Profile Help 26/Female

Topic Tools

Search this Thread

Moxie26 Post #1 June 17,2011, 9:09am

Newbie

Joined: Jun 2011

Posts: 9

See profile

Hey, I'm new and just want to see if my profile is on target. Just from reading some of the suggestions you all gave other people, I have already tweaked some of my info, but I'm sure there could be improvements! Sorry that some of it is bold for no reason... I can't seem to take it off.

Thanks in advance!

The one thing I'm most passionate about:
Since it says one thing: I'm most passionate about my family. We don't live close by right now, but I feel we are one of the tightest, most fun families I know. We don't take each other for granted, we support each other, and make it a priority to enjoy the time we have when we are together. Our get togethers usually include my mom's awesome cooking and lots of music (not going to say good music because sometimes that involves us singing karaoke).

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Most? I’m looking for a package deal... someone who is stable, responsible with their finances, generous when it comes to showing love and appreciation, and someone who can relax and appreciate life. These are all important to me. My parents are best friends and strong teammates. They have the most comfortable, fun, and passionate love for each other. That's what I'm looking for in another person.

Occupation:Administrative Assistant
Age26
Height5' 2"
Wants Kids:Yes
Kids at Home:No
EthnicityWhite, non-Hispanic
Religion:Christian
Drinks:About once a week
Smokes:Never

The most influential person in my life has been:

It's hard to narrow down the most influential person, but my pediatrician influenced me when I was in middle school in a random, motivational speaker moment. He told me to keep as many doors open as possible. He said it’s a lot easier to figure out what you want in life when all the choices are still open.

The three things which I am most thankful for:

My Family
My Strength
My Travel Experiences

Three of my best life-skills are:

Entertaining in my home
Maintaining a network of close friends
Managing my finances

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:

That I throw a slammin costume karaoke brunch.... and, word on the street says I'm not to shabby at hosting what I call a soccer "party" either. (Basically, when there is a really good soccer match, I like having friends over to watch the game. We will usually make it pot luck style and just have fun.
The things I can't live without are:

Connections to my family
A spacious kitchen, I love to cook and bake
Water- I drink a lot of it!
Rest
Good facewash and lotion

Happy
Rational
Passionate
Outgoing

boschimsp — Advice Member-Moderator Post #2 June 17,2011, 10:33am

Starting to acknowledge that my single life is actually fantastic.

Volunteer Community Leader

Joined: Sep 2010

Posts: 2,119

See profile

Overall, I think your profile is good. I love that you have a couple of details that showcase your uniqueness (i.e. the karoke brunch) because honestly I think one thing I find when reading profiles is that while most of them are perfectly 'fine' there are often not enough details that stick out about a person to remember them and they all blend together.

Overall, it's good, but there are a couple of things you might want to tweak.

In your first paragraph when you describe your family, I think it's good, but I might cut back on all the adjectives about your family and more on what you do. It could come off as a bit intimidating.

Also, in the additional info section, I think the general content is good but you might want to edit. It's a bit verbose and it almost sounds like you're apologizing that you only play one team sport. Take that sentiment out and make it more streamlined to the fact that you enjoy working out, but believe it is important not to obsess about it.

ami1uwant Post #3 June 17,2011, 10:46am

Virtuoso

Joined: Feb 2008

Seattle, WA

Posts: 4,640

See profile

Moxie26 wrote :

Hey, I'm new and just want to see if my profile is on target. Just from reading some of the suggestions you all gave other people, I have already tweaked some of my info, but I'm sure there could be improvements! Sorry that some of it is bold for no reason... I can't seem to take it off.

Thanks in advance!

The one thing I'm most passionate about:
Since it says one thing: I'm most passionate about my family. We don't live close by right now, but I feel we are one of the tightest, most fun families I know. We don't take each other for granted, we support each other, and make it a priority to enjoy the time we have when we are together. Our get togethers usually include my mom's awesome cooking and lots of music (not going to say good music because sometimes that involves us singing karaoke).

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Most? I’m looking for a package deal... someone who is stable, responsible with their finances, generous when it comes to showing love SCREAMS GOLD DIGGER and appreciation, and someone who can relax and appreciate life. These are all important to me. My parents are best friends and strong teammates. They have the most comfortable, fun, and passionate love for each other. That's what I'm looking for in another person.

Occupation:Administrative Assistant
Age26
Height5' 2"
Wants Kids:Yes
Kids at Home:No
EthnicityWhite, non-Hispanic
Religion:Christian
Drinks:About once a week
Smokes:Never

The most influential person in my life has been:

It's hard to narrow down the most influential person, but my pediatrician influenced me when I was in middle school in a random, motivational speaker moment. He told me to keep as many doors open as possible. He said it’s a lot easier to figure out what you want in life when all the choices are still open.

The three things which I am most thankful for:

My Family
My Strength
My Travel Experiences

Three of my best life-skills are:

Entertaining in my home
Maintaining a network of close friends
Managing my finances

Connections to my family
A spacious kitchen, I love to cook and bake
Water- I drink a lot of it!
Rest
Good facewash and lotion

Happy
Rational
Passionate
Outgoing

Except for the one part in red your profile isnt all that bad.

At your age the fact is looks matter big time so your pics on your profile matter.

Moxie26 Post #4 June 17,2011, 10:58am

Newbie

Joined: Jun 2011

Posts: 9

See profile

ami1... ooo I'm so glad you pointed that out! What I was trying to get at there is, being sick of men who hold out on affection because they are worried it will make them seem too sensitive.... or weak.. I definitely don't want it to seem like I'm a gold digger!!! I dig my own gold!! Thank you so much.

And boschimsp.. I'll work on editing that now.. thank you!

lunabeach Post #5 June 17,2011, 11:58am

Veteran

Joined: Jun 2010

Ohio

Posts: 2,167

See profile

I don't think it says gold digger and if that's a red flag that goes of in someone's head to "generous in love and appreciation" that's their own issue. OP, you could phrase it a little differently if you like by I think it's pretty obvious that you mean you want a partner who will give of himself (not just his wallet).

It's a good profile - funny, quirky, lots of personality, and a unique tone that shows creativity.

You could reconsider this, " If you meet me, you'll see that I take good care of myself." because your pictures should say it all. Make sure you have some full length ones or a couple from an activity and that will go a lot farther than just telling the reader.

Talking about favorite places - even a little vaguely and just in terms of neighborhood - got a good response; I like really good food/non-chain (will happily go to a hole in the wall) type places so people who are similar in that regard already knew about them and could enthuse or were curious.

D_Lion Post #6 June 17,2011, 4:11pm

- Ladies want to wring my neck - you have been warned!

Sage

Joined: Aug 2008

Posts: 31,699

See profile

My reactions are in blue text. Red highlight I applied to your text is something which makes me especially likely to close; green highlight is something which makes me especially inclined to write.

Keep in mind that a large percentage of matches are abandoned profiles, or non-paying members, and will not write or reply for that reason.
Matches who view and don't write, or close you, are the ones to be more concerned over - especially those who were active during a free weekend.

Moxie26 wrote :

The one thing I'm most passionate about:
Since it says one thing: I'm most passionate about my family. We don't live close by right now, but I feel we are one of the tightest, most fun families I know. We don't take each other for granted, we support each other, and make it a priority to enjoy the time we have when we are together. Our get togethers usually include my mom's awesome cooking and lots of music (not going to say good music because sometimes that involves us singing karaoke).

Personally, I find this more appropriate for the "something else" or "leisure time" section.

It just doesn't define you as a unique, interesting person that I might want to meet, or hope to get romantically involved with.

Your profile should highlight your self-motivated acheivements better - especially a "most passionate" question.

Now, if family activities are consuming all your time, and you expect your partner to be part of that, then it's a bit more reasonable as an answer.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
Most? I’m looking for a package deal... someone who is stable, responsible with their finances, generous when it comes to showing love and appreciation, and someone who can relax and appreciate life. These are all important to me. My parents are best friends and strong teammates. They have the most comfortable, fun, and passionate love for each other. That's what I'm looking for in another person.

Nothing that you said to describe your parents is in the (long) list of things you used to describe your match! (Why is that?)

This is also too demanding. (If you want something, the way to get it is display that you have it, and let the like-minded people be drawn toward you.)

I would probably close this as soon as I read "finances, generous." (This, like profile photos obviously copied off the internet, is the frustration of male participation on dating sites.)

If I didn't close then, this demanding, entitled attitude would need to be measured up to in all aspects of what you bring to the table. Although that is possible, I learned that good, healthy people don't need, or bother, to make demands at all.

That said, temper my response with the knowledge that I have a decade on you, and it took me some time to figure this out. In your peers, it may not hurt you as much.

Occupation:Administrative Assistant
Age26
Height5' 2"
Wants Kids:Yes
Kids at Home:No
EthnicityWhite, non-Hispanic
Religion:Christian
Drinks:About once a week
Smokes:Never

The most influential person in my life has been:
It's hard to narrow down the most influential person, but my pediatrician influenced me when I was in middle school in a random, motivational speaker moment. He told me to keep as many doors open as possible. He said it’s a lot easier to figure out what you want in life when all the choices are still open.

Add in an example or positive story about yourself.

Remember, this is your profile on a dating site. It should induce me to want to meet you.

The three things which I am most thankful for:

My Family
My Strength
My Travel Experiences

Three of my best life-skills are:

Entertaining in my home
Maintaining a network of close friends
Managing my finances

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:That I throw a slammin costume karaoke brunch.... and, word on the street says I'm not to shabby at hosting what I call a soccer "party" either. (Basically, when there is a really good soccer match, I like having friends over to watch the game. We will usually make it pot luck style and just have fun.

The things I can't live without are:

Connections to my family
A spacious kitchen, I love to cook and bake
Water- I drink a lot of it!
Rest
Good facewash and lotion

The first thing people notice about me:I keep changing this because I don't know. I smile a lot, maybe they notice that I'm friendly and make good eye contact? Not sure if this is cheating, but I opted to phone a friend, and survey says; I'm "polite and approachable".... oo la la!!

In my experience, when a match or profile has claimed something with the phrase "people say ..." or "someone said ...", it's been wishful thinking at best and closer to an outright lie. I would completely redo this.

Some additional information I want you to know:
I didn't go on and on in each of these questions about how much I love to work out and how important it is to me. I work out at least 3 or 4 times a week and enjoy it, but I'm not going to pretend I'm obsessed. I don't play a lot of team sports other than soccer, but I love kayaking, swimming, running (1x per week +), yoga (2x per week), skiing, dancing in my livingroom?, and I have a gold medal in Curling...jk. I'm healthy and fit and that's what's important. If you meet me, you'll see that I take good care of myself.

I don't understand if this is your actual answer, or something you wrote on this service?

I typically spend my leisure time:
I love entertaining and having people over. I love watching soccer and trying new beers (together and separately). I'm a fan of game/trivia nights. I love living in the xxxxx and try to take advantage of all the awesome local, non-chain restaurants, bars, live music venues, sporting events, breweries, and other neat community gatherings. When I have larger amounts of leisure time (and have built up enough money in my travel fund), I love to travel... anywhere.

This needs a lot of edit for readability.

I would also rethink how to approach this.

You sound like you have huge amounts of free time, at an age where many peers will be in their first or second job out of university. Some people will still be in school at night (as I was), and many will be working a lot to establish themselves.

It's also an age where people look to attain higher quality housing, and may be contending with educational debt.

To my experience and preferance, your profile lacks a sense of maturity settling in. There is too much leisure and consumerism, and "love to travel - anywhere," now in combination with "financially secure and generous" is sending more reg flags.

Travel should be explained a bit more. In this peer group, with limited vacation time combined with the limitations I mentioned above, I'd like to see something about the trips you've taken recently and have planned.

The last book I read and enjoyed:
The last book I read and really enjoyed was Water for Elephants. To me it had the perfect amount of humor, action, romance, and history. I loved how the author described the characters and setting. She did a nice job. I was really happy when I found out they were making a movie based on the book, and even more happy with the result!

Nothing here is telling your matches anything about you.

My friends describe me as:

Happy
Rational
Passionate
Outgoing

For me, there is much to change / improve, here.

Some of the themes don't match what I'm looking for, and some of my reaction might be the age difference (though I did a lot of my dating at that age, and I would have closed this profile.)

Moxie26 Post #7 June 17,2011, 9:23pm

Newbie

Joined: Jun 2011

Posts: 9

See profile

D_Lion, I appreciate you taking the time to respond to my post. I wanted to hear the opinions of other eharm folks, and you gave me a lot to work with. That being said, I feel compelled to defend myself, despite the fact that my opinion of my own profile doesn’t mean anything about how people react to it.

To start, I’m not sure if you were trying to be cute when you said the green highlighted text is something which makes you inclined to write. If you knew you weren’t going to highlight anything in green, then leave that part out. I get it… you wouldn’t like me based on my profile, no need to be rude. As far as your reactions here are my thoughts, for what they are worth.

1. When asked to name one passion, I will say my family every time. I felt that it was important, right off the bat, to let someone know that close, tight knit relationships are important to me. That says something about my character. Not taking people for granted, knowing how to be supportive, and enjoying/appreciating time together speaks more about me than listing any achievements. I’m not defined my achievements alone and am very much a product of my family. Besides, I know that family, and others I’m close to, play a huge role in any achievement I attain.

2. I have a clear vision of what qualities I want in a partner. Nothing that I list here is something I’m not prepared to give back 100% in return. I think a good, healthy person should be able to identify what they want. Why beat around the bush when asked specifically what I’m looking for? Since I’m young, I’m not in a rush; this is an opportunity to be honest. If it takes a while to find this person, then so be it. And you couldn’t be more right, a like-minded person will be drawn to this and not look at this as entitled, but as honest. I’m putting myself out there sincerely; I could water this down, but why waste the opportunity to at least ask for what I want, maybe I’ll be lucky and get it.

3. You’re right to point out that I could share an example of how I applied this influential advice. Part of me, however, thinks that this could be a great stepping stone for conversation.

4. You’re probably not a fan of my use of slang here…but you did "a lot of dating" when you were my age in 1999. Lighten up, Bub!

5. I totally agree that someone might think I’m lying by saying “my friend said…” so I will tweak this to avoid that confusion. This question is awkward anyway and it seems like people don’t put a lot of stock in it. We all know that people usually notice physical traits first.

6. I’ve tweaked this section a lot, it was something I was having a hard time writing.

7. I’ve tweaked this section as well.

As far as your critique of my lifestyle, I’m not sure if you were trying to be helpful or if it made you feel better about yourself to point out these baseless observations, mostly centered around my maturity and age. I do have a lot of time outside of work to spend with friends and to pursue my interests. I’m a single, 26 year old woman with no kids. This is exactly the appropriate time for me to work and play. I’m in my second job out of school and work for one of the top ten hospitals in the world. I’ve received a raise every year since I started working there (3 years ago) and I’m holding off on getting my masters degree because I have a few more months before I become eligiable for 100% tuition reimbursement to any accredited university. At that point, a dual MBA/MHA is my goal. It would be impuslive and immature not to wait for that benefit. I’m not looking for higher quality housing because I have a nice apartment, in a safe area close to work. That works just fine as I patiently save up enough money to put 20% down on a house. I’m not contending debt of any type because I’ve worked hard and luckily learned how to budget at a young age.

If anything this is the definition of maturity. I purposely mentioned that I have a travel fund and save up before taking a trip because I know someone who budgets will recognize that language and give me credit for not charging a trip on a credit card or asking Mommy and Daddy. (Incidentally, a few of the people who have communicated with me so far have been accountants, banking auditors, and financial planners.)

It seems like you think I should be struggling more at my age, and it comes across like you fault me for not struggling more. Fortunately, I’m doing well and am looking for someone to share that with.

I was looking for suggestions about my profile because I’m new. I did not ask for you to criticize my lifestyle. The good news is the other three people who commented on this post gave great suggestions. I made some initial changes and have already received new communication. Also, D_lion, I leave for Germany in a few weeks… using my vacation time and paid for in cash.

Try not to assume people are lying or have major problems, otherwise you may miss a great thing when you see it.

sr71blackbird Post #8 June 18,2011, 7:03am

Quick Study

Joined: Mar 2011

Florida

Posts: 211

See profile

Moxie26 wrote :

To start, I’m not sure if you were trying to be cute when you said the green highlighted text is something which makes you inclined to write. If you knew you weren’t going to highlight anything in green, then leave that part out. I get it… you wouldn’t like me based on my profile, no need to be rude. As far as your reactions here are my thoughts, for what they are worth.

Just FYI- DL does a lot of indepth profile reviews and all of them include instructions you refer to. I think he has it saved on a word file because it looks identical each time he posts it. He was not being rude.

wrote :

1. When asked to name one passion, I will say my family every time. I felt that it was important, right off the bat, to let someone know that close, tight knit relationships are important to me. That says something about my character. Not taking people for granted, knowing how to be supportive, and enjoying/appreciating time together speaks more about me than listing any achievements. I’m not defined my achievements alone and am very much a product of my family. Besides, I know that family, and others I’m close to, play a huge role in any achievement I attain.

Family is important to a lot people on line dating. HOWEVER, the number objective in online dating is to stand out. Referencing family in the first section doesn't help you stand out.

wrote :

2. I have a clear vision of what qualities I want in a partner. Nothing that I list here is something I’m not prepared to give back 100% in return. I think a good, healthy person should be able to identify what they want. Why beat around the bush when asked specifically what I’m looking for? Since I’m young, I’m not in a rush; this is an opportunity to be honest. If it takes a while to find this person, then so be it. And you couldn’t be more right, a like-minded person will be drawn to this and not look at this as entitled, but as honest. I’m putting myself out there sincerely; I could water this down, but why waste the opportunity to at least ask for what I want, maybe I’ll be lucky and get it.

When I read your profile the "generous when it comes to showing love and appreciation" really stuck out to me in a negative way. It struck me as a needy comment. I didn't have a problem with the financially responsible line.

wrote :

3.

wrote :

You’re right to point out that I could share an example of how I applied this influential advice. Part of me, however, thinks that this could be a great stepping stone for conversation.

Being mysterious doesn't work on online dating. You have to give something to generate a spark in others interest.

wrote :

4.

wrote :

You’re probably not a fan of my use of slang here…but you did "a lot of dating" when you were my age in 1999. Lighten up, Bub!

I'm not a fan of slang in profiles either and I am your age.

wrote :

I was looking for suggestions about my profile because I’m new. I did not ask for you to criticize my lifestyle. The good news is the other three people who commented on this post gave great suggestions. I made some initial changes and have already received new communication. Also, D_lion, I leave for Germany in a few weeks… using my vacation time and paid for in cash.

Try not to assume people are lying or have major problems, otherwise you may miss a great thing when you see it.

You posted your profile to get others feedback on it. DL gave his honest reaction (and what he reads into your profile).

Many of the reactions to specific comments items that DL made were made repeated a couple times by others (finance, emotionally generous, for example.)

I think the reason that DL made the comment on the lifestyle thing had to do with your job. Admin Assistants are not highly paid, (According to Salary.com, the median one makes 35k) which means that most don't have the kind of money to blow on travel and nights out on the town every night. It doesn't add and when things don't add up people tend to think the profile is not honest. Maybe there is more representative job title to use because Admin Asst doesn't seem like a job that requires an Bachleors degree. (Assuming you have a Bachleor's degree because you reference wanting an MBA.)

You only have one chance to make a first impression and unlike this forum, you never get a chance to defend your profile. When people don't like your profile, they close you and move on.

D_Lion Post #9 June 18,2011, 9:33am

- Ladies want to wring my neck - you have been warned!

Sage

Joined: Aug 2008

Posts: 31,699

See profile

I find your reply more appealing than the profile itself.

1. When asked to name one passion, I will say my family every time. I felt that it was important, right off the bat, to let someone know that close, tight knit relationships are important to me.

This seems too commonplace; too small of a dream. That's why I'd put these ideas elsewhere, and something more unique and individual, here.

Sure, that's a matter of personal preferance, but I try to include my preferances in my comments, and explain my reasoning. For sure, you may wish to avoid matches like me (not family oriented), so it's a positive secondary outcome.

I do think, though, that the modal female view or preferance may not be the optimal one, for attracting the modal - or even the targeted - male.

2. I have a clear vision of what qualities I want in a partner. Nothing that I list here is something I’m not prepared to give back 100% in return. I think a good, healthy person should be able to identify what they want.

Oh, I agree. It's just that, from experience, I have learned that I did much better at getting the people I was looking for when I described it in myself, rather than listed it as what I wanted from them.

This change improved my success - and once I realized that, I became attuned to spotting it in matches.

4. You’re probably not a fan of my use of slang here…but you did "a lot of dating" when you were my age in 1999. Lighten up, Bub!

I favor humor in profiles, but not slang or obscure cultural referances.

As far as your critique of my lifestyle, I’m not sure if you were trying to be helpful or if it made you feel better about yourself to point out these baseless observations, mostly centered around my maturity and age.

It seems like you think I should be struggling more at my age, and it comes across like you fault me for not struggling more. Fortunately, I’m doing well and am looking for someone to share that with.

Not at all. But, I do think some of the challanges I mentioned earlier will be more common than not in your matches - and that's the good news: many won't even be at that level.

My reaction to the profile is that I thought many typical young men would have a hard time seeing where they fit into your life. I see this as significant, and my suggestions are based on reducing that risk.

To my taste, how you write and what you say are better if you took the style in the reply - it results in a perception which "makes more sense" - and provides, for me, a clear sense of "fit."

Although you can knock me for using inferance and experience to screen matches, when I was 30 I had 15 - 20 matches a week. At the time I could only meet one per week (I just didn't have the time for two - and that was the best, as I took weekend OT when I could get it), so if I closed 90% immediately for obvious compatibility, I still had to use some "tie-breakers" in GC to choose who to meet.

Obviously, one opinion doesn't matter (though the male comments appear to validate my reaction, by and large.) It is a dissapointing limitation that these threads often get only a few comments - and often none from the OP's target audience.

HelenDanger Post #10 June 18,2011, 10:14am

happy to be back!

Veteran

Joined: Jun 2011

The South, for the moment.

Posts: 1,164

See profile

"When asked to name one passion, I will say my family every time. I felt that it was important, right off the bat, to let someone know that close, tight knit relationships are important to me. That says something about my character. Not taking people for granted, knowing how to be supportive, and enjoying/appreciating time together speaks more about me than listing any achievements. I’m not defined my achievements alone and am very much a product of my family. Besides, I know that family, and others I’m close to, play a huge role in any achievement I attain.

I have a clear vision of what qualities I want in a partner. Nothing that I list here is something I’m not prepared to give back 100% in return. I think a good, healthy person should be able to identify what they want. Why beat around the bush when asked specifically what I’m looking for? Since I’m young, I’m not in a rush; this is an opportunity to be honest. If it takes a while to find this person, then so be it. And you couldn’t be more right, a like-minded person will be drawn to this and not look at this as entitled, but as honest. I’m putting myself out there sincerely; I could water this down, but why waste the opportunity to at least ask for what I want, maybe I’ll be lucky and get it.

I do have a lot of time outside of work to spend with friends and to pursue my interests. I’m a single, 26 year old woman with no kids. This is exactly the appropriate time for me to work and play. I’m in my second job out of school and work for one of the top ten hospitals in the world. I’ve received a raise every year since I started working there (3 years ago) and I’m holding off on getting my masters degree because I have a few more months before I become eligiable for 100% tuition reimbursement to any accredited university. At that point, a dual MBA/MHA is my goal. It would be impuslive and immature not to wait for that benefit. I’m not looking for higher quality housing because I have a nice apartment, in a safe area close to work. That works just fine as I patiently save up enough money to put 20% down on a house. I’m not contending debt of any type because I’ve worked hard and luckily learned how to budget at a young age."

Put some of this stuff in there (leaving out the too personally identifiable bits). You really spoke your mind to D_Lion and your authenticity came through. Well, that and that you were a little ticked off at him. Take out the irritation, and you've got yourself some great material!

« Profile review help for a 41 year old female. | Using eHarmony | Profile Review - Female 49 »

Topic Tools	Search this Thread
Show Printable Version Email this Page	Search this Thread: Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics You may not post replies You may not post attachments You may not edit your posts	BB code is On Smilies are On [IMG] code is On HTML code is On Trackbacks are On Pingbacks are On Refbacks are Off
Boards Rules

Topic	Topic Starter	Board	Replies	Last Post
Similar Topics
What NOT to say in my "About Me" Profile	SarcasticInSeattle	Using eHarmony	38	July 19,2011 10:21pm
Profile Review 26/Female	asterisk	Using eHarmony	3	June 4,2011 5:08pm
Please Review New Female Profile (Thanks) & Rates of Communication	Hope4Joy	Using eHarmony	25	May 1,2011 8:28pm
Profile Review: Five months of failure, please help!	Larch	Using eHarmony	29	February 1,2011 10:56am
Personality Profile: is it grossly incorrect?	Sparkles56	Using eHarmony	29	November 1,2010 6:08pm

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:

seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:

Must be at least 5 characters

How did you hear about us?

Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

Topic • Category	Views	Posts
She stared at my feet. Is this normal? • Dating	0	39
Exit interview after unsuccessful date • Dating	0	4
Should I ever date in college? • Dating	0	21
Did he poof? • Dating	0	19
Match from another country...is he a "fraud"? • Dating	0	41
Comment to win a FREE month of eHarmony! • Dating	0	19
It's a matter of fit • Dating	0	9
53340 more topics in our discussion boards. Join the conversation!

“ Where's the other boot?” – Breezy1

Join the “She stared at my feet. Is this normal?” discussion

“Exit interviews are highly recommended in many dating books and in other life strategy books. They are very effective. I think he would answer honestly to the some point. I know that is horrible and ... ” – biking_girl

Join the “Exit interview after unsuccessful date” discussion

“And I'd also add that while a successful stable job down the road and a solid income is helpful in attracting a woman, it's no guarantee that finding love will be easy for you. I know plenty of men ... ” – boschimsp

Join the “Should I ever date in college?” discussion

“I think if someone says they can't meet you for weeks, they are lukewarm interested. Even if he were truly busy with a project, he'd be able to drop you an email or a text here and there. I took ... ” – Carole1520

Join the “Did he poof?” discussion

“ Yes, illegal aliens aren't treated as illegals. lol OP, trust your gut. A few months ago, I met a guy on match, who said his membership was expiring, and gave me his IM so we could chat. I ... ” – Carole1520

Join the “Match from another country...is he a "fraud"?” discussion

“Stop humping my leg.” – Breezy1

Join the “Comment to win a FREE month of eHarmony!” discussion

“I thought this thread was about exercise. Positive OP though...nice to see.” – Breezy1

Join the “It's a matter of fit” discussion

All times are GMT -8. The time now is 7:53pm.

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:

seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:

Must be at least 5 characters

How did you hear about us?

Featured Groups

20ish and proud to be...

20ish and proud to be...
Creative Writing!

Creative Writing!: Creative writing, for people who love to write. Poetry, short stories, fiction, non-fiction, talk, chat, network, etc. Do you journal? What's your favorite book? Come on in and take it easy.

These Readers Want Your Advice!

"No head, no shirt, no service!"
"Picture of his dead wife in the bedroom"
"The lost art of conversation..."

Connect with Advice Members

cal_dude

Interests: Beach, Hanging Out With Friends, Board Games, Cooking, Home Improvement, People Watching, Reading/Writing, and more... View profile
Ephemera

"Interests: Carving Out Niches For Myself With Power Tools" View profile

Profile Help 26/Female

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Related Articles

Featured Groups

20ish and proud to be...

Creative Writing!

These Readers Want Your Advice!

Connect with Advice Members

cal_dude

Ephemera

Dating Advice

Off Topic