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ifpacpt is offline ifpacpt Post #1  June 16,2011, 5:51pm
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Hi,

I just joined the site about a few weeks ago. I noticing that many users are really not active. Is this how this site works? I mean there a lot of matches, yet many dont even log in much to communicate with you..
out oif maybe 80 matches, according to eharmony I may have 3 im taling to..

is it me or is the marketing behind eharmony misleading since many users are not active.. ??
 
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sony12 is offline sony12 Post #3  June 16,2011, 6:15pm
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ifpacpt wrote :
Hi,

I just joined the site about a few weeks ago. I noticing that many users are really not active. Is this how this site works? I mean there a lot of matches, yet many dont even log in much to communicate with you..
out oif maybe 80 matches, according to eharmony I may have 3 im taling to..

is it me or is the marketing behind eharmony misleading since many users are not active.. ??
Some people don't have any problem getting people to communicate with them while others don't have any luck at all.

It's tough to say how many are paying members but based upon the amount of responses I get I have always felt it is around 60%.

By the way it is never a good idea to become a member right after a free communication event. Because you will get a lot of new matches who are just leftovers from the event and have no intention to pay.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #4  June 16,2011, 7:31pm
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As The Thinker said many of your matches are non-paying members and most non-paying members are also non-active. Unlike Sony12 I found about 90% to be in the non-communicative group.

As a paying member you have the new Active Within feature so you can tell who is at least been active recently. Send First Questions to the ones that are at least active within the past week and forget about everyone else. If they respond, great. If they don't respond but are still indicated as being active then put them in the rude category and move on to your next batch of matches.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
As a paying member you have the new Active Within feature so you can tell who is at least been active recently. Send First Questions to the ones that are at least active within the past week and forget about everyone else. If they respond, great. If they don't respond but are still indicated as being active then put them in the rude category and move on to your next batch of matches.
I didn't even know that was a feature. Thanks!
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
As The Thinker said many of your matches are non-paying members and most non-paying members are also non-active. Unlike Sony12 I found about 90% to be in the non-communicative group.

As a paying member you have the new Active Within feature so you can tell who is at least been active recently. Send First Questions to the ones that are at least active within the past week and forget about everyone else. If they respond, great. If they don't respond but are still indicated as being active then put them in the rude category and move on to your next batch of matches.
Greatguy even though your age group might not be as active as mine I do think you use your 90% inactive theory as a bit of an excuse as to why people don't (or didn't) talk to you anymore then they did.
 
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There are all kinds out there. One EH match told me that she 'doesn't use the internet' to explain the one to two week intervals between responses. Kinda missing the point then, if she signed up for an internet dating service.

I found that all of the internet dating services, its all about the numbers. I found that out of all of the initial matches, approx. one in five actually interested me, or was not immediately dismissed as non-serious or deceitful (self or otherwise). Of those matches, approx. one in five would initially respond to my first communication. One in five of those would lead to e-mail and/or telephone conversations. One in five of those would lead to a face to face. A hot property should be able to improve upon my numbers, but you get the idea.
 
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This reminds me of a great story! An elderly man walks down Main Street early one morning on the way to his favorite coffee shop. As he's walking along a young couple approaches him. The young woman smiles and says hi and he smiles and says hi back. She then states, "We just moved here and I was wondering how friendly people are here?" The elderly man replies, "How were the people were you lived before?" She smiles and says, "They were REALLY friendly!" to which he replies, "That's the way they are here too."
They part ways and he gets to his coffee shop where there is a young man standing out front who says hi and he says hi back. This young man asks the same question after stating that he just moved to town. The elderly man asks, "How were the people were you lived before?" The young man looks down at the ground and says, "They weren't very friendly." The elderly man says, "That's how they are here too."

As far as matches being dorment, you have to remember that some people are dating others or communicating with others so not everyone will be watching their communication notifications. It's also summer so some people may be on vacation. There are many reasons that someone may be "Dorment". For me, I'm in OC with someone and I've not logged on in several days.
 
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About 75% of your eharmony matches are nonmembers who only may show up on free communication times.

Of the 25% that remain....about 15% are currently dating someone else and arent going to communicate with you at this tim...or they prepaid for a year and either got a relationship or gave up.
 
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What about if they're active (one match I'm interested in is active almost every day) but don't respond at all? She's viewed me twice but I don't want to freak her out by sending an EH email (already nudged)
 
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