POSTING FOR FEEDBACK ON MY PROFILE

Thanks for your feedback--maybe the tent-camping is scaring people off, LOL!

The one thing I am most passionate about:
I try to get the most out of each day. Being happy-- and the happiness of my loved ones-- is paramount. I like being around people who can contribute to that. And I want to contribute to their happiness, too.


"Get the most" is too close to the trite, massively overused "live life to the fullest" (which virtually no one does.)

Other than that, this is lacking in specifics or examples - some basis for understanding how you actually live, or how I would be impacted by you in my life.

If's not nearly a dear-breaker, and not a priority for changing, though.


The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Good character. Calm, even-tempered, easy-going. I can be a little on the high-energy, "Type A" personality side of things--I think it's incurable.... So it's definitely better if any match of mine is pretty laid-back. (That's the kind of person who tends to appreciate me anyway, and vice versa.) A little balance there is a good thing!


Okay.


Occupation: recruiter for a non-profit--human resources
Age 46
Height 5' 6"
Wants Kids: No
Kids at Home: Yes
Ethnicity White, non-Hispanic
Religion: Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks: A few times a year
Smokes: Never

In my own wordsThe most influential person in my life has been:
I guess I'm not very easily influenced, because I can't think of anyone!


Not being easily influenced is a favorable trait, but this is skipping the question - and that seems lazy and unmotivated.

I would also get rid of the exclamation points (any faulty grammar or distracting writing should go.)


The three things which I am most thankful for:
•my family
•good health
•lots of little things every day

Three of my best life-skills are:
•Achieving personal goals
•Continuing to expand my knowledge and awareness
•Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
That I'm easy to please. Life is so much nicer that way!


I would not write this.

Suggesting that people don't notice you're easy to please implies that people do notice you're hard to please - demanding, nagging, complaining, nit-picking ...


The things I can't live without are:
my 2 kids, all grown up (sad!)
Starbucks and barbequed burgers--(separately)
sun (my dermatologist dislikes my freckles!)
a computer.
workout dvd's

The first thing people notice about me:
During the spring and summer, probably my freckles. People also tell me that I have a nice smile.


I believe the question is "other than your appearance."

Never write "people say" or "I've been told." The people I met who used this phrasing proved to be overstating the claim.


Some additional information I want you to know:
I like to have some of my own hobbies, and hope you have your own, too! But some things I'm hoping to share with someone special: weekend trips, including camping (yes, in a tent; not fake RV "camping"); going to movies, restaurants, museums.... Plus, I might share a couple of your interests, if I like them!


I would rewrite this. Your choices are probably okay (not appealing to me, though), but the attitude that your interests count and your partner's do not is a disaster - I would close for that.


I typically spend my leisure time:
Taking classes, working out, art, hanging out with people, traveling to "hot spots" within Washington state, and renovating my house.


Okay, but too bland and oversimplified.

I would give some details: where, how often ... give me some sense of how I would fit in your life.


The last book I read and enjoyed:
I'm working my way through a stack of about 30 books. Right now I'm in the middle of "The Authentic Heart," by John Amadeo. It's a spiritual "journey through midlife." It's one of those psychology books that's full of "aha" moments. It takes about a year to get through, though, because you have to re-read so many passages to take it in fully.

My friends describe me as:
Funny
Creative
Perceptive
Energetic

My reactions are in blue text. Red highlight I applied to your text is something which makes me especially likely to close; green highlight is something which makes me especially inclined to write.

Keep in mind that a large percentage of matches are abandoned profiles, or non-paying members, and will not write or reply for that reason.

Matches who view and don't write, or close you, are the ones to be more concerned over - especially those who were active during a free weekend.




For me, you've left too many questions unanswered, or with answers lacking in useful information (or which adequately reply to the question asked.) This is even more of a red-flag than usual, given your occupation, too.

In general, I do communication to sparse profiles when they are local (I know it's hard to write, and not everyone is creative; some people are also new, and lack experience.) I always had few matches, though, and if I had more matches, I expect I'd be even quicker to close the sparse, evasive, or non-germane answers.

To me, the leisure phrasing needs improvement (and I don't favor the choices, either.)

You do seem free from baggage, and the profile is better than the average I got.

Heh. Well, if it is, it's only scaring off the people who you wouldn't enjoy going tent-camping with, right? So that's a good thing!

Actually, thinking about it, there was one thing in your profile that didn't quite "click" right: you say you're somewhat of a "Type A" personality at times, yet the overall impression I got from your profile is of a rather laid-back, easygoing, and very tolerant person. On the surface, it's hard to square those two things; but maybe that's just me.

No, that's good information. I guess the Type A thing was overstated. Maybe even inaccurate. I think I'll take it out, since that probably wouldn't be everyone's perception anyway.

(I should probably have someone else write my profile, since I find it so hard to peg myself!)

I try to get the most out of each day. Being happy-- and the happiness of my loved ones-- is paramount. I like being around people who can contribute to that. And I want to contribute to their happiness, too.

Good character. Calm, even-tempered, easy-going. I can be a little on the high-energy, "Type A" personality side of things--I think it's incurable.... So it's definitely better if any match of mine is pretty laid-back. (That's the kind of person who tends to appreciate me anyway, and vice versa.) A little balance there is a good thing!