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adventure714 is offline adventure714 Post #1  June 16,2011, 1:16am
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I'm a guy and a woman is asking me these questions.

1. What do find physically attractive?

My answer: I find a pretty smile combined with gorgeous eyes really attractive. You can get a good idea about someone's mood by looking into their eyes and there's nothing like a sexy smile.

2. Describe your personal style?

I find this question a little strange. What does my style say about my personality?

Here's my style. I wear my hair short and well groomed with hairgel. Sometimes I wear a visor if I don't feel like putting gel in my hair. I shop at JCPenny and some name brand stores. Most of the time I wear button down shirts with a T-shirt underneath with my favorite pair of jeans. I also wear Polo shirts. When I go for casual dress, than I wear My Calvin Klein dress shirts with either slacks or jeans. I also wear a silver necklace. Overall, I try to like sharp and clean cut. No torn or faded clothes in my closet.
 
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annother is offline annother Post #2  June 16,2011, 2:15am
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Your replies are fine. I agree that the personal style question is strange, but it can be answered in a number of ways. For example, you could make a joke of it or compare yourself to famous people. You provide some detail which is more than most people.
 
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adventure714 wrote :
I'm a guy and a woman is asking me these questions.
There's nothing right or wrong with your answers. Your answers reveal something of you. My answers reveal something of me.

Nothing you've said would be a general red flag.
 
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I'd sort of think personal style is like: preppy, hip hop, surfer dude etc....but it's an odd question and I don't know if it applied to many middle-aged men (I don't know how old you are).

Frankly, around here most of the guys over 35 are in khaki shorts and those tommy bahama or golf shirts.
 
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I hate the physically attractive question! It is so awkward when you have the match's picture right in front of you. If he is bald and I say "I love men with a headful of grey or silver hair" or if he is clean shaven and I say "Facial hair really does it for me", he will be disappointed; if I describe him exactly, it's cheating.
 
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Dropdeadredtx wrote :
I hate the physically attractive question! It is so awkward when you have the match's picture right in front of you. If he is bald and I say "I love men with a headful of grey or silver hair" or if he is clean shaven and I say "Facial hair really does it for me", he will be disappointed; if I describe him exactly, it's cheating.
I agree, I don't like this question and have had it twice now in the last few weeks. If the match doesn't look like what you are physically attracted to, then how do you answer this one???
 
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Every time I get the physical attraction question, it has been that the match's pictures are not representative of her today. Usually they are old but some have been taken at creative angles/body positions where the body type is hidden. On those occasions, the match also had body image issues, which is a deal breaker for me.
 
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I dislike both of these questions.

The physically attractive question always seems like a trap question for many of the same reasons that Dropdeadredtx cited. It also seems like I see this question almost universally from women that would not be considered "mainstream" attractive.

The personal style question is rather abstract for me. I don't go out buying clothes with the idea that "this will complete my beach bum look" or whatever. I don't really keep up with fashion trends. I just buy what I like.
 
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MicMan wrote :
I dislike both of these questions.

The physically attractive question always seems like a trap question for many of the same reasons that Dropdeadredtx cited. It also seems like I see this question almost universally from women that would not be considered "mainstream" attractive.

The personal style question is rather abstract for me. I don't go out buying clothes with the idea that "this will complete my beach bum look" or whatever. I don't really keep up with fashion trends. I just buy what I like.
Funny you said that, because when I was eharmony I got that question from a couple men, and as you describe they were not "'mainstream attractive." Puzzled me because they have a choice to ask any question they want, and that is what they choose to ask? I mean, I am communicating with them, so if I did not find them attractive in some way, then I would have closed them out.

As far as the other question, "personal style" I met a match that had asked me that question during GC, so I asked him why he had asked that question.....his answer was "he wanted to know if I dressed like a slob"
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Both these questions are pretty ridiculous.
tell her: someone like you! I've obviously seen your photos and we're in communication...so let's meet...when and where?

To the second: you'll see my style when we meet..howzzat?

Good lord.
 
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