adventure714 is offline adventure714 Post #1  June 15,2011, 6:56am
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Hey everyone,

I said lets get together for a cup of coffee in my last email to one of my matches. I was going on vacation to Hawaii, so she said yes to coffee and gave me her number and said for me to call her when I get back. I saw her email and sent her text before I left.

Me: 6/3 "Hey, It's "name", here's my number, have a great weekend . I'll be back from Hawaii next weekend."

She texted me on 6/08: "Hey "name", hope you having a great time in Hawaii!"

I didn't see the text till Friday 6/10. I sent her "Hi, I'm having a great time. Hope you had a great week. The weather has been weird, but's not going to stop me from having fun. Do you have some fun plans this weekend?"

No reply.

Saturday 6/11, I got back from vacation and called her to talk and set-up a coffee date. No answer, so I left a message. Later that day, I got a text from her. "Hey! im working all day today. give a call soon!" I replied, "sounds good"

Monday 6/13 she texted me at 10:30pm. Hey! sorry havent gotten back to u, setting up big shoots take a lot time for a couple day. after tom things will chill. hope hawaii was great! talk soon."

I replied same day, "Hey. Minus 10 points. :P Haha! It's no problem. I understand how hard it is to organize shoots. I had a roommate who is a camera operator. Feel free to call me when u get some free time. Talk to you soon. "

I'm use to taking the lead of calling and setting up dates during the initial phase of dating. Something my Dad taught me. Should I call her again or wait until she calls me like I said in my text?

By the way I don't like texting. I think it has made the phone impersonal. But, I got on the texting bad wagon like everyone else age 35 and below. I think it would be rude if I don't reply to people's texts or initiate some here and there. Would it be weird if I stop texting, unless really neccessary?
 
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ring her and ask her when she would like to meet up.
 
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TheThinker is offline TheThinker Post #3  June 15,2011, 7:13am
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SteveManchesterEngland wrote :
ring her and ask her when she would like to meet up.
Yep.
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you're at the point, right now that if you continue with the texting here, you're gonna lose track of who said what to whom....get on the phone and talk to set it up..
But she sounds cool and she definitely sounds interested in you...go for it guy!
Good luck.
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annother is offline annother Post #4  June 15,2011, 8:09am
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I agree with the others. You are now beyond what a brief text can accomplish. Call, have a real conversation, and make a date.
 
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Ditto.

And it doesn't hurt to say somewhere along the lines, that texts are good for short/emergency communications but they don't beat a phone call/the sound of her voice.
 
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adventure714 wrote :
By the way I don't like texting. I think it has made the phone impersonal. But, I got on the texting bad wagon like everyone else age 35 and below.
I think it's funny that your post had this little "Freudian slip" about texting!

I hate texting, too, but it has become a necessary evil with online dating. It does occasionally have it's merits.

However, at this point, I think you should pick up the phone and call her. If you get her VM, leave a message (because it's weird if you call and don't leave a VM. With caller ID, she'll know). If she doesn't return your call, then you have your answer, and it's time to move on.
 
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