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3GIG is offline 3GIG Post #1  June 20,2011, 4:45am

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3GIG wrote :
Some Additional Information I Want You to Know:
My career specialty is in demand nationwide, so: **For the right relationship, I am very willing to relocate in June 2012 and live in my future partner's city. Until then we can get to know each other, talk & text, and I'd even visit in person.**
I think it is fine if you mention relocating not being a problem if you find the right match but I wouldn't put in a move date like that if I were you. The last sentence is unnecessary.
 
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I think that is a good idea when seeking long distance matches to indicate your willingness to relocate. This way it is clear that you are not expecting that if things get serious you are expecting them to move to where you live. You may want to cut it down to:

"My career specialty is in demand nationwide, so for the right relationship, I am very willing to relocate".
 
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3GIG;1365193[B wrote :
][/B]My career specialty is in demand nationwide, so: **For the right relationship, I am very willing to relocate in June 2012 and live in my future partner's city. Until then we can get to know each other, talk & text, and I'd even visit in person.**
I'd also nix the date (you want that to be determined by how the relatonship is going not by an artificial timetable) and the "Until then we can get to know each other..." is quite obvious. "I'd even visit in person" borders on silly. If you're planning to relocate in a year you're going to be doing many trips in person not maybe one.
 
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Jennivere wrote :
I think it is fine if you mention relocating not being a problem if you find the right match but I wouldn't put in a move date like that if I were you. The last sentence is unnecessary.

I agree, it is fine to put this information in your profile. It would also give any woman who is considering a LDR with you a sense of ease in knowing that you are willing to relocate. I would take out the information about the date of when you are willing to relocate, I think this is unecessary to include.
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :

"My career specialty is in demand nationwide, so for the right relationship, I am very willing to relocate".
Yes. This is better.

The date and the "I'd even visit" are...odd. I would assume meeting before moving is implied and putting a time line on things is kind of scary.
 
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I agree with everyone else. I mentioned being willing to relocate in my eH profile. Mentioning a date, however, is a bad idea. Even worse is the phrase "I'd even visit in person." That you would do so is a foregone conclusion! Also a foregone conclusion is that you and your match will have more than one such visit.

(Or so I hope, anyway.)
 
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3GIG wrote :
I am working on my profile essays and would like quick advice. Because of the limited pool of Indian women matches (ZERO!) in my small region, I will expand my radius to multiple states. To show I am serious about a relationship (I'm 40 years old), I would like to include these words for my long distance matches to read:

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My career specialty is in demand nationwide, so: **For the right relationship, I am very willing to relocate in June 2012 and live in my future partner's city. Until then we can get to know each other, talk & text, and I'd even visit in person.**
You haven't even met the person yet and you are telling them the year and month you intend to relocate and to their home city.

It sounds desperate and will read as desperate because it is such a one sided offer.

Also what is the purpose of writing "for the right relationship"? It sounds a bit negative and a condition which the reader has no control over and it's obvious. I see job adverts that say "for the right candidate..." - those kinds of words are fine in job adverts but not when you are advertising for a partner!

And you have setout a criteria that you want to email/talk etc to someone and "even visit in person" until June 2012. You think you are widening your dating pool but are probably narrowing down to only those that think will be ok with your fairly rigid sounding plans. Also it's too deep too early.


This isn't perfect but as a starting point I've thrown together an alternative.

"I'm considering possibly relocating in the not too distant future so flexible on distance. I'm fortunate (and thrilled!) to have a career which will allow me to relocate. I also love travelling and meeting people so distance is never a big deal for me."
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Well...distance in a relationship IS less than ideal, so I wouldn't say it's not a big deal. Maybe something along the lines of "Because I love travel, distance is not a deterrent in pursuing a relationship"?
 
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