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mdepsmom is offline mdepsmom Post #1  June 22,2011, 8:05pm
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I've been reading these boards for a few weeks now (joined after Memorial Day weekend) and I noticed a lot of people mention they're so excited about a great match they got. That's got me wondering, what constitutes a "great match" to you -- is it the pictures, common interests, something they say in their profile that strikes a chord w/ you, or something else? I ask because I haven't felt that any of my matches so far have resulted in my feeling "wow, that's a great match." Sure, lots of them have said things in their profile that I am looking to hear, and a lot of them have interests similar to mine, but I guess what's keeping me from thinking any of them are "great" is the fact that, once I send the first set of questions, the vast majority of them won't respond. It's hard to get excited about someone who, more than likely, I will never hear from.

I'd love to hear some opinions on what makes a "great match." Thanks
 
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Hach is offline Hach Post #2  June 22,2011, 8:15pm
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Hi mdepsmom,

I have the same problem. It is frustrating. Out of my 110+ matches so far, I have reached guided communication step 2 with 3 of them. Then they all stopped responding. I don't know why...guess they are not interested. 98% never respond to initial questions.

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To me when I think about a great match it's someone that I've gone through the guided communication and then have communication outside of the site. With a great match I will have good chemistry with on the phone or by email before the first fate. Obviously the match is better if there's a first date that went well. It's kind of a subjective to the person type of question though. Everyone will have a different reason in which a match is "great".
 
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Harryoss is offline Harryoss Post #4  June 23,2011, 8:10am
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I think what people mean by a "great match" is that it's a match that they were (are) excited about. This could be anything from excitement after only reading their profile, where they related to things in the match's profile, or the humor or personality therein, etc etc... Or it could also be a result of good communication, be it via email or phone or actual meetings... But the general theme always being that a "great match" is one who made you excited to want to take things further with them.

I don't think that has anything to do with response rates and whatnot. I could consider someone a "great match" but still never hear back from them. (but of course, in this case, the "great match" assessment would have to have been a result of my impression from their profile alone).
 
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Harryoss wrote :
I think what people mean by a "great match" is that it's a match that they were (are) excited about.
^^^^ This.

I think of a "great match" as that guy I might meet in person and think "Wow. I hope he's single!" So far online I think I've only had one of those "great matches" (but I still haven't met him in person yet so who knows if this great match will become a non-match).
 
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I lowered my "great match" standard all the way down into the gutter; if the woman doesn't foam at the keyboard over "sports" and "travel" and "living life to the fullest" (at least 50% do) and she doesn't include the standard laundry-list "accomplished, established, successful, financially-secure and generous" (at least 50% do) then she's a REALLY great match.

Of course that ruled-out at least 100% of my matches.
 
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mdepsmom wrote :
I'd love to hear some opinions on what makes a "great match." Thanks
One that is actually interested in more than just a first date.
 
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Co6aka wrote :
I lowered my "great match" standard all the way down into the gutter; if the woman doesn't foam at the keyboard over "sports" and "travel" and "living life to the fullest" (at least 50% do) and she doesn't include the standard laundry-list "accomplished, established, successful, financially-secure and generous" (at least 50% do) then she's a REALLY great match.

Of course that ruled-out at least 100% of my matches.
Instead of rating matches by the drivel they put in their profile. Take it for what it is ... they aren't very creative at writing. Once you have progressed to the meeting stage you will no longer be using the written word to communicate.
 
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mitchell175 wrote :
I think of a "great match" as that guy I might meet in person and think "Wow. I hope he's single!" So far online I think I've only had one of those "great matches" (but I still haven't met him in person yet so who knows if this great match will become a non-match).
And I met that "great match" last weekend for dinner and I was right!

So, yeah, I think sometimes you really can tell a "great match" when you see one.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Instead of rating matches by the drivel they put in their profile. Take it for what it is ... they aren't very creative at writing. Once you have progressed to the meeting stage you will no longer be using the written word to communicate.
For about the last year I was active, I initiated with all of them (unless they were bigger than my refrigerator) but 8-9 /10 insta-closed me. Most of the rest poofed. Can't get to the meeting stage when that happens. Anyway... IRL I don't seem to have that problem; nothing-in-common is what's common here.
 
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