datingguy is offline datingguy Post #1  June 20,2011, 5:59pm
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I just got out of GC into eH mail with a girl. Her first e-mail just asked me how I was doing, thats it. I responded said I was doing good and asked how she was doing. She replied, said she was doing good, then gave me her cell phone number and asked me to text her. Is this too soon with this little information, or does making it through the GC enough communication.

Looking for help cause I'm still new to this, thanks.
 
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She's probably just not into writing/emailing and is more comfortable on the phone. Everyone has very different communication speeds. Some like to email extensively, some like to IM a bit, some like to talk on the phone a few times, some like to do the minimum of any one of the above and meet ASAP. There's no "right" speed - just do what feels comfortable.
 
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She gave you the green light.
Do you want to meet her ?
 
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Btw, texting is really not a great medium - unless you're both good writers/communicators, there's a lot of room for misunderstanding.
 
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I had someone on here do that to me last week. Went through the GC process into OC, she gave me her number Saturday and said to call her. Tried calling her Monday (busy weekend), went to voicemail so I left her a message. She texted me that night saying she's sorry she missed my call and she's heading to bed, but she'd like me to call her Tuesday. So I called her after my night time activity, same thing - to voicemail. Get a text later that she was tutoring, and again wanting me to call Wednesday. Well I was busy the day after - and I figured I'd give her 1 more try and called her Thursday. Voicemail again and about 5 minutes later a text that she's at the gym. So I respond saying for her to call me when she's home. Haven't heard from her since.
 
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soccerace21 wrote :
I had someone on here do that to me last week. Went through the GC process into OC, she gave me her number Saturday and said to call her. Tried calling her Monday (busy weekend), went to voicemail so I left her a message. She texted me that night saying she's sorry she missed my call and she's heading to bed, but she'd like me to call her Tuesday. So I called her after my night time activity, same thing - to voicemail. Get a text later that she was tutoring, and again wanting me to call Wednesday. Well I was busy the day after - and I figured I'd give her 1 more try and called her Thursday. Voicemail again and about 5 minutes later a text that she's at the gym. So I respond saying for her to call me when she's home. Haven't heard from her since.
she's a time waster and stalling. either no intent to meet or she's waiting to see how it goes with her other options.

I'd delete her number and move on.

At the most I'd text saying "when would you like to meet?" or "when are you available to meet me?"

unless a specific date or list of available dates comes back then I'd delete. most likely she'll respond with "I'll get back to you" or "next week".
 
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SteveManchesterEngland wrote :
she's a time waster and stalling. either no intent to meet or she's waiting to see how it goes with her other options.

I'd delete her number and move on.

At the most I'd text saying "when would you like to meet?" or "when are you available to meet me?"

unless a specific date or list of available dates comes back then I'd delete. most likely she'll respond with "I'll get back to you" or "next week".
My thoughts exactly. I deleted her number Sunday. She had Thurs night, Friday, and Saturday to call or text.
 
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lunabeach wrote :
She's probably just not into writing/emailing and is more comfortable on the phone. Everyone has very different communication speeds. Some like to email extensively, some like to IM a bit, some like to talk on the phone a few times, some like to do the minimum of any one of the above and meet ASAP. There's no "right" speed - just do what feels comfortable.
She said to TEXT her not call her! It is easier to type e-mails on a computer than to type anything on a phone. And at least with e-mail you can carry on actual communication instead of trying to communicate with "sound bites".
 
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soccerace21 wrote :
I had someone on here do that to me last week. Went through the GC process into OC, she gave me her number Saturday and said to call her. Tried calling her Monday (busy weekend), went to voicemail so I left her a message. She texted me that night saying she's sorry she missed my call and she's heading to bed, but she'd like me to call her Tuesday. So I called her after my night time activity, same thing - to voicemail. Get a text later that she was tutoring, and again wanting me to call Wednesday. Well I was busy the day after - and I figured I'd give her 1 more try and called her Thursday. Voicemail again and about 5 minutes later a text that she's at the gym. So I respond saying for her to call me when she's home. Haven't heard from her since.
I would have left a voice mail on the first one saying that she should call ME when she was available to talk.
 
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I try to skip phone calls and texts - just use OC to set up a meet in the first or second message, anything else is a waste of time. I do exchange numbers with guys when one or the other of us sets up the meet, in case circumstances go south, but haven't had to use them except once when given bad directions. Why spend all this time trying to connect via phone? Just say "would love to meet you this week. Want to meet for (blank) at (blank) around (hour) on (this day) or (that day)? Or is a different place/time better for you?" or something to that effect. If you don't get a definite meet at that point, move on to the next person...
 
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