Ladies: Quick Response time in GC = interest?


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iamsecondjordan is offline iamsecondjordan Post #1  June 29,2011, 8:29am
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Is there any correlation between your response times in the early stages of GC to your interest level in a guy? Or do girls even think about this at all?
 
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I am not your target audience but I don't assign any great deal of correlation between interest and response time.

The caveat is that if the response time is rather long, i.e. several days, then I do get the feeling that they are probably not interested in dating in general. Or possibly they are just too busy to date ... me.
 
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No. The point of GC is just to get to the email, and then on to the date. GC is not "dating", it is just the process of EH. When I was on EH, I always checked my account daily, from viewing my new matches to answering/sending communications to other matches. I couldn't make my matches respond any quicker, but I could send my own replies as soon as I logged in to EH.

For the record, when I was on EH, I would communicate with any match who was "not a No". That is very different than communicating only with the "Yeses".
 
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I would guess it means that she was online. And if she doesn't respond quickly, she wasn't. If she responds at the rate it would take to send a letter to Bali, it's generally safe to guess her interest is lacking.
 
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In my case quick response time in GC can represent interest. But I also tend to mirror the guys response time when it gets to the later stages. For example, I've got one of those matches who is pen pal candidate. He waits 4 days to email and so I do the same. I'm probably going to close him if he doesn't ask to meet by his 3rd email.

In my case, my match's lack of quick response time actually makes me lag my response and lose interest for sure.
 
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Thanks for the responses. It's now been 5 days since I sent her my answers to stage 3 questions after she had been replying to the previous stages in a couple hours. Chances are she's not very interested or there's somebody else out there that caught her eye. Not going to make the same mistake again in assuming that quick replies early on mean anything.
 
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iamsecondjordan wrote :
Thanks for the responses. It's now been 5 days since I sent her my answers to stage 3 questions after she had been replying to the previous stages in a couple hours. Chances are she's not very interested or there's somebody else out there that caught her eye. Not going to make the same mistake again in assuming that quick replies early on mean anything.
1) The first couple of stages are just one click things. There is no thought, just point, click, shoot.

2) the stage 3 questions can take a little longer to answer. I used to read the questions that my match sent to me, then ruminate over what he was trying to learn in asking that question, or what response he was expecting in asking that question, or questioning if that meant that he was not a good match in asking that question... And then I got over myself and started firing back off-the-cuff answers, much like the way I respond to posts here on eHA. When I started doing that, I found that it was much quicker to get into OC and onto the real meat-and-potatoes of this whole process.
 
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an old co worker once told me that women will not waste time on men that they are not interested in. I find that most time if they have good response time you at the very least can get a phone call. However if they take forever it most time its bad news
 
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mitchell175 wrote :
1) The first couple of stages are just one click things. There is no thought, just point, click, shoot.

2) the stage 3 questions can take a little longer to answer. I used to read the questions that my match sent to me, then ruminate over what he was trying to learn in asking that question, or what response he was expecting in asking that question, or questioning if that meant that he was not a good match in asking that question... And then I got over myself and started firing back off-the-cuff answers, much like the way I respond to posts here on eHA. When I started doing that, I found that it was much quicker to get into OC and onto the real meat-and-potatoes of this whole process.
Everyone I've had OC with so far, appreciated the fact that I skipped the questions and moved straight to email. Even after they have sent them to me first. I think Eharmony should just give them (questions) the boot, imo.
 
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