Profile review 48 y/o female

Hey gang, I have had about 130-something matches in the past 6 weeks and not one guy has initiated contact with me. I have initiated with about 60 and only 3 responded. This isn't going very well for me.

I am a therapist (child). The matches I am getting are from doctors, lawyers, engineers, hell a nuclear something or other. I swear all almost all of them sail or boat or love to visit their second home in the Bahamas or Bimini or something. Some go parasailing, snow skiing, ziplining etc.

I am not a bikini girl. But I'm not obese. The furthest I got was with 1 guy who said he had to lose 20 pounds. Any input?




Who has influenced me:
[DELETE: So many people, I can't say just one person.] As a group I nominate my childhood friends; we all helped to mold each other, set some foundations and get & keep each other on track - still do.


This is ok, but just "ok." I think friends are fine (some readers like to hear about career-ish stuff)...I'd personalize it a bit if you stick with this. My childhood friends Liz and Tanya. We met in kindergarten and played in the "mean streets" (okay cul de sacs) of Portland and went to Catholic school together...although everyone is moved away we still talk every week" or somesuch.

Most important quality:
Smiles - he smiles and he makes me smile whether I'm with him or just thinking about him. I want to be able to talk serious stuff and not-so serious stuff.

Oh, and my dream man is someone who knows the difference between good and well - and IS not afraid to use it.

If you are going to be a grammar queen, you have to walk the walk. Note: this MAY give the impression you are uptight (might consider lightening the mood/humor..ie you give passes for men who drawl "you all").

What do people notice about me:
I can be gregarious, not loud (well maybe sometimes) but social and extroverted. Most people know when I'm around.


What people don't notice:
I may be joking and fun, but I am taking it all in. The blonde is natural, no peroxide has soaked in to this brain.

This reads negative to me rather than humorous. Can't tell if it's because I am blonde or not, better let others give feedback.

5 things -
my friends - they're my base.
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Chocolate
Pets
Can live w/out a guy, but would rather not.

Try to add in some specifics...create more hooks or ME TOO moments. What type of chocolate/pets? Ie are you white chocolate and iguanas?

Last book:
I read a fictional account of the life of Mary - Jesus' mother. When I got it from the library I thought it was about Mary Todd Lincoln. Oops. It was pretty interesting though.

I don't do as much leisure reading lately. Most is professional reading.


Addtional Info:
Extra points for the guys who have pictures of their pets and for those that are handy around the house. Note: To me, killing a spider or bringing in a case of water is handy around the house.


Passion:
I am very passionate about helping others and my career. I am on a second career and loving it. I still am involved in my old stuff (working w/ special needs children & adults). I just wanted to learn and challenge myself so I went back for a second Masters and started again.

This is pretty good. Might add what your career is (you told us)...ie therapist for kids.

Thnakful for:
My close friends, past and present.
My parents for instilling basic values - family, work ethic, education, helping others etc.
My career. I am fortunate enough to get up everyday and love what I do.

What friends say:
good listener, caring, intelligent, funny

Life Skills:
Using humor
helping those less fortunate
being a good friend and companion

Leisure Time:
Board games (like???), new restaurants (especially Thai) , TV, street and art festivals, out with the girls doing girlie stuff, yardwork, explore and walking on beach and the State Parks.

If I get the chance, I take long weekends and go to new places. I have been to 26 states and want to make it to all 50.

Add something here maybe? Favorite states? Wierdest sites you've seen (biggest ball of string...don't really need to revisit that one) etc. I don't see much in the way of sports/gym if you are into that.

Who has influenced me:
So many people, I can't say just one person. As a group I nominate my childhood friends; we all helped to mold each other, set some foundations and get & keep each other on track - still do. This answer is fine although some people prefer a more specific answer such as my best friend Sue did xyz


Most important quality:
Smiles - he smiles and he makes me smile whether I'm with him or just thinking about him. I want to be able to talk about serious stuff and not-so serious stuff.

Oh, and my dream man is someone who knows the difference between good and well - and not afraid to use it. This reads appallingly snooty and ironic at the same time given some grammatical errors in your profile. I'd delete this part.

What do people notice about me:
I can be gregarious, not loud (well maybe sometimes) but social and extroverted. Most people know when I'm around. This reads as that loud annoying person you wish would pipe down and will spook men and people at large. It's good to say that you are social and extroverted, but when you add in that you are loud and weakly deny it, it just ends up reading as LOUD.


What people don't notice:
I may be joking and fun but I am taking it all in. The blonde is natural, no peroxide has soaked in to this brain. Wow....don't even know what to say here. Attitude and being insulting to other women is not exactly an endearing quality. I would run away screaming from any person with that kind of attitude regardless of gender.

5 things -
my friends - they're my base.
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Chocolate If you are overweight....this is probably not the best choice of can't live without as he just pictured you gaining another 100lbs by stuffing chocolate uncontrollably....
Pets what kind, how many? Are you that crazy cat lady with 20 stray cats you've "adopted"????
Can live w/out a guy, but would rather not. Again...wow....if I were a guy, I'd click close because this reads like a militant feminist and again not endearing or encouraging to someone seeking a happy relationship with a woman.

Last book:
I read a fictional account of the life of Mary - Jesus' mother. When I got it from the library I thought it was about Mary Todd Lincoln. Oops. It was pretty interesting though. So what was interesting about it? What appealed to you?

I don't do as much leisure reading lately. Most is professional reading. Unnecessary statement that's just wasting space.


Addtional Info:
Extra points for the guys who have pictures of their pets and for those that are handy around the house. Note: To me, killing a spider or bringing in a case of water is handy around the house. This again reads very negative and demanding at the same time. I'd delete this whole paragraph and rewrite it from scratch. This is a good place to maybe tell your matches that you have xyz pets or some such.


Passion:
I am very passionate about helping others and my career. I am on a second career and loving it. I still am involved in my old stuff (working w/ special needs children & adults). I just wanted to learn and challenge myself so I went back for a second Masters and started again. Good answer.


Thnakful for:
My close friends, past and present.
My parents for instilling basic values - family, work ethic, education, helping others etc.
My career. I am fortunate enough to get up everyday and love what I do.

What friends say:
good listener, caring, intelligent, funny

Life Skills:
Using humor
helping those less fortunate
being a good friend and companion

Leisure Time:
Board games, new restaurants, TV, street and art festivals, out with the girls doing girlie stuff, yardwork, explore and walking on beach and the State Parks.

If I get the chance, I take long weekends and go to new places. I have been to 26 states and want to make it to all 50.

K - thank you. I know what you're saying it's not warm and fuzzy and I have already warmed it up. All my warm fuzzies are spent on troubled kids all day. I'll make revisions. I am also going to look at my questionnaire because I am starting to think I put down somewhere something wrong. I don't work out or go to a gym, and maybe I hit that by accident. I don't have children. I had two pictures up; in one I was smiling.

Thanks, Lu