Laurensteph is offline Laurensteph Post #1  June 20,2011, 9:11pm
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It seems that most of the matches I've contacted stay in a limbo of stage 1, never responding. I am relatively new so, is this a common thing? or I'd there another readin for this? Any help is appreciated.
 
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this is common.
 
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It is common. Sometimes spicing up your profile can help a little. There's a sticky thread at the top of the Using eHarmony board that gives you directions on how to post your profile for review if you'd like some opinions.
 
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Getting past stage 1 is going to be mostly about them liking your photo and not seeing any red flags in a 10-sec glance at your profile. It's very rare I discard a match at stage 1 since looks are not my primery criteria, but I reckon some do quite a bit of screening at this stage.

If they're in limbo they may not be interested OR they may be a non-paying member. There are quite a bit of those.

Nudge them to see which is the case.
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Laurensteph wrote :
It seems that most of the matches I've contacted stay in a limbo of stage 1, never responding. I am relatively new so, is this a common thing? or I'd there another reading for this? Any help is appreciated.
Not sure about what you are asking

If you have sent First Questions and got no response then this is quite common. And I still maintain that there are about 90% of your matches are going to be non-paying.

If you are sitting waiting for your matches to initiate by sending you First Questions then you need to be proactive and initiate by sending them First Questions.

If you have exchanged First Questions with your match and are now waiting for them to continue on by sending you their MHCS then this situation is a little less common. It is somewhat common to get closed after sending your MHCS but to have communication at stage 1 and then have them just stop and not close is less common.
 
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