active today, yesterday, etc.

I just recently signed back on to eH to give it one more go -- I know, I must be a glutton for punishment -- and have discovered eH has added a feature that shows when matches were last active.

I log into eH once a day to check my matches and respond to any with whom I am communicating. I believe in responding in a timely manner and try to make the time to do so, despite having a busy schedule. Also, logging in once a day allows me to keep my inbox and archive sections from getting too cluttered.

Some of the matches who initiated communication with me have suddenly gone silent. Some are in OC and I understand that it takes longer to communicate that way since writing a note takes more time, thought and effort. Others however, have been active each day for a week or more, yet haven't responded back to the first round of questions or the MH/CS in GC.
I see three choices 1) They are non-paying members, 2) They are just plain rude. 3) The Active Within feature does not really work.

You can take your choice of which it is.


Some have even viewed me each day, yet won't respond back. I guess I just find that a little rude for someone to initiate communication, but then not follow through. If they have time to log in every day and/or view me every day, then they should have time to respond.

The other funny thing I have noticed is that almost as soon as I close a non-responsive match (a week or more with no response or communication), they "suddenly" become interested and decide to view my profile. What's up with that?
There is problems with how the Who's Viewed Me works and it seems that eHarmony is not interested in fixing it. But if you close a match, while they could just ignore you in their folders they likely will take some action and also close you. I would usually look at the person's profile to see who it was that had closed me. Therefore it shows up as a view to them. Also if you go and look at a match that is closed on both sides that will show up as a view.

Sadly, this seems to be more the norm than the exception. I've found this "online matching" stuff requires a thick skin. REALLY thick.

Most of these are guys who are paid subscribers -- they have already initiated communication with me, but we haven't made it past the first round or past the MH/CS section (I will have replied back with my MH/CS but they have not). A week or more will go by and it will show they have been active each of those days and/or have viewed me each of those days. While a view may or may not indicate interest, I say if it doesn't, then they should close the match instead of repeatedly viewing. And if they have time to log in or be "active" each day, then they ought to have time to respond back. Multiple views/active days with no response suggests a lack of interest. And yes, I am keeping my eyes open to all potential matches, not just fixating on these in particular. Still doesn't make them any less rude, though.

I guess I expect too much as far as common courtesy goes. I paid for a subscription and am not going to let it go to waste by not being responsive. If I am not interested in a match, I close. Simple as that. Just don't know why others don't do the same.