ginil2 is offline ginil2 Post #1  June 28,2011, 4:01am
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The one thing I am most passionate about:
Participating in theater, time with friends, cooking, traveling
The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Integrity. I feel that a person needs to make life choices based on core values. Whether the decision turns out to be right or wrong, then there are no regrets.
About Me

Basic Information
Occupation:
Teacher
Age
51
Height
5' 5"
Wants Kids:
No
Kids at Home:
No
Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Neither religious nor spiritual
Drinks:
About once a week
Smokes:
Never

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:
I'd have to say a couple of women friends. My mom is a traditional housewife; terrific, and I love her, but I needed other role models to learn to be independent and to take charge of my life.
The three things which I am most thankful for:
• My family
• Close, dear friends
• The opportunity to express myself creatively
Three of my best life-skills are:
• Making art and culture an ongoing part of my life
• Entertaining in my home
• Maintaining a network of close friends
The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
My sense of humor. I tend to find things funny that many people don't notice.
The things I can't live without are:
• My family
• My friends
• Participating in theater
• Books
• Time to relax
The first thing people notice about me:
I'm often taken for being the person "in charge." People will ask me questions in stores or museums, or even on the street. I think its because I am generally approachable and confident.
Some additional information I want you to know:
This is a new experience for me. I want to really get to know someone, to see if we click, before moving very far forward. My life is pretty good right now; I just would like someone special to share things with.
My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:
Acting in local theater, watching television
The last book I read and enjoyed:
I read A LOT. I am almost exclusively a fiction reader, and tend to read books that are set in a time or place that I am unfamiliar with. A book I recently enjoyed was "The Thousand Autumns of Jacob De Zoet" by David Mitchell.
According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:
• Creative
• Perceptive
• Rational
• Intelligent
 
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KikiAZ is offline KikiAZ Post #2  June 28,2011, 2:32pm
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ginil2 wrote :

Promo photo from a play - 2009

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The one thing I am most passionate about:
Participating in theater, time with friends, cooking, traveling. (PERIOD)

This is more of a laundry list. This is generally accepted to be a very difficult question but that said, nothing about how you have written it screams PASSION!

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Integrity. I feel that a person needs to make life choices based on core values. Whether the decision turns out to be right or wrong, then there are no regrets.
About Me

Basic Information
Occupation:
Teacher might be nice to know subject/age group
Age
51
Height
5' 5"
Wants Kids:
No
Kids at Home:
No
Ethnicity
White, non-Hispanic
Religion:
Neither religious nor spiritual
Drinks:
About once a week
Smokes:
Never

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:
I'd have to say a couple of women friends. My mom is a traditional housewife; terrific, and I love her, but I needed other role models to learn to be independent and to take charge of my life.
This is not bad. I think it would be better without the "not my mom" part. "My friends Jody and Kerry who...." and give an example or two.


The three things which I am most thankful for:
• My family
• Close, dear friends
• The opportunity to express myself creatively
Three of my best life-skills are:
• Making art and culture an ongoing part of my life
• Entertaining in my home
• Maintaining a network of close friends

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:

My sense of humor. I tend to find things funny that many people don't notice.

The things I can't live without are:
• My family
• My friends
• Participating in theater
• Books
• Time to relax

This is a fail. Too bland. Nothing new. We already got books and theatre. You have missed the opportunity to connect with the readers. You want things that make them go "ME TOO" or prompt a question. Sensory language is good. The smell of bacon cooking on Sunday morning. Slipping into a hot bubble bath with a new book. A rousing game of Cranium with....The taste of ....


The first thing people notice about me:
I'm often taken for being the person "in charge." People will ask me questions in stores or museums, or even on the street. I think its because I am generally approachable and confident.


Some additional information I want you to know:

This is a new experience for me. I want to really get to know someone, to see if we click, before moving very far forward. My life is pretty good right now; I just would like someone special to share things with.

Most men will not respond to the beginning of this answer. The beginning is all wiggle words....saying I'm not ready... That isn't to say that you shouldn't be objective and take your time and not get too frisky but this reads: Just testing the waters. Come back later.
My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:
Acting in local theater, watching television

Again, add some specifics. What kind of tv, what kind of food,
what are your favorite plays? Roles?


The last book I read and enjoyed:
I read A LOT. I am almost exclusively a fiction reader, and tend to read books that are set in a time or place that I am unfamiliar with. A book I recently enjoyed was "The Thousand Autumns of Jacob De Zoet" by David Mitchell.
According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:
• Creative
• Perceptive
• Rational
• Intelligent
You have some good stuff. Add some detail and some variety. There doesn't seem to be much activity. Your pics will be key.
 
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nightling is offline nightling Post #3  June 28,2011, 3:24pm
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First, I agree with most of the comments already made by KikiAZ.

I would suggest taking a step back and rethinking your approach to writing this profile however.

First, take a look at 50 or so of the profiles at eHarmony and get a feel for what matches in your age range are looking for. And while you are at it, notice something else. After a while, all these profiles sound distressingly similar. Everyone's loyal and kind. Everyone's living life to the fullest or some version thereof. Everyone wants someone amazing and every other adjective under the sun. blah blah blah It's so boring!

Your goal then is two-fold. First, a profile that is different. And second a profile that illustrates your most attractive qualities to a member of the opposite sex in a way that isn't boring because it doesn't just list a bunch of adjectives, it tells little stories about you.

To do this, take a little time to think on what are the five most attractive traits you possess that make you a great catch to a member of the opposite sex. Then think of some one or two-sentence stories that will illustrate the trait.

For example, kindness: I'm the type of person who checks the meter next to mine and if it's running low I stick another quarter in.

These specifics are really kind of important. We don't really trust what people tell us about themselves, and saying you are great or whatever just tends to make you seem either conceited or out of touch with reality. But we will believe what we ourselves conclude about a person, so examples illustrating who you are will allow the match to say, "Aha! A kind person!"

Weave your little stories into your answers to the eHarmony profile here and there as they seem most appropriate. Use transition words, like but, although, however to segway from answering the question to the new information. People will generally be forgiving of this.

If you happen to generate more stories than you need for the profile, save them to sprinkle into the guided communication process when they seem appropriate or use them in open communication. We all connect based on stories, and these will help you break the ice and build a connection with the person.

Do a similar thing in the about him/her section. Think about past dates, past significant others or just cool things you saw in a movie that illustrate what traits you're looking for. Tell us one-sentence stories about them.

For example, generosity: You'd be the type of person who gives a $10 to a bonafide homeless person.

Doing it this way lets you state in a positive way the type of person you're looking for without seeming demanding. And no, the specifics aren't really a turn-off because most people will relate to the general trait described rather than hone in on the specific detail that illustrates it.

Lastly, try to make the stories light, fun and playful so that you demonstrate one other thing about yourself — you are happy and positive about life, a fun person to be around.

Good luck with your search.
 
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Bullseye is offline Bullseye Post #4  June 28,2011, 6:38pm
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I would agree with the two Ladies and throw in this.

I'm often taken for being the person "in charge."
That's great and everything, but most guys will instantly and unconsciously have a negative reaction to reading that. Let him see that later
 
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