At what age do people start lying about their age?


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Apuleuis is offline Apuleuis Post #1  June 28,2011, 5:12am
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I'm 30 and I'm being matched up with guys that are 25-40. As I looked at some of the pictures of guys in their mid-30's, it made me feel really old. I was wondering if I really look that old too! But then my mom told me a story about her friend meeting a guy on here who claimed to be in his 40's and his pictures showed him in his 40's but was really in his 60's. It got me wondering if guys (and I'm sure women too) are already lying about their age at my age.

I'll never understand how someone can think its ok to lie on here if they really are looking for a relationship. But that's a whole different topic.
 
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when they stop being able to get any dates!
 
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It just depends. Some people feel the need to do that and some don't. I think lying about height is even more common then lying about age. Many a times have I met women who said they were 5'4'' and we meet and they seem closer to 5'7'' or 5'8''.

Doesn't mean you can't get along with them. But just like guys don't want to be shorter then a girl a girl often doesn't want to be taller than a guy.
 
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I started lying about my age when I was about 14 or so. I found it was impossible to get guys over 18 to ask me out unless I lied. I kept lying until I didn't need to anymore and that was probably around 17 or so. I've not had a need to since then.
 
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I'm 61 and have never lied about my age, my height, my weight or anything else. Like Popeye, "I yam what I yam."
Lying takes far more mental energy than I have to spare.

If I meet a date who has lied about any aspect of themselves, they immediately go down in my estimation of them.
 
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It wasn't until I'd been trying the whole online dating thing for awhile that I realized that people where lying about their age. It came as a bit of a shock because age didn't seem like anything to really lie about. Why would you be ashamed of your age?

I think women start lying about their age around 30. I think men start lying about their age around 35-40.

It is really hard for me to give people the benefit of the doubt when I look at their photos and say no way is that person 30. But, you have to remember different people age differently.

If a person otherwise looks like a good match, I'd go ahead and meet them up and confirm their age then.
 
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1) I don't lie about my age nor have I ever lied about it.

2) The norm is that women lie about their age to everyone beginning at age 30. The usual response is "30 and holding", even when everyone knows that they are more like 60.

3) I have never asked for proof of any of my match's age nor have any ever asked me to prove my age or anything else.

4) On Match I have gotten a number of matches who stated in their profile text that the age shown on their profile was not correct. They did not bother to say what their actual age was though. Also they always had as one of the most important things they were looking for in a guy was "honesty".

Just an aside that I find interesting. Recently I went to a family reunion. All that is left is cousins and I am by far the youngest. During the discussions about the family we found out that one of the aunts lied about her age for her entire life such that her son and daughters-inlaw don't even know how old she is and the date of birth on her headstone is not even correct.
 
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It is really hard for me to give people the benefit of the doubt when I look at their photos and say no way is that person 30. But, you have to remember different people age differently.
Smoking and sun worship will age you beyond your years.

If a person otherwise looks like a good match, I'd go ahead and meet them up and confirm their age then.
How do you do this? Do you ask for a birth certificate?
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
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Photos can and are often deceptive. Just because I look at a photo and think someone looks too old for their age doesn't mean they will look that old in person.

If I meet in person and still think they look older than stated, I will ask them point blank. Most people will come clean if you look them in the eyes and ask them a question.

I don't usually do well with games and if I want to know something - most of the times I just ask.

As for the aging reasons, yes, those are some reasons for looking older than you are. Drug use, genetics, grooming habits, and personal style will also have an affect.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
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2) The norm is that women lie about their age to everyone beginning at age 30. The usual response is "30 and holding", even when everyone knows that they are more like 60.
Really?? The norm is that women lie about their age?? I don't think so. While I am sure that some women do lie about their age, you are never going to convince me that it is the norm for women to lie about their age.
 
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