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DancingFool is offline DancingFool Post #11  June 20,2011, 2:00pm
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lunabeach wrote :
Well...distance in a relationship IS less than ideal, so I wouldn't say it's not a big deal. Maybe something along the lines of "Because I love travel, distance is not a deterrent in pursuing a relationship"?
What he has now is well worded. Those who are open to long distance relationships don't see it as the big deal that most people do, so his positive demeanor will appeal to the right audience, while ultra cautious hedging as per your re-wording will not.
 
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Well...distance in a relationship IS less than ideal, so I wouldn't say it's not a big deal. Maybe something along the lines of "Because I love travel, distance is not a deterrent in pursuing a relationship"?
The OP has stated that distance is not an issue. The profile is supposed to reflect his view/situation not your concept of 'distance'.

"distance is not a deterrent" is just going back to putting distance in the profile with a negative slant.
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If I wanted to sell myself in a profile to distant people (as well as local), I wouldn't say "distance is not a deterrent" - I would try to steer focus away from distance and just say "it isn't a big deal".
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3GIG wrote :
...I've never been married....
I am not sure this information in your profile will help. I would leave it out. I think it will put some people off (depending on your age). Reading "Never been married" can lead people to think and ponder over why you haven't ever been married.

It's the kind of info people ask for during emailing.
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Saying you have never been married, especially as the first statement, may not have the reaction you are looking for. It makes me wonder if you have ever had a long term relationship of any kind or if you have been a player until now. I would just leave it out. That is information that can be shared when you meet someone.
 
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3GIG wrote :
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Actually, I intended the opposite -- I didn't want far away matches to think I had an ex-wife to support and/or marriage issues. (Especially since my profile now implies I'm willing to relocate ANYWHERE). ....
Sometimes in a profile you can provide too much information. I'd suggest you are just ready to point this out when you are emailing people. Looking back on my experiences, it's usually when I meet women that they ask about ex partners and children.

I'd suggest you stick to selling points. ie. the benefits you can offer! such as your amazing career that allows you the flexibility to relocate and your enjoyment of travelling to meet people.

Don't get bogged down into too much detail. stick to positives and points that make you stand out.
 
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I agree with Steve about leaving out the part about never being married. There are people that are quick to read more into a statement than they really should. Someone on the other end could start thinking..."hmmm...I wonder why he said that? Maybe he's bragging about it? Or, maybe there's something wrong with him? Can he not commit? Maybe people don't want to commit to him?"
 
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There comes a point when you can start to over-analyze the paragraph (and every word in it) you are trying to write.......... What I mean is you are going to drive yourself crazy

I think your second revision of the paragraph along with the suggestions and rewrites that Steve suggested will do the job
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