Asking Someone Out via Open Communication Email? Is it okay?


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CKN is offline CKN Post #1  June 14,2011, 8:43pm
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So as the topic says, is it okay to ask a match out on a date via email in the open communication stage or is this frowned upon because it is not on a phone or in person.

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Not sure you can even do that, but why not?
 
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gregs4fun wrote :
Not sure you can even do that, but why not?
Like the eharmony mail part... step 4... maybe it is guided communication. The part where you just email each other back and forth via eharmony.

Just wondering if there is some form of etiquette to this.
 
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my5cents is offline my5cents Post #4  June 14,2011, 10:13pm
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It is absolutely okay and expected. Just say, "I'd love to go out to coffee or meet up sometime soon. I can either give you a call or you can call me (give them your number)." Then you can either arrange the date via e-mail or call and set something up. It's pretty much whatever you both feel comfortable with.
 
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You're on a dating site. Being asked out is expected.

Do it in whatever manner you feel comfortable and your "match" will surely agree you chose the right way to go about it!
 
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my5cents wrote :
It is absolutely okay and expected.
Yep. I'd say somewhere around half of my eH first dates involved one person or the other asking via open communication.

CKN wrote :
or in person.
I'm curious, how would you ask in person? You're not going to see each other unless one of you asks the other to get together.
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CKN wrote :
So as the topic says, is it okay to ask a match out on a date via email in the open communication stage or is this frowned upon because it is not on a phone or in person.

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of course!...that's the whole point of it.
 
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This question brings to mind all the comments in different threads about someone emailing too long without actually setting up a date to meet ......remember no one is on a dating site looking for a penpal.
Yes not only is it okay to ask someone to meet via OC email, but expected.
 
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It has to be some sort of terms violation. They don't like you giving out contact info.
 
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myusernamehere wrote :
It has to be some sort of terms violation. They don't like you giving out contact info.
How would anyone ever date if they didn't give out contact info?

It's against TOS to give it in the guided communication stages, not the 4th "open communication"
 
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