Abasinphq is offline Abasinphq Post #1  June 22,2011, 2:12pm
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I know I don't live in a huge town. My settings are for up to a 2 hour drive if I ever got matched up with anyone that would be remotely interested in me at all. I have been sitting here since I started and have only been able to say hello to one other person who then closed me.

I feel this is a big money making scam. I paid for 3 months and that was a bit of change. As this keeps being a dead end road. I could have taken the membership fee, placed it in the middle of the road, poured gas on it and set it a blaze. The fire would have at least been pretty to watch. lol



This is depressing.
 
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Sorry you're having a hard time with it.

Don't let it depress you ... EH and other online sites are just tools. If you figure out how to make them work better for you, things go better. A few ideas:

- get your profile reviewed here. It can be surprising how something that seems perfectly good to you is off-putting to others, or gets misinterpreted.

- same with photos.

- do you ever initiate contact? Don't just sit there, click "send questions"!

But beyond that ... nice rant! It's good to get feelings like that off your chest so you can decide whether you want to keep trying or not. And if you do, let the disappointments go and focus on what you can do.
 
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Another one disappointed by the genie of on online match making ?

My rule is I have to meet at least one person of interest to me in person within three months of using any service otherwise I expect the service will never find any "match" for me and proceed accordingly.

Of all the services I have ever used - and I've used all the big ones and several others - there are only two which have actually worked by my rule and they are virtually unheard of in the US.
 
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I have photos on my profile. I have said hello to a few of the only matches I've received and they were not interested. I haven't gotten any new matches for weeks. 3 weeks is a longtime to wait for new people to pop up. I've even clicked look for new matches and still none. So yeah this is a joke...
 
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If you're not getting any matches at all anymore, either there's something wrong with your account (contact customer care), or -- more likely: your preference settings are highly exclusive.

You could post your settings here to get feedback on if you want. But in general, if you put a lot of things as "important" or "very important", and you're very specific in choices, you really narrow down who can be matched with you a *lot*.
 
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Oh hell, let me just lower everything more than I have. I'm better off stripping naked in a bar and going home with the first person buying me a drink. HAHAHA So there goes all standards out the window!
 
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Hi Abasinphq,

It could be that there just isn't a big enough pool of people around Bozeman, to match you with. I've had on and off luck with this for the 7? months I've been on eH. Some weeks were completely dry, others were a deluge.

One tip I have, however... your posts here seem to exhibit a bit of bitterness. Is it possible that your profile exhibits the same? If so it could mean a premature closure if guys get a 'bitter' vibe and decide not to get to know the real you...

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Sparkles56 wrote :
Hi Abasinphq,

It could be that there just isn't a big enough pool of people around Bozeman, to match you with. I've had on and off luck with this for the 7? months I've been on eH. Some weeks were completely dry, others were a deluge.

One tip I have, however... your posts here seem to exhibit a bit of bitterness. Is it possible that your profile exhibits the same? If so it could mean a premature closure if guys get a 'bitter' vibe and decide not to get to know the real you...

Best,
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No indication her profile is bitter. Sounds like you may be reaching for reasons. She does not sound as if she would be revealing any bitterness and she has stated she has reached out and had the confidence to do so.
 
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eha_answer_man wrote :
Another one disappointed by the genie of on online match making ?

My rule is I have to meet at least one person of interest to me in person within three months of using any service otherwise I expect the service will never find any "match" for me and proceed accordingly.

Of all the services I have ever used - and I've used all the big ones and several others - there are only two which have actually worked by my rule and they are virtually unheard of in the US.
Interesting post. There may be some truth in it.
 
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1104girl wrote :
No indication her profile is bitter. She does not sound as if she would be revealing any bitterness...
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I feel this is a big money making scam.
I could have taken the membership fee, placed it in the middle of the road, poured gas on it and set it a blaze. The fire would have at least been pretty to watch. lol
Oh hell, let me just lower everything more than I have. I'm better off stripping naked in a bar and going home with the first person buying me a drink. HAHAHA So there goes all standards out the window!
We all think these things from time to time, but those statements appear to be bitter to me. If I detected that kind of bitterness in a match I'd probably close her.

Abasinphq, maybe you could post your profile for review? I could be completely wrong here.
 
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