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I have been using eHarmony for a few months (on and off) and I have had zero luck so far. I am starting to get discouraged. How long is it taking you to really connect with someone? Any advice on how I can make this work better for me?
 
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1) Post your profile here for review, following the instructions at the top of the page. You never know when you have somthing in it that is a real deal-breaker, and you can't see it.
2) Pictures. Good. clear. current. photos.
3) Don't wait - initiate.
 
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When you ask "really connect" with someone - do you mean "start going on dates and meeting people" or do you mean "feel that strong emotional/physical/intellectual connection"?
 
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In addition to Red's suggestions, begin a communication with every match whose profile does not have a serious deal-breaker. Most of us express ourselves better in person than we do in writing, so give everyone the benefit of the doubt.
 
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All great advice so far... also consider updating your profile/pictures more frequently as it will place you on the home page of all of your matches (under the heading "Profile Updates" and "Photo Updates"). It should help to increase the number of views of your profile.

Good luck!
 
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ashleycarter62 wrote :
I have been using eHarmony for a few months (on and off) and I have had zero luck so far. I am starting to get discouraged. How long is it taking you to really connect with someone? Any advice on how I can make this work better for me?
Not sure exactly what you are asking for here. For me it was 7 1/2 months to get the first response from a match. Ten months before I got a match that would agree to a first date. To really connect I guess the answer has to be never, or if you are just talking about eHarmony then not in over 3 years. Well I connected with 3 eHarmony matches but it takes two to tango and they did not feel the same connection.

Advice for you, well Red had some suggestions. Mine would be that you can choose to give up or keep at it. Me I gave up.
 
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Stop being so picky....start going for people you usually wouldn't go for. Expand your pool.
 
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