why men look but don't contact

Shapeshifter. Sounds like I'm in everyone's "wait and see" pile. So, what are you "waiting" for-- the generic, boring girl to contact you, LOL?

Just to toss my 2 cents in...

I can't speak for all guys, but generally, if we are interested, we will contact right away.

Sending the first 5 questions is so simple, that it makes no sense not to send them right away.
If you are getting a lot of guys not initiating contact, and yet, not Closing, then they are either not a paying member (yet), or for whatever reason, you have been marked as a "Maybe" in their minds.

PS:
Also remember, Closing is more difficult now, because of the Archive option.
Most people won't Close, because they think "Archiving" is a Close.
The problem is, YOU don't get notified of the Archive like you do when you get Closed.
Thus, you could have been Archived by all those guys, and you won't know it.

This is why us guys have a bit of an advantage here.

Since we typically initiate contact, and because once communication has started the Archive option goes away, it forces the gal to respond, ignore or Close. They can't hide behind the Archive anymore.

PPS: Cats rock and I love em!
I pretty much initiate contact to nearly every gal that I get that has a cat.
You definitely don't need to NOT mention your cat in your Profile, just don't go on and on about your cat.
Mention the cat once, and maybe have a pic of you and your cat, and that is fine.

I am really confused about this dating site. I am in my 40's, and have been on and off this site for a few months. I've posted very, very good pictures of myself in which there is no denying I'm very pretty. I've posted full body shots so it is clear I am in good shape and not overweight. Yet men view my profile all the time and then don't initiate any contact! Every once in a while someone sends me questions, but not usually. They don't close me, except very rarely--usually when I've been matched with someone younger than me. But the guys in their 50's, who I would be willing to date, don't contact me! I was careful in my profile to be upbeat, say I'm easy to please, and nothing about cats. No mention of cats anywhere in my profile or pictures. I can't imagine I'm supposed to be contacting THEM! What gives?

About 90% of your matches are going to be non-paying members. Either that or there are a LOT of rude people on eHarmony. I choose to believe that most people are good.

I see much, much more than 10% of my matches responding to me, so this may vary somewhat by area or profile.

So I'm back to square one! Not knowing why so many matches view but don't contact me.

And to add more drama to the situation, my address is near the Canadian border, so I mostly get matched with Canadians. There's probably a bunch of anti-American sentiment I don't even know about!

This may have nothing to do with profiles, or cats, but just be about plain old Canada-US relations. Which is beyond my scope to help, even with a good profile. AAARGH!

Anyway, one of the most curious dysfunctions I experienced was that after I initiated they'd view me but neither reply nor close me, and they'd continue to do so daily until I closed them, and then they'd continue to do so for several more days after I closed them, then finally about half would close me and the rest stopped viewing me. Another is that they wouldn't view my profile until after I closed them; I'd initiate, then days/week would go by with nothing, then I'd close them, then they'd view me every day or almost every day for several days/week. (Hey, maybe my matches were on the same dope as the eH matching system! )