Changing "The One Thing I'm Most Passionate About"


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Wonderwoman402 is offline Wonderwoman402 Post #1  June 26,2011, 11:33am
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Okay, I'm biting the bullet and seeing what eHarmony matches have accumulated for me over the past year and signing up for 3 months.

I'm updating my profile and cannot find a section anywhere that allows me to change the "One Thing I'm Most Passionate About" section.

Where have they hidden this? It seems I can update just about everything else except this section.
 
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Click on "My Profile" on the top, then "In My Own Words" on the left side, and then "Page 2" on the left side.
 
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shapeShifter79 wrote :
Click on "My Profile" on the top, then "In My Own Words" on the left side, and then "Page 2" on the left side.
Ah! Thank you!!

I'd finish the Page 1 and hit "Save and Continue" at the bottom and it goes to "Something to Talk About" instead of Page 2. I somehow missed the "Page 2" of the "In My Own Words" section. Appreciate the help!
 
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Hmm, are you changing what your passion was / is? Or are you just doing a bit of editing on what you wrote.

Seems that, unless you have had a life changing experience, changing your "passion" is an indication that you were not very passionate about what you had before and may not be all that passionate about what you are putting there now.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Seems that, unless you have had a life changing experience, changing your "passion" is an indication that you were not very passionate about what you had before and may not be all that passionate about what you are putting there now.
I disagree with this. Your "passions" change with life and experience. Your "passion" does not have to be the "one thing you have dedicated your entire life to", with no option for ever choosing to do something different.

What you are "passionate" about as a 20 year old is often not the same thing you are "passionate" about as a 40 year old. People prioritize different things in their life at different times. I would not expect anyone to have the exact same "passion", unchanged, forever. I would actually be more interested in someone who is open to change than someone who is so set in their ways as to never change anything about themselves or their mindset.
 
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I disagree with this. Your "passions" change with life and experience. Your "passion" does not have to be the "one thing you have dedicated your entire life to", with no option for ever choosing to do something different.

What you are "passionate" about as a 20 year old is often not the same thing you are "passionate" about as a 40 year old. People prioritize different things in their life at different times. I would not expect anyone to have the exact same "passion", unchanged, forever. I would actually be more interested in someone who is open to change than someone who is so set in their ways as to never change anything about themselves or their mindset.
The operative words in my post were "unless you have had a life changing experience".

As a young 20 something, still in college or recently graduated, my passion may be career related. As a 30 year old I may have had a "life changing experience" of getting married and my passion may be spouse, home and family. Changing passions at different stage of life.

But to be on eHarmony (or other dating site) and decide "I am not doing well with getting matches, communication or dates. I will change what I put down as being passionate about." Is just gaming the system and / or is an indication that you have no passion or you are not willing to stand up for what you are passionate about. With respect to the OP, she has not been away from eHarmony a significant amount of time referenced against a lifetime and I don't think that she has had a "life changing experience" or entered into a new stage of life.
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
The operative words in my post were "unless you have had a life changing experience".

With respect to the OP, she has not been away from eHarmony a significant amount of time referenced against a lifetime and I don't think that she has had a "life changing experience" or entered into a new stage of life.
How do you define "life changing experience"? You have no idea what the OP has been through in the last year, or at any other time during her life. I feel like I am a completely different person than I was a year ago at this time, and that's not because I have had a "life changing experience" that anyone else would recognize on the outside.

A person cannot define what is a "life changing experience" for anyone else. For that reason, I maintain that your passions can certainly change over time, even if "nothing significant" has happened - as far as anyone else outside of you would know.

This is all kind of a moot point, since WW's question was about how to physically change her passion, and not how to evolve her passion in her personal life.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Seems that, unless you have had a life changing experience, changing your "passion" is an indication that you were not very passionate about what you had before and may not be all that passionate about what you are putting there now.
That may be how you operate. That's not how I operate. I pick a new hobby every year or two and pursue it passionately. I often achieve something well beyond what your average person does--in once case placing in an international competition and being offered two related jobs (coach, journalist)--and then I move on. I have a friend who was a marathon runner last year and worked at it 5 days a week, and he's a bicyclist this year doing the same. If you choose to be the same year in and year out that's your perogative. I choose to reinvest myself.
 
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That may be how you operate. That's not how I operate. I pick a new hobby every year or two and pursue it passionately. I often achieve something well beyond what your average person does--in once case placing in an international competition and being offered two related jobs (coach, journalist)--and then I move on. I have a friend who was a marathon runner last year and worked at it 5 days a week, and he's a bicyclist this year doing the same. If you choose to be the same year in and year out that's your perogative. I choose to reinvest myself.
Don't put that in your profile. She might wonder how long she'll be your passion.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Hmm, are you changing what your passion was / is? Or are you just doing a bit of editing on what you wrote.

Seems that, unless you have had a life changing experience, changing your "passion" is an indication that you were not very passionate about what you had before and may not be all that passionate about what you are putting there now.
Seems to me that you're reading a lot into this passion thing. While I do think it should be something that people would easily identify to you, I don't think it has to be some kind of a life-changing experience.
 
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