, but pushed the wrong button.

eHarmony:
Are you paying attention to me yet about this button placement??
The button is poorly placed, and you are causing confusion with MANY people still!

eHarmony subscribers also deal with a shifting screen. After opening a folder, either click within a split second OR wait a second or two for the screen to shift before doing any clicking. Everything is pushed down as a banner promo for a eHamony membership renewal appears (on my screen). This can cause (purposefully?) a user to click on renewing your membership or click on someone else's profile you didn't want to view. Luckily renewing a membership takes several clicks to charge your card.
 
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