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SteveManchesterEngland is offline SteveManchesterEngland Post #21  June 21,2011, 8:03am
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If someone nudges you then I think the Close button should be replaced with another button called "No Thank You" which if clicked displays the Close confirmation screen.
 
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I do miss the close option greatly. Sure, being closed isn't fun, but it's better than perma-stage 1. Was archive added to stop so many closings as a marketing ploy?

I really just get the feeling eH just isn't as popular/used as it once was.
 
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SteveManchesterEngland wrote :
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The archive folder only holds profiles where neither of you have communicated. Therefore there is no major harm in failing to close them.

If you have in the 'communicating folder' numerous profiles of people who you are failing to respond to - these are the ones you should either CLOSE or progress so they can move on to focus on those who are interested.
Excellent point. I actually used to keep up with this stuff. Now I just tend to reply directly when I get an eH email saying I have contact from specific matches I'm interested in. Burnout, aided by Archive mess. ( I'll act more responsibly now.)
 
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Bearguy98 wrote :
I do miss the close option greatly. Sure, being closed isn't fun, but it's better than perma-stage 1. Was archive added to stop so many closings as a marketing ploy?
That seems to be the most commonly accepted theory. I don't believe eH ever stated an official reason for it.

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I really just get the feeling eH just isn't as popular/used as it once was.
Yep.
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Bearguy98 wrote :
I do miss the close option greatly. Sure, being closed isn't fun, but it's better than perma-stage 1. Was archive added to stop so many closings as a marketing ploy?

I really just get the feeling eH just isn't as popular/used as it once was.
I'm pretty sure the close option is there since I got closed by a match in the 3rd round of questions.
 
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As more people get online and try online dating, those people learn the reality of it and leave.

I believe it takes a rare and unique set of circumstances for online dating to result in two genuinely compatible people to meet in real life and establish a fulfilling, long term relationship.

For the rest, it is largely as waste of time, money, and effort...or a temporary form of entertainment.
 
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SteveManchesterEngland wrote :
Paintandbooks....

The archive folder only holds profiles where neither of you have communicated. Therefore there is no major harm in failing to close them.

If you have in the 'communicating folder' numerous profiles of people who you are failing to respond to - these are the ones you should either CLOSE or progress so they can move on to focus on those who are interested.
This is how I handled things when I was on EH too. Sometimes, matches would send a communication from my Archive folder, in which case they usually got a close. I don't have a problem with the Archive function, except for the fact that it is really a "soft close" and kind of taking the coward's way out. Most users consider it the same as "close". However, it really used to irk me when matches would view - and then view again after a nudge - but then never bother to close. Are you trying to spare my feelings? Really, you're just irking me more with your decided lack of interest - so much so that you can't even bother to click "Close" at that point.
 
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As more people get online and try online dating, those people learn the reality of it and leave.

I believe it takes a rare and unique set of circumstances for online dating to result in two genuinely compatible people to meet in real life and establish a fulfilling, long term relationship.

For the rest, it is largely as waste of time, money, and effort...or a temporary form of entertainment.
Have to disagree here. In general there are still a lot of really good daters who use dating sites and they use it as an added extension to real life.

The problems you run into is when you come across people who have come to the dating sites because nobody likes them in real life. They are usually the ones who fail and they fail because they were not good daters and fun people to be around to begin with. You can still have a good time on dating sites but you need to learn how to avoid the people who need to be avoided.
 
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eha_answer_man wrote :
...I believe it takes a rare and unique set of circumstances for online dating to result in two genuinely compatible people to meet in real life and establish a fulfilling, long term relationship.
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from my experience this isn't true.

and I've met more people who are more compatible with me via online dating than I've ever met in real life. real life is random and yields results which are hard to control. online dating allowed significantly more filtering before dating.

I think it's actually the other way round - it's rare in the real world for 2 genuinely compatible people to meet and establish a fulfilling, long term relationship. Most people I've known who got into relationships in the real world hardly filtered and settled and picked from a very small pool..... and then only during the dating or relationship stage discovered incompatibilities.

Like Sony says - there is also an element within online dating who are there because they have issues. Those are the ones to avoid and if you are in the pool of the ones who have "issues" you need to sort your issues out before you go dating or you will get loads of rejection. Issues could be poor presentation, baggage, attitude problems or just being a very uninteresting person.
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Have to disagree here. In general there are still a lot of really good daters who use dating sites and they use it as an added extension to real life.

The problems you run into is when you come across people who have come to the dating sites because nobody likes them in real life. They are usually the ones who fail and they fail because they were not good daters and fun people to be around to begin with. You can still have a good time on dating sites but you need to learn how to avoid the people who need to be avoided.
This is very well stated. There are people with good interpersonal skills who use online dating just to expand their pool, and there are people whose pool was small because of poor interpersonal skills. The latter group isn't going to find any more success than they did with other dating, but I found plenty of people in the former group.
 
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