texasgal7611 is offline texasgal7611 Post #1  August 7,2011, 7:51pm
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Have any of y'all viewed a match multiple times over the course of a week or two before sending your first OC note to him or her? I have one match right now whose profile I found very interesting and he is the one who initiated communication. We are at the point where it is his turn to communicate -- this time it is OC -- but he has yet to do so.

He has viewed me several times a day each day and I don't know if I am to take that as a sign of lukewarm/fading interest or if he is just trying to compose a well-thought-out first OC letter.
 
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if you have started communication but he's now stalling but viewing you each day I'd give it a week and then if you have other better options, close him.
 
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Yep.. he's either trying to wordsmith the perfect email, or has no clue he has to send the 1st OC message.

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Have any of y'all viewed a match multiple times over the course of a week or two before sending your first OC note to him or her?
Nope.. either it's same day or the next
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I'm with Trek on this one..
He might be trying to figure out what he should say to you..it can be lot of pressure for certain people.
Also, if the exchange goes well, he has to think about meeting you soon..
This is where it stalls, for some.
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texasgal7611 wrote :
Have any of y'all viewed a match multiple times over the course of a week or two before sending your first OC note to him or her? I have one match right now whose profile I found very interesting and he is the one who initiated communication. We are at the point where it is his turn to communicate -- this time it is OC -- but he has yet to do so.

He has viewed me several times a day each day and I don't know if I am to take that as a sign of lukewarm/fading interest or if he is just trying to compose a well-thought-out first OC letter.
Yep. Or it could be that his subscription expired and he is trying to decide if he want to pay more money to get into OC with you and there be no spark.
 
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texasgal7611 wrote :
Have any of y'all viewed a match multiple times over the course of a week or two before sending your first OC note to him or her?
Some things to think over:

How long did it take for you him to reply to your three essay questions?

Were they were well-thought out, or look like they could've been recycled?

Did you write something in your essay replies that made him lukewarm? (controversial, needy, desperate, weird, or somewhat overbearing)

The possibilities are endless for you to worry about it. He's missing out on communicating with you and not the other way around.
 
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mitchell175 is offline mitchell175 Post #7  August 8,2011, 1:25pm
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And, of course, there's always the whole "EH is very glitchy..." thing. We've all heard the stories of "There's no close button!" or "My match never viewed me but sent first questions!" or "Why can't I send my MHCS?"

Perhaps a quick phone call to Customer Care can be of service here, if they can view his end of the match to see if everything is in order?
 
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I always get a kick from reading all the excuses you guys try to come up with for why people aren't responding.

Think about this one people. Open communication takes more effort then GC. Therefore people who aren't all that interested will usually put off replying because they simply aren't interested enough to put in the effort.

It is the same reason why people stop responding at stage three so often. Because stage three is the first point where people have to start putting in any real effort.
 
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I always get a kick from reading all the excuses you guys try to come up with for why people aren't responding.

Think about this one people. Open communication takes more effort then GC. Therefore people who aren't all that interested will usually put off replying because they simply aren't interested enough to put in the effort.

It is the same reason why people stop responding at stage three so often. Because stage three is the first point where people have to start putting in any real effort.
This is true, except.... if these non-responders are so "not interested" - why keep viewing the profile? If they were really not interested, they would close - or at least stop viewing the profile.
 
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mitchell175 wrote :
This is true, except.... if these non-responders are so "not interested" - why keep viewing the profile? If they were really not interested, they would close - or at least stop viewing the profile.
Most people don't continuously look at profiles/pictures when they are not interested. However if you notice the OP is only talking about one particular individual (not a group of ten or something). He's probably just one of those that likes looking at all the pics of his matches. In anycase (since he already is a member) if he wanted to respond he would found a way to do it by now. Anyone who is smart enough to know how to finish those questionares at the beginning is smart enough to know how to respond to someone.
 
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