Do women CLOSE matches if not interested in Guided Communication?

I close men who contact me who I'm not interested in or I respond to their GC (I don't like to leave people hanging).
I feel it's the polite and considerate thing to do and appreciate the same in return from men who aren't interested in me.

OK. I think I understand now: Maybe it's like being shot down in person while trying to ask a woman I've just met for her cell number? She may politely communicate not interested. However, they never laugh or make rude comments or expressions to me. So, maybe NOT CLOSING me is the online equivalent of: 'not interested but I'm not going to make you feel bad for trying.'

Brilliant analysis. I guess I'm not even worth a second click to CLOSE me. Maybe I'm just the typical 'nice guy' not worthy of her time (even though I feel we're in the same league). My profile would probably need to be vile, hateful and shockingly-bizzare to justify a CLOSE click.

Also, I think women still aren't sold on the 29 dimensions of compatiblity aspect (instead they are drawn to the eHarmony brand name ). And so, they'd be just as likely to consider a random handsome man they meet out in the public vs. sticking with eHarmony matches. It's a global market place, as it should be.

Finally, women probably get a Communication request from every active/paid match. I guess my only hope is that she has a suddenly moment of clarity and looks for me in her clogged Communicating section. ("Yeah, right!" he said sarcastically). Until then, I will let go and move on...

Thanks for your feedback!

Seems like anyone that I have initiated communication, it's dragged out over weeks. I have one man who I sent questions to. After 7 days I have to send the dreaded nudge and wait. He's on daily A few days later he answered. It was my turn and I replied. I'm again waiting. It'll be another bloody week to get the nudge option. This has happened to all the matches that actually answered my communication. I don't get many matches so I'm batting a thousand. I have also stopped logging on to my account because if I do get any response, my phone will let me know. I'm tired of seeing the guys I'm in communication active daily and not closing me or not answering in some timely manner. I fell like this is just a game. they must have quite a few matches that's keeping them busy or I'm just the back-up girl. lol

Yikes on the bolded parts above....You are assigning WAY too much meaning to a simple act...or lack there of by a complete stranger...

You are also letting a complete stranger dictate your own worthiness....

This is where I think a lot of people go wrong in online dating...You are presuming too much, based on your own past experiences...and hurts with the last woman who broke your heart...(I see women do this on here too)...

Not everyone is a match...plain and simple...there is no reason to take this personally at all...They are not rejecting you...You are not your profile and some written words....they know nothing about who you truly are....You all may match by EH's standards....but just like you aren't attracted to every single female you see....they may not be to your photos...or your profile...even if some of the 29 dimensions match...that doesn't guarantee anything...

EH...just like any other dating site...is just an introduction to someone...

There is absolutely no reason to get even the slightest bit upset, offended, hurt or anything negative just because you aren't a match with someone...

When I use EH...I could not care less about those who close me or not...if we aren't continuing through GC, going to OC and a date....I don't pay one bit of attention...I'm just not there cup of tea...

Even going through GC...at any time...they can change their mind based on any of my answers (I can do this too)...as that is exactly what it's meant to do...help you learn a bit more about each other...And then 'if' we get to OC...even after an email or two...they (or I) may decide that we aren't meant to go on a first date...

Again...I only give time and effort (physically or mentally) to people who are giving me the same in return..It doesn't bother me at all if someone doesn't move forward...Why would I get upset about a perfect stranger deciding not to date me? That just means it wasn't meant to be...

Only concentrate on those who are communicating back with you...and realize some may make it to a first date...others may not...

Don't rely on EH or any other dating site as your sole way of meeting women...Still keep up your social and flirting skills in real life Join groups that do activities that you love like hiking, biking, wine tasting, etc....Or join volunteer organizations where you can potentially meet women who also have a heart for this...Whatever your interests are...

EH is just one 'extra' way to possibly meet someone..It's not magic...

Just relax...enjoy the process...don't take every small thing so personally...and when/if you get to a first date with someone...just go and have FUN!...It's meant to be an enjoyable time to see whether or not you match with someone...If you are a match...great...it will go forward...if not...then on to the next!...

Good luck!

I group them into 3 groups.
NOTE: These groups are ONLY for Active members. I am not considering inactive/non-paying members:

2) They don't Close, because they want to keep you as a back up to their back up to their back up.
Only if their top Matches fall through, will they reconsider you.
When you are here, you aren't even a 2nd or 3rd option to them, because most people have no problems with emailing/chatting with a couple different people.
There used to be a "HOLD" option that indicated this aspect, but it was removed a long time ago, because needless to say, it was rather insulting to be put on to this list, regardless of the "good" intentions some Matches had.