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Boukworm is offline Boukworm Post #1  August 4,2011, 5:12am
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Just curious: How do you usually contact people - "Smile", send Icebreaker or send 5 questions? And how do you prefer to be contacted - does it even matter? Thanks!
 
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does it even matter?
On eH it does.. smiles or icebreakers could mean you're a non-paying member...

On other sites.. winks are annoying..
 
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I'd send the GC questions.
 
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Just curious: How do you usually contact people - "Smile", send Icebreaker or send 5 questions? And how do you prefer to be contacted - does it even matter? Thanks!
On an 'iffy' match (meaning she has weak content or limited writing in her profile essays), I send the ice breaker that says "Let's try guided communication."

I do this so she will initiate guided communication. Why? Whoever initiates GC will be the first one to have to answer those three essay questions. I'd rather read her replies first before investing in the time to write out my three essays back to her (I don't copy and paste like most - I tailor my essays especially for that match). If she replies with solid or strong essays, then I know I am not wasting my time. I consider writing well to be one attractive trait in I'm looking for in a match.

As others have said, an ice breaker is a potential sign of a non-member. However, I have Rely ID, plenty of photos (with captions mentioning 'Taken August 2011'), and strong essays. If she doesn't reply, then I don't feel I've missed out on someone with a weak profile.
 
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I would not bother with an icebreaker, if you are interested then start the GC process.
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
On eH it does.. smiles or icebreakers could mean you're a non-paying member...

On other sites.. winks are annoying..
That is the automatic assumption around here, because icebreakers are the only way a non-subscriber can communicate. Don't do it.
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
On eH it does.. smiles or icebreakers could mean you're a non-paying member...

On other sites.. winks are annoying..
On the other paying sites too.
 
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Send First Questions. This indicates you are a paying member. Non-paying members can send IceBreakers and Smiles.

I have had matches indicate in their profile that they won't respond to IceBreakers and many people will just close if they receive an IceBreaker.
 
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On EH, always start with the 5 questions, as others have said.

On other sites, a wink is not necessarily a total loss. It may get a response if the receiver sees something of interest in the profile. Otherwise, it's just a shot in the dark. A short message is more effective.
 
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GC will be much more fruitful than an icebreaker.
 
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