Transition from OC to First Date


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shapeShifter79 is offline shapeShifter79 Post #11  June 19,2011, 8:41pm
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
If you cannot spare 4 hours out of your lifetime, perchance to meet someone with whom to spend the rest of your life with then you really don't have time to be dating at all.
Gr8Guy, I can't spare 4 hours of my lifetime to meet every match who gets through stage 3. One date every week or two is plenty for me.

I had two this week and I ended up cancelling one. I was like, "Ugh, one was already enough!" I have multiple women vying for next week's slot. I just closed one for "poor e-mail technique". ::shrug::

I am seriously looking for better ways to filter.

Maybe I just need to find more interesting date venues. The first wine bar date was interesting, the second meh, and I dread a third. I enjoy meeting people while I'm outdoors or on my random adventures but you of course can't invite first dates on those! Maybe I need to find interesting but safe places to go on first dates kinda like you see on Blind Date. You know, maybe renting a kayak for an hour on a public lake.

Do first dates always have to be coffee shops or bars?

I don't see any reason why!

I do enjoy relaxing in a bar or diner after I've done something physically or mentally demanding with someone.
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Poor emailing technique! She's GOT to go. (insert funny face here)

BTW, after a bit of online dating (a couple/three months or so) I think it's pretty common to get burn out. At which time it is better to take a small break...
 
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I like to have a phone conversation (even just a short one to set up the date is fine) before the first date to make sure the person isn't horribly awkward, creepy-sounding, or slow/unintelligent. Sometimes you pick up things from voices that you don't via text. For the most part, though, I'd rather get to the date and not spend a lot of time communicating beforehand.
 
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I think the answer to your question lies in a bit of self-awareness. If chemistry, for you, is not based on looks and career ambitions (since I've seen you claim, on more than one occasion, not being attracted to beautiful and successful women), then I think you need to figure out exactly what it is that you find attractive in a woman, and ask that question.

No one is going to have that answer for you other than yourself.

On a side note, if you want to do something active on a first date, just do something active on a first date? Maybe THAT'S the answer you're looking for? That you'll find attractive the type of woman who actually likes being active, even on the first date?

*Shrugs* WHO KNOWS!

Figure yourself out. There aren't going to be very many people on these boards in a similar dilemma as yours to offer advice (When's the last time you saw posts, not created by you, complaining about too many beautiful women expressing interest in a guy? rofl)
 
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