Should I put I am looking for a serious relationship in my about me?

Actually I'm not really interested in "horn dogs" sowing their wild oats or whatever, so I'm happy to weed them out.

So I recently added something in my EH profile about being at the right time in my life to settle down (with caveats such as when meet the right person, etc). I did this because well I'm only on here for 2 more months (giving up on online dating after that) so thought I'd try this idea out. I didn't want to put anything negative in my profile so thought I'd just say what I'm actually looking for and let that act as a filter.

Funny thing I got men contacting me after I made my change and since that change I've had to turn off my matches to deal with them. I'm 29 and the men are aged 29-40. My desired age range is 29-37 so a couple are flex matches on age but I'm trying to keep an open mind since they're only a couple years older and look young in the pictures (maybe they're old pics who knows?). All but one are never married (my preference) and all lead active healthy lifestyles and have stable careers which I'm looking for too. They are all average in looks (no hot/hots) which is fine too.

All the men have decent profiles/pics although one is suspect as he seems like a playboy jet setter type (not sure if he's for real even or why he's contacting me if he's a player?).

In the section to post more about me a friend suggested that I put something like “ While I want to take my time to get to know someone; I am looking for a serious relationship, and see myself getting married in the next 5years.”

BTW, I am a woman 42.

I am just generally having a hard time deciding on what I should put in that section. I appreciate all suggestions!

Thinking about if I read that sort of thing in a guy's profile, I'd think that he was tired of being alone and ready to settle for the first thing that came down the pike. And I am looking for someone to fall in love with me for who I am, not just the fact that I am a female. I'd respect him less for being so seemingly desperate and also lacking in social skills required to present himself in a flattering light. And I'd feel like dating him would be a sticky process and he'd be hard to get rid of if I did not want to be Mrs. Anyfemalebodywilldo. Not sure if guys look at things the same way.

The purpose is to let guys know I am looking for a serious relationship and marriage if the right guy comes along. I certainly am not looking for the first guy to ask... I am not dating just for fun or FWB.

Thanks for your point of view! I wanted honest opinions. Good, bad and not so pretty.

....I think you should rather word it as "if I were to meet the right guy, I can see myself in a great relationship with him" or something along those lines.

telling your girlfriends that you hope to get married in 5 years on a 'friends' site is fine. on a dating site a man reading your profile for the first time isn't expecting to see comments about marriage or sex or anything else which is too much information too soon.[/quote]

Good point. Would you put anything regarding a serious relationship? I know I am going to get all kinds, but it could help some men know right away, I am not a match.

you could put something in your profile like "I'm not looking for casual dating" but really I think you should do the filtering during the email stage and during the first time you meet someone. it's easier to detect a genuine person when you are communicating or looking into their eyes.