Lots of active matches, very few views... why?

OK. That would make sense (at least from what I can understand of the eH lingo!). So essentially you think have viewed me, but did so directly from the communication and so it hasn't registered as a view. And then they have archived me (either because they are not interested, think I am NPM or both) and have not closed the match?

If that is the case then is it poor etiquette for me to send those guys the 1st questions, even though they have not responded to my IB? I guess I don't have much to lose but also don't want to break some unwritten eH rule

BTW - What does 'grandfathered' mean?

If that is the case then is it poor etiquette for me to send those guys the 1st questions, even though they have not responded to my IB? I guess I don't have much to lose but also don't want to break some unwritten eH rule...

Hmmm - I wish I had known all of these subtleties when I first signed up.

BTW - What does 'grandfathered' mean?

You have mentioned this before. I joined (as a paying member) in January 2008. When the Anonymous View setting was removed it was removed for me also. So I don't know how "old" of a member you would have to be to be "grandfathered" into a feature. When I first joined there was not even a Who's Viewed Me at all.

While there has in the past been a period of time during the rollout of a new feature when new members had a feature (or downgrade) and older members did not. However, as far as I know there are NO features available to long time members from times gone by that are not available to everyone.

Hi,

I joined e-harmony as a paying member a couple of weeks ago, and am trying to puzzle something out. Here's the thing:

1) I get about 7-8 new matches a day
This is normal. The number of matches you get each day is limited so that you have time to look at each one and either communicate or close.
2) I have sent icebreakers to about 4 matches who I'd like to communicate with.
IceBreakers are widely viewed as an indication that the person is a non-paying member. Most people won't respond to an IceBreaker and many close if they receive one. FWIW I do respond to IceBreakers and I have also never had a match that sent one to ever respond. Just send First Questions!!!
3) All of those matches are active very recently (today/yesterday). At the risk of being considered a stalker I've checked these matches once or twice since that initial communication and yes, it still says they are active today/yesterday. So we're not talking about 'dead' matches here.
See below for comment.
4) NONE of them have even viewed me.
Just as you are getting 7 or 8 new matches each day, your matches are also getting new matches. They may also have begun communicating with several other matches and while they may have some interest in you they are busy with other matches that are ahead of you in their queue.

I don't get it?!

I understand that they might all be non-paying members and therefore unable to respond to my communication and see a photo of me. I also understand that if they are paying members they might not want to respond to me (mind you, none of them have closed me either).

But I just don't get why these active members who I have contacted haven't even viewed me? None of them?

So I am left wondering:
1) Is the view counter dodgy? (I only get 1, maybe 2 views a day)
There is no indication (as a long time member) that there is anything wrong with the Who's Viewed Me. (Additional comments below.)
2) Do non-members not appear in the view counter and so they might be viewing me and I just don't know it?
Non-paying members also show up in the Who's Viewed Me.

I'm confused and (as you can probably tell) somewhat frustrated

Well I would consider 3 years to be a long time...

Anyways Nightling just posted yesterday she still has this feature. I had it up until xmas, when I unchecked it, the next day it was gone for good..

If you weren't using it when eH decided to remove it, then they took it away.. seems only the people that were actually using it...got to keep it..

Samething happened when the photo controls were removed. I had for about year after they stopped offering it, then they finally removed it all together..

About the Who's Viewed Me. It has been said that if you go to a matches profile by clicking on the communication button by their name that it will not show up as a view. I don't know if this is true or not. If it is true then this would be a problem with how the Who's Viewed Me works IMO. However, in order to read an IceBreaker you don't even need to go to the matches profile.