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mitchell175 is offline mitchell175 Post #21  June 23,2011, 11:14am
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karajoyfull wrote :
Just one more thing that I don't think anyone has mentioned. If he's a non-paying member, he cannot see your picture. I'd move on.
That is a great point! If you do email him, probably the very first thing he is going to ask is to see your picture, and then you may never hear from him again anyway, after getting so excited about him as a "cute guy". To me, it's just not worth it.
 
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karajoyfull wrote :
Just one more thing that I don't think anyone has mentioned. If he's a non-paying member, he cannot see your picture. I'd move on.
I'm not condoning violating terms of service, but there were times when non-paying members communicated with me during free communication weekends (back when that was allowed) without being able to see my pic, and other times I communicated with people before they had visible pics. I don't think seeing a pic is a requirement of good initial communication, though you obviously want to see what each other look like as soon as possible. (Not in this situation, but in one where doing so would not violate the terms of service.)
 
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I'm not condoning violating terms of service, but there were times when non-paying members communicated with me during free communication weekends (back when that was allowed) without being able to see my pic, and other times I communicated with people before they had visible pics. I don't think seeing a pic is a requirement of good initial communication, though you obviously want to see what each other look like as soon as possible. (Not in this situation, but in one where doing so would not violate the terms of service.)
I have also communicated with matches during the FCW's or FCE's. In fact, after getting to OC in Feb during the month long FCE, I rejoined EH. I was so afraid he would turn out to be some kind of troll, but he was actually kind of cute! (And, then, he poofed on me anyway...)
 
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I wouldn't bother - as mentioned above he hasn't seen your photo. This means he's choosing to save money over seeing photos.

From my perspective, I want reasonable equality throughout the dating process so these types aren't the kind I'd take seriously. They're already not paying and you haven't even met them yet!
 
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tweet37 wrote :
Oh...the horror!
To each their own.

As Steve points out:
[quote=SteveManchesterEngland;1367696]I wouldn't bother - as mentioned above he hasn't seen your photo. This means he's choosing to save money over seeing photos.

From my perspective, I want reasonable equality throughout the dating process so these types aren't the kind I'd take seriously. They're already not paying and you haven't even met them yet![/quote]

Yes, I agree, hard to take the non-paying members who try to slip in contact information so they don't have to pay seriously, and quite frankly seem cheap to me. There are plenty of free dating sites that can be used, so either use them or pay for eharmony.
 
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My dating life is important to me, too. And, since I have seen many of the exact same matches on every dating site - including the free ones - they are obviously not limiting their search to EH. They're just trying to maximize their chances - without actually having to pay for any dating sites. I will continue to report these matches who violate the TOS in this manner.

In fact, the guy who I reported had "coded" his email address in backwards writing on his profile, so it's not like he "didn't realize" that was a TOS violation.
I have never run into this, so I can't give any concrete examples..

Most likely though, I would just ignore the Profile and Close it.

Now, reporting it back to eHarmony?
(Yes, I am well aware of the text of the TOS)

If the Profile looks fake and most likely a "word for someone overseas who tries to take money from people", then I absolutely would report it, because I want to protect other members that might be more naive and fall for it.

But for others?

Lets just say, I will leave it up for the scruples police to determine what I would do.
 
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If the Profile looks fake and most likely a "word for someone overseas who tries to take money from people", then I absolutely would report it, because I want to protect other members that might be more naive and fall for it
In that type of situation I would report it, too. I hate fake profiles and, um, people who try to take advantage of others.

(I will never understand why that word is on the filter list. So odd.)
 
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You could both email him and report him. Then you could be assured the cute guy isn't getting more emails from any other eHarmony ladies.
 
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