jennyecosse is offline jennyecosse Post #1  June 21,2011, 11:03am
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WHY? Do men I am matched with ALL cite children/grandchildren as their biggest achievment/best influence/interest etc etc. Whilst I have offspring, they are not the centre of the universe. Is this an American thing?/Help...
 
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Hi jennyecosse and welcome to EHA!

Interesting question! I wonder if there is something "american" about that?

The majority of my EH matches also mentioned their children/grand-children as very central. I assumed it was either (1) their kids are really central to them, or (2) they think it makes a good impression on women ... which it generally does I would guess!

But not on you!

One thing you might consider is that profiles should be taken with a grain of salt. Most people are not Ad Men or professional writers and their profiles might not present them terrifically accurately. If you're interested in a guy, get in contact ... then you can find out what his life is really like. And if he's too focused on his family for your tastes ... move on! Good luck!
 
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ami1uwant is offline ami1uwant Post #3  June 21,2011, 1:21pm
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Part of the reason with men citing it is because they feel they will gain points in the womans eye since one of the big screeners women use is with children.

Its very common with both sexes to say their children come first.

When I have looked at woman and they say they have children...95% of them will state something to the affect their childen are important to them.
 
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Odira is offline Odira Post #4  June 21,2011, 4:10pm
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ami1uwant wrote :
Part of the reason with men citing it is because they feel they will gain points in the womans eye since one of the big screeners women use is with children..
^^^^ This.
Other possibilities:

1. Lack of imagination.
2. Lack of a life.
 
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Odira wrote :
2. Lack of a life.

Hahaha!
 
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