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If you see a red flag during the one of the communication stages, do you close the match right away? Alternately, you could wait until open chat and let them know why your not interested. Which would you prefer to be a recipient of?
Close a.s.a.p. if you know you're not interested so as not to waste their time. Why would they care to know the inner workings of the mind of an almost random stranger who has no interest in them? If you feel better writing out the reason, write yourself a short note.
 
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I would rather them close me right away instead of dragging me through the questions and then not communicating what so ever after the 3rd or 4th level.

I would end up nudging them and waiting another week with still no replay. I then close them just to stop the game playing and frustration.
 
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Red Flags are typically things we cannot live with, so closing immediately would be the best option. I've also ran into a couple of red flags during GC. These are things that you really can't read much into other than what is stated, so a close would be in order.

Something I question would be a pink flag.
 
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dowahsippydo wrote :
If you see a red flag during the one of the communication stages, do you close the match right away? Alternately, you could wait until open chat and let them know why your not interested. Which would you prefer to be a recipient of?
Was it one of the multiple choice answers? Sometimes the clicking is off. Once, I typed-out a Choice E answer. Then I clicked out of text area to scroll down. I noticed that it clicked on a letter choice instead of my typed answer. I was lucky to catch that, so now I proof all answers once before sending. Is there a possibility your match mistakenly clicked on the wrong answer? Give a chance for the match to clarify later.

If it's an essay question your match wrote that raised a red flag, then you're so close to Open Communication to ask directly.
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
Red Flags are typically things we cannot live with
That's not the way I usually see the term "red flag" used here and elsewhere. I think you're referring to what is generally called a "dealbreaker". A red flag is just something that is a bit of a warning sign, that might cause me to be a bit more skeptical than usual or to be aware of a potential problem. Further information is then gathered that either supports or refutes the concern.

That's neither here nor there, though, since the OP isn't trying to decide if he's still interested in her. He's saying he has already decided he's not interested, but is wondering whether to continue all the way to OC just to explain his lack of interest.
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More like apple...orange.
 
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