dowahsippydo is offline dowahsippydo Post #1  June 15,2011, 7:08am
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I had an experience recently that I wanted to share.

During open email with a match, I was asking about leisure time activities. On her profile, she indicated that her leisure activities were "anything that both of us would enjoy." So, I ask her what she likes to do outdoors. "Walk, flea markets." I ask her what she likes to do indoors. "Movies." Does she read, play games (card, board, video), what kind of movies? "I don't play video games. I usually can find better things to do with my time." I ask again, what kind of activities? "Walk, flea markets."

Yea, so, I send her an email indicating that I've enjoyed getting to know her, but I'm not feeling a connection. Her response? "Yeah, such as that I have better things to do than play video games all day."

Closed that puppy right quick!
 
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sounds like she was a poor communicator? perhaps low IQ. what did she put down as her job?

I do find some people are hard work to email or talk to and it's because either we just don't connect mentally or I'm just frustrated by their lower IQ.
 
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dowahsippydo wrote :
Her response? "Yeah, such as that I have better things to do than play video games all day."

Closed that puppy right quick!
Wise choice. There's no bigger red flag to me than when someone has that sort of combative interpersonal style with someone they haven't even met and are theoretically wanting to date. That's way more telling than her actual interests. Differences in interests can be overcome much more easily than that type of attitude.
 
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nick222 wrote :
Wise choice. There's no bigger red flag to me than when someone has that sort of combative interpersonal style with someone they haven't even met and are theoretically wanting to date. That's way more telling than her actual interests. Differences in interests can be overcome much more easily than that type of attitude.
True that.
 
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SteveManchesterEngland wrote :
sounds like she was a poor communicator? perhaps low IQ. what did she put down as her job?

I do find some people are hard work to email or talk to and it's because either we just don't connect mentally or I'm just frustrated by their lower IQ.
Or, because they have bad manners! This woman's response was, simply, rude.
 
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Or, because they have bad manners! This woman's response was, simply, rude.
Yeah. It might have been low intelligence, or personality disorder, or just horrible communication. It's tough to say. None of those are desirable traits in a partner, though.
 
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perhaps she receives a lot of rejection so has developed a poor/rude attitude.
 
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nick222 wrote :
Yeah. It might have been low intelligence, or personality disorder, or just horrible communication. It's tough to say. None of those are desirable traits in a partner, though.
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perhaps she receives a lot of rejection so has developed a poor/rude attitude.
You guys are so nice!
 
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Who knows - maybe her last BF was a guy who sat around playing video games all day long...

Still, she was indeed rude about it, so good thing to close her.
 
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annother wrote :
You guys are so nice!
Don't get me wrong, you're still completely right that it was rude. We were just speculating on the origins of the rudeness. My response (closing the match) would be the same regardless.
 
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