Hmm. I wonder if she just wanted to be the one to hit he close button


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mitchell175 is offline mitchell175 Post #11  June 29,2011, 7:56am
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Or maybe she just decided she didn't enjoy talking to you and would have closed you anyway. Why does this have to be about her "only closing you because she knew you were going to close her"? Is this the third grade playground? Or, what was Pee Wee Herman's catchphrase? "I know you are but what am I?"
 
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I talked to a woman for the first time yesterday and the conversation was deader then a doornail from the very beginning. Didn't surprise me because although she responded very promptly (within hours or even within an hour) her emails often left a lot to be desired (at least compared to what I am used to (the only reason why I did decide to get her number was because she responded so quickly)).

Well after a couple minutes I was ready to hang up and never talk to her again (I just said I'll call you some time again just as a polite way to end it and get off the phone). Well after I said that she apologized and said that she would send me an email tomorrow (which would be today) and that she just wasn't doing real well right now because her friends husband died (which she did mention in one of her emails).

So I didn't go ahead and close her and just waited to see what she would say in the email. Lol, well today she went ahead and closed me.

I wonder if she got a hunch that I was gonna close her after that phone chat (which I would of) and she just wanted to be the one who did the closing.

In anycase this is a very clear reason why I think it is a good idea to talk on the phone before meeting. This way I can find out that this person wasn't really worth meeting before we actually met.
Usually, when you talk on the phone for a while, you can generally gauge interest level and even conversation level.

I wouldn't be surprised if she knew that she was going to be closed. People can usually tell if the other person is interested in them or not.
 
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Or maybe she just decided she didn't enjoy talking to you and would have closed you anyway. Why does this have to be about her "only closing you because she knew you were going to close her"? Is this the third grade playground? Or, what was Pee Wee Herman's catchphrase? "I know you are but what am I?"
Just because you don't like the little mind tricks people play on one another doesn't mean they don't happen and happen often.
 
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Usually, when you talk on the phone for a while, you can generally gauge interest level and even conversation level.

I wouldn't be surprised if she knew that she was going to be closed. People can usually tell if the other person is interested in them or not.
Yep, which made me think that she just used that whole 'email' line to keep me from closing her so she could do it. Just because some people don't like the tricks people tend to play on one another doesn't mean they don't happen all the time.
 
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Yep, which made me think that she just used that whole 'email' line to keep me from closing her so she could do it. Just because some people don't like the tricks people tend to play on one another doesn't mean they don't happen all the time.
Now the key is, and this is very important, is that you need to have a positive, upbeat perspective on what just happened.

Sure, you could be like, "Yeah, she just said that so she could close me." Or, you could be like, "Man, it's a good thing she closed me. Saved me time and effort, which can be better spent finding the right girl."

I was probably closed far more than 99.9% of the people here. But I always had a upbeat, positive attitude about the entire process. That is very important for a multitude of reasons.
 
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I actually wasn't putting much effort into her in the first place. She was just one of three I was talking to at the time. Another one has come along since then and I closed another girl who I had previously talked on the phone with (she was enjoyable to talk to) because of distance (the next time I would of talked to her would of been to set up a meeting and I decided I just didn't want to put forth the effort to travel the distance it would of required).

Unlike a lot of people who talk on here just because I post about something doesn't mean I am fretting over the situation. I simply think it is fun to talk about dating to a deeper degree then you normally do in real life.
 
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I simply think it is fun to talk about dating to a deeper degree then you normally do in real life.
I agree with you.
 
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