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nick222 is offline nick222 Post #31  August 10,2011, 10:49am
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nightling wrote :
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I have at times wondered if this question isn't the guys' idea of some sort of proxy question on bedroom antics.
Ha. Well, for what it's worth, I was often asked that question by women on eH, and was equally perplexed and curious by it. I would usually answer by saying I was looking for an equal partner, rather than a dom/sub relationship, and would occasionally make a bedroom joke. Most responded well to it.
 
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CurbedMyEnthusiasm wrote :
You have to write your own answer in the proper context.

I don't user or like this question, but it certainly has multiple meanings. To me, it's that most guys don't want to be responsible for all the fun/excitement/entertaining in a relationship. We don't want someone whom when we ask "what do you want to do" the response is always "I don't know" or where you want to go for dinner and it's always "I don't care".
This could be too. I wrote that I tend to get along with people because I can shift my style depending on how they wish to be treated.

Thinking about your response here, that may not have been the best explanation I could give. I don't have a problem saying what I want to do or what I prefer.

I think I was confused because I don't consider myself dominant or submissive. I'm just ordinarily assertive.
 
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Ha. Well, for what it's worth, I was often asked that question by women on eH, and was equally perplexed and curious by it. I would usually answer by saying I was looking for an equal partner, rather than a dom/sub relationship, and would occasionally make a bedroom joke. Most responded well to it.
I'm trying to think of a bedroom joke that wouldn't get me into too much trouble.

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nightling wrote :
I think I was confused because I don't consider myself dominant or submissive. I'm just ordinarily assertive.
On the other hand, given the rather scientific nature of the GC questions, the choice of the words dominant & submissive probably does suggest an unmistakable intent behind the question. But the choices, as well as offering your own, are somewhat of a cop-out that I feel makes it a weak question.
 
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What if I just say, I don't consider myself either one. I'm just ordinarily assertive. If you meant something else with this question, then I am still assertive, but I prefer guys who like to do the driving ...

Or will that get me in too much trouble right away ...
 
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nightling wrote :
What if I just say, I don't consider myself either one. I'm just ordinarily assertive. If you meant something else with this question, then I am still assertive, but I prefer guys who like to do the driving ...

Or will that get me in too much trouble right away ...
LOL - and I have used the phrase "I am looking for a man who knows how to lead.....and if you like to dance, that's great, too."
 
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