lissie73 is offline lissie73 Post #1  July 23,2011, 3:53pm
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I am confused by the men in this site. I am a great person, told I'm attractive and fun to be around. I have sent a wink or email to some if my daily or mutual matches and have rarely gotten a response. Is it wrong for me to initiate contact? Not sure what the oribkem is, I understand not everyone will truely be a match but this is getting tiring. Any advice?
 
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Sorry should be what the problem is, typo wasn't caught
 
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I don't think everyone or the majority of people on Eharmony are subscribers, so I wouldn't take it personal if someone doesn't respond right away. They may be waiting for a free weekend. I'd only worry if a large chunk of folks closed you out every day. If that happened I'd tell you to check your profile to see if you were representing what you wanted to accurately.
 
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It sounds like you're talking about Match rather than eHarmony, is that right?

But in either case ...
- a lot of matches are not active, for whatever reason
- it's possible there's something in your profile that's off-putting, even though it seems good to you
- some members on eH don't respond to "icebreakers" ... that might be true on Match also, I don't know
- maybe your photos are not good shots? or there aren't enough of them?
 
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lissie73 wrote :
I have sent a wink or email to some if my daily or mutual matches and have rarely gotten a response . . . Not sure what the problem is . . . Any advice?
The second half of the problem is you; if you're a paid subscriber then why are you "winking" instead of sending first questions? You pay your hard-earned fiat currency to actually use eH, but then sit by your computer hoping for the best? (Women! )

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Is it wrong for me to initiate contact?
Read this thread: (Let the man initiate conversation??)Let the man initiate conversation??

The first half of the problem is that most of your matches are not paid subscribers and thus cannot contact you, or view your photos. Based upon my eH experience, I confidently guesstimate that at least 85% of my matches were either not paid subscribers or abandoned ("zombie") profiles.
 
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