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SO I have not gotten any bites and sent more that 20 starter questions in the last 2 weeks with no one replying

Could you all read my profile and see what red flag I have up

this is a direct cut and paste from my profile:

Dressed up for an awards banquet a couple years ago.
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The one thing I am most passionate about:
Books! Books are my escape, my tools, my companions. In books I have found answers, friends, and lived a million lives. Books taught me to cook, helped me learn new things, and dreamed the greatest of dreams. Close second is food, I love cooking and eating. Creating and exploring food is a wonderful joy in my life.
You don't need the close second, let the first part stand as is. FYI too many mentions of eating are usually a red flag for weight issues.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
A good match to me.(Sentence fragment.) I don't want someone just like me, I want the man who is the compliment to my personality, and I his. Plato told us that humans were split by the gods in the beginning, and the halves search for their missing part, sometimes all their lives. I want to find my other soul, my missing piece. I want the counter-note in my song. I want to be complete. I want my friend, my lover, my forever partner.
This is a little melodramatic. I am okay with the Plato, but tone done the 'complete' business. That's a lot of pressure.
About Me

Basic Information

Occupation: Museum work-Collections Manager
Age 34
Height 5' 9"
Wants Kids: Yes
Kids at Home: Yes
Ethnicity White, non-Hispanic
Religion: Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks: About once a week
Smokes: Never

In my own words
The most influential person in my life has been:

A friend of mine's mother.(Bad grammar) You cannot pick your parents, but you can pick your role models for being a parent. She is what I wish my mother was, and shows me how to be better for my Daughter. (No reason to capitalize daughter unless that is her name.)She also serves as a reminder at there is always hope, there is always a chance. Love can still find you, when you have all but given up.

Yikes, this is laden with mother issues and baggage. Keep the positive, lose the negative. I would hit the close button immediately.

The three things which I am most thankful for:

My beautiful child, who is the greatest gift I was ever given
My father, who has always believed in me and loved me
My few close friends, who I know I can depend on
Maybe lose 'few' - it seems a little self-pitying.

Three of my best life-skills are:

Continuing to expand my knowledge and awareness
Entertaining in my home
Making new friends

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:

I feel, especially at work, that I am constantly underestimated and undervalued when it comes to my intelligence. I know I am bright and a quick wit, yet somehow that always seems to surprise people at first.
There has to be a better way to say this without sounding so negative. Understimated and undervalued are BAD, low self-esteem words.

The things I can't live without are:

BOOKS, all kinds, I just love reading
Music that moves me
My beautiful child
Great food
Good company
Easy on the mention of books and your chld - all I see is devoted bookworm mom with no real life.

The first thing people notice about me:

My outgoing, friendly nature. I seem sometimes to almost feed off the energy of others, and I love talking, telling stories, sharing good humor. I try always to be conscientious of the golden rule in my dealings with others. I am a magnet to strangers. I can be in a public place and people will hone in on me to ask for directions, or to take their picture. I seem to just make people feel at ease.
This rambles a bit - pick one quality and stick to it.

Some additional information I want you to know:

I am shortly making a HUGE life change, leaving my career and moving back to Iowa so I can be a mom. I have been working and struggling alone for 3 years now, 1200 miles from family with few local friends and no support network. Life is too short, and my child will only be little once. I am moving back in with my parents, and taking a part time job so I can concentrate on family. No one ever got to the end of their lives and said I wish I had spent more time at work, and less time with my family. I do not see it as a sacrifice or a failing; this is a great opportunity and I am so lucky I have it. I will be home in July.
This is very important information; if I were in your position I would not be trying to find matches at all right now. You have a tendency to be very negative and Debbie Downer, and this paragraph is no exception. The sentences in red should all go.
My interests

I typically spend my leisure time:

I enjoy reading, I love books. I play computer games. I was a huge fan of DnD back in the day, and find many of the roleplaying games available now to be very enjoyable. I love cooking for my friends and family. Nothing better then sharing good food with good friends.
Do you actually DO anything, any activites? This section should be used to talk about activities that would make a match want to join in!

The last book I read and enjoyed:

Not really a book, but I just I read a short collection of love letters from Henry VIII to Anne Boleyn. I was amazed at the humanness of Henry, in those pages he became more real for me as a person. Henry VIII is one of those larger then life historical figures, and this showed him an ordinary man. Of course he was; but it is hard to see people like him that way. It was really eye opening.
Did it have a title? An author?
According to my friends:

My friends describe me as:

Funny
Creative
Intelligent
Outgoing

Thanks in advance!

My family, for many years, owned an Italian bistro and coffee house, named for my great grandmother. I grew up with food as an artistic expression and it was central to our existence.

I think this is profile worthy!



So here we are with take two:


The one thing I am most passionate about:

Books! Books are my escape, my tools, my companions. In books I have found answers, friends (this reads LONELY to me...and I am a big reader), and lived a million lives. Books taught me to cook, helped me learn new things, and dreamed the greatest of dreams.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:

I am looking for a good match for me. I don't want someone just like me, I want the man who is the compliment to my personality, and I his. I want my friend, my lover, (this seems to set the bar very very high....perhaps scarily high....or add a wiggle word ..."maybe")my forever partner.

About Me
Basic Information

Occupation: Museum work-Collections Manager
Age 34
Height 5' 9"
Wants Kids: Yes
Kids at Home: Yes
Ethnicity White, non-Hispanic
Religion: Spiritual, but not religious
Drinks: About once a week
Smokes: Never

In my own words

The most influential person in my life has been:

The mother of a good friend. She serves as a role model for being a parent and shows me how to be a better mother for my daughter. She is a great listener and I can turn to her for advice. She is cool and funny, I admire her a great deal. She also serves as a reminder at there is always hope, love can find you when you least expect it. I find her whole life story to be an example and inspiration.

The three things which I am most thankful for:

My beautiful child, who is the greatest gift I was ever given (you may want to hint at her age...people like to know if you are in the same/similar stage they are....eg soccer teams and science fair or proms and curfews)
My father, who has always believed in and supported me
My close friends, who I know I can depend on and who can depend on me

Three of my best life-skills are:

Continuing to expand my knowledge and awareness
Entertaining in my home
Making new friends

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:

I am actually not nearly carefree and fearless as some people think. I put a lot of planning in to my activities and adventures, and try to be prepared for several contingencies. I think that may be why people don't notice, I already have an alternate plan set up when the first one goes a bit south, so it comes off like I switched gears without a thought. But what others see as me flying by the seat of my pants is really quite calculated.

This is just ok...

The things I can't live without are:

My computer You said computer games elsewhere, like repeating the daughter this misses an opportunity to make a connection based on some other aspect of your life.
Music that moves me
Lazy afternoons in the park (doing????)
Great food
Good company (doing???)

THIS is where you need to step it up! What type of food? What type of music? Are you Garth and grits or R&B and ribs?

The first thing people notice about me:

My outgoing, friendly nature. My friends jokingly tell me I can make a friend out of anyone. Once, I was chatting with a TSA agent about national parks and turned to see a bemused look on my traveling companion's face. "Only you would befriend the man who just singled you out for a luggage search."

Some additional information I want you to know:

Send me a message and find out! This is generally considered a poor answer. You can and should be using this as another opportunity to connect with readers instead of some vague "I might have something to tell you" coyness.

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:

I like to go cycling, leisurely. I play MMORPG's on occasion. I was a huge fan of DnD back in the day (I was always an Elf..yes dorky but if you want/like geeky guys why not?), and find many of the roleplaying games (LIKE????) available now to be very enjoyable, and I am always up to learning more. Traveling, from a day trip to Tuscon out of town, to halfway across the globe to CONGO. I love cooking BBQ/oatmeal cookies and sharing my creations with others. Nothing better then sharing good food with good friends.

Again ....add in a few specifics. Not that you are saying I only love Florence and Thai food but it gives some hooks for people to say "Oh ME too!" You need to generate specific info that readers can either say ME TOO or ask you about. The cooking stuff is strong you need to build on it.

The last book I read and enjoyed:

Not really a book, but I just I read a short collection of love letters from Henry VIII to Anne Boleyn. The original letters were found in the Vatican archives. I was amazed at the humanness of Henry, in those pages he became more real for me as a person. Henry VIII is one of those larger then life historical figures, and this showed him an ordinary man. Of course he was; but it is hard to see people like him that way. It was really eye opening.

According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:

Funny
Creative
Intelligent
Outgoing