sony12 is offline sony12 Post #11  June 25,2011, 7:40pm
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
. Most, about 90%, of your matches are going to be non-paying members.
This is something you are never going to give up is it.
 
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This is something you are never going to give up is it.
You just have to understand that nonpaying doesn't mean that they aren't paying eH; it's actually a code for something else.
 
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This thread has been really helpful. Thanks. I'm new to EH within past 2 months and had one telephone talk with someone and never heard back. I closed the match. I don't know why I'm surprised guys don't respond.

I also wonder if the age I'm looking for and the age I am is part of it. Do men who are in their late 40's-mid 50's want to be with someone late 40's or with someone 10-12 years younger????
 
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lunabeach wrote :
You just have to understand that nonpaying doesn't mean that they aren't paying eH; it's actually a code for something else.
Yep, it means that they don't want to think that people simply don't want to talk to them so saying they are non paying is easier on the ego. If the amount of non paying members was really that high I don't think there would be anyway that some people get messaged all the time on the site. The only thing I wish is that you could open up your match setting to where you could receive more flex matches due to location (even if they aren't 97%(or whatever it is) compatible with you)). As far as I know you can't receive flex matches due to location.
 
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lightworker wrote :
This thread has been really helpful. Thanks. I'm new to EH within past 2 months and had one telephone talk with someone and never heard back. I closed the match. I don't know why I'm surprised guys don't respond.

I also wonder if the age I'm looking for and the age I am is part of it. Do men who are in their late 40's-mid 50's want to be with someone late 40's or with someone 10-12 years younger????
A lot of people use the phone to filter who they want to meet and who they don't want to meet. Some prefer to go directly to the meet and not filter much but those individuals end up having a lot more bad dates then those who do filter. Yes by the time you are in your late forties and fifties ten years really isn't a huge age gap. Some you talk to you will get along with and some you won't (just like real life). The trick is to become a good communicator so people enjoy talking to you as well. That is one thing that people who don't have great success on the site often tend to lack (there communication skills (at least when talking to strangers)) many times isn't real good.
 
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(I'm not too picky, but one of my preferences is that he be a Christian and Christianity is definitely not the dominant religion in my area).
Do you live in the U.S.? I can't think of any place in this country where some form of Christianity is not the dominant religion, apart from a few neighborhoods within large cities.

Have you tried a Christian dating site? I don't know anything about them, but if religion is of such significant importance in a match, that would seem like the place to find like-minded people.
 
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Do you live in the U.S.? I can't think of any place in this country where some form of Christianity is not the dominant religion, apart from a few neighborhoods within large cities.

Have you tried a Christian dating site? I don't know anything about them, but if religion is of such significant importance in a match, that would seem like the place to find like-minded people.
I wouldn't reccomend one of those sites. Those sites are usually to sparsely populated to concern yourself with.
 
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I am in the same boat as OP. I joined about a month ago, get 4-7 new matches a day, send the first set of questions to at least 2-3 every day, and get pretty much no response. I've gotten to EH email w/ 3 of them (2 I closed and 1 hasn't responded yet and it's been almost a week). Only 2 of my matches have started communication with me; I've started every other one. I've posted my profile here and got great feedback and made lots of improvements so I know it's not that . . . and if it matters (and I guess it does!) I'm attractive and live in a major city so it can't be that either. I just totally think it's a numbers game. Definitely frustrating considering how much they charge for this service!
 
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ensure your photo is excellent and the profile presentation is also excellent. I think there are a large percentage of non subscribers but also plenty who subscribe who wont respond to dull profiles especially ones with poor photos.
 
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