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steph0208 is offline steph0208 Post #1  June 11,2011, 6:55am
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If you get a match and they haven't been active for a week or more, should you assume that they are maybe with someone and how long if they are not active for more then a week should you just not ever really bother sending them a message?
I have had some promising ones that seemed to enjoy many of the same things as me but they haven't been on for a week or more.
 
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This could mean several things. They are currently concentrating on other matches (communicating, dating, etc) or they could be a ghost profile who forgot to turn off matching and they do not realize that EH is still circulating their profile even though they have not signed on for months/years. It's really hard to tell.

I believe with the new "Active within" indicators the longest time frame is "active 3 weeks ago" - which could mean 3 weeks or 30 weeks or 300 weeks.

If you like their profile, it doesn't hurt to send them a communication. Some people do not log in to EH unless they get a notification of their new messages. However, don't check up on that communication, just let it sit for a while and concentrate on other matches who do respond.
 
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Just send a message...the only way to be 100% sure you will not get a response is by not sending a message in the first place!
 
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Hi steph0208 and welcome to EHA.

I moved this thread to the Using eHarmony forum where you'll get more responses to questions that have to do with the eHarmony dating site.

I agree with above ... send a communication. The person will get an email from eHarmony saying they received a communication (if they're signed up for that) and if they are still using eHarmony perhaps they'll come and look.
 
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scarlettblonde wrote :
Just send a message...the only way to be 100% sure you will not get a response is by not sending a message in the first place!
Yep! You are on the unlimited "send a message" plan. Take full advantage of it!

If your interested, send a message. Don't obsess whether they are a live or not. You'll find out soon enough!
 
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steph0208 wrote :
If you get a match and they haven't been active for a week or more, should you assume that they are maybe with someone and how long if they are not active for more then a week should you just not ever really bother sending them a message?
I have had some promising ones that seemed to enjoy many of the same things as me but they haven't been on for a week or more.
This can be a definite drawback to listing these activity levels. I was just approaching open communication and my computer went down on me. By the time I got back on about 5 days later the guy closed and i really thought there seemed to be potential. It is not always that the person has met someone more interesting. Maybe he actually would have closed me anyway but I wonder. Also I will go away this summer for a week where I know i will likely not have access. Should I just take my profile down. Shutting off matches won't really work if it is not a new match trying to connect. This activity level thing can cause miscommunication. I do not like it at all.
 
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Depends...

If it has been a while since they had been on, and the profile is not complete, then I close.

If I like the pictures, and the profile then I send the initial questions anyway, as others have said it is free.
 
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I would send the questions and wait. Keep communicating with other matches you find interesting, too.

Sometimes things happen and keep people from getting on EH. It can't hurt and won't take much time to send the questions. Nothing ventured, nothing gained!
 
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scarlettblonde wrote :
Just send a message...the only way to be 100% sure you will not get a response is by not sending a message in the first place!
+1000 to this
 
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This is the time of year that a lot of people go on vacation so not having been active for a week or two could just mean that they are on vacation.

There is also one person that posted on these Advice boards that they never logs in to eHarmony unless they have been notified they have a message. So since they never initiate communication it could be weeks or months since they last logged in to their profile.
 
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