matched with ex-boyfriend - how did this happen?

However he did it, he simply just wanted a reaction out of you..

I simply can't see why he would lie about how he saw it.

if a friend told him about it, he could have said that without confessing to me that he used to be an EH member. because then that started an argument when I realized that meant he was a member the entire time we dated. he could have easily avoided the whole situation by saying a friend was matched with me. his ego would have much preferred that. I remember trying to talk him into dating online the weekend I met him last year, when we were just friends, and he poo-pooed the whole idea.

so still left with the question of how someone who was a non-paying member saw my photos AND saw them without me being matched with them to know that they saw me.

I went back to double check all of my matches, closed and archived and active, and he was NOT among them. not even the ones without pictures. then I thought, what if he used a different name or changed his age by a year or two, not that I think he would, but of the 107 men I've been matched with since I joined two weekends ago, the handful that fit that category all had pictures showing, or were in entirely different cities than me. he'd at least have kept the city name the same. and I have no reason to think he'd change his name or age.

so I have no idea why my ex-bf saw my EH profile and I didn't see that he was matched with me. he said it was just an email they sent out trying to get him to rejoin.

he definitely saw the pictures - he commented that the main photo I use is the same as my facebook pic, and he said "I bet you get a lot of attention from men with all of the cleavage you're showing in some of those other photos." and he commented on one of the pics being one he took of me in may.

so still left with the question of how someone who was a non-paying member saw my photos AND saw them without me being matched with them to know that they saw me.