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shub48 is offline shub48 Post #1  May 16,2011, 3:06pm
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I have to say that I am very disappointed in eHarmony. From the t.v. commercials and the amount of money you have to pay, I have to say I expected more. I'm so very glad I only signed up for a 3 month subscription. I would have been very upset to have to pay for more months than that since there is so little service actually provided.
One more thing, if matches are sent to you that are non paying matches, why doesn't eHarmony have some sort of designation by their name or on their profile so that we can know they are free members? That way, you don't get stuck in some limbo wondering why your communication with them hasn't been responded too.
This site is a big waste of time.
 
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What else were you expecting that you didn't receive?

Have you been using the site to your full advantage? Are you requesting communication with all matches you are interested in?
 
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What happened to my post? I guess eh is a little thin skinned and can't take any criticism.
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myusernamehere wrote :
What happened to my post? I guess eh is a little thin skinned and can't take any criticism.
Criticism is fine (as you can see by reading the posts in this forum).

Encouraging Members to violate the TOS of eHarmony....not so much.
 
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Odira is offline Odira Post #5  May 16,2011, 4:37pm
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shub48 wrote :
I have to say that I am very disappointed in eHarmony.

One more thing, if matches are sent to you that are non paying matches, why doesn't eHarmony have some sort of designation by their name or on their profile so that we can know they are free members? That way, you don't get stuck in some limbo wondering why your communication with them hasn't been responded too.
This site is a big waste of time.
From the many many threads, this seems to be the biggest complaint about eHarmony. TPTB at eHarmony are certainly aware of this criticism; however, this is part of their marketing strategy. You as a paying member represent the 'bait' to lure the non-paying members to fork over their money so they can communicate with you. No one knows the success rate for this strategy, but I don't see them changing.

Also, I'm guessing if they were to differentiate paying from non-paying you would find the number of viable matches pitiably small and then you would question you wisdom in paying lots of money for a tiny number of matches. Volume (paying or non-paying) gives us the illusion of 'bang for your buck.'

Finally, eHarmony doesn't appear to be all that concerned about keeping their 'valuable' customers. They already got your money - you fell for their sales pitch, and so will others. If they are lucky, they will get them to sign up for a year, but they will take three months.

Do I sound a little jaded and cynical. Gee, I wonder why
 
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Shub, you just need to set your expectations properly and when it's time to renew, get a discounted rate. It comes and goes. I took a break for a month last month because my matches had totally dried up and it wasn't worth my while. I re-upped at a discounted rate two weeks ago and this week I have two dates with two very compelling women. I have been using eHarmony off and on since October of last year and during that time I think I've had 7? dates with women I met on eH.
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
What else were you expecting that you didn't receive?

Have you been using the site to your full advantage? Are you requesting communication with all matches you are interested in?
I have contacted every match I was interested in. But, have gotten very few replies.
It might be my profile is not interesting enough or the fact that I'm a BBW.
Not sure what's up. Especially when I look at the number of men that have viewed my profile. Kind of disheartening.
 
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Firstly, don't assume that everyone you are matched with is a "live" match. There are some dead profiles out there. They are people that either signed up for a free event and then didn't stop matching once they left the site or someone who may have been active in the past and decided to quite, but again, didn't turn off matching.

You also need to give people some time to respond. Be realistic. Some people choose to only use the site on weekends. Others might be lookey loos and want to "think about it" before responding.

So, take a look at who is looking at your profile after you send your first questions. Is anyone looking or are you not getting any action whatsoever? If no one is doing anything, you may need to contact Customer Care.

You may also want to look at your profile, your photos and reevaluate what you present to your matches. There is a thread at the top of this board with instructions on how to post your profile for a "peer review". Be aware that we can be very direct, but it is all with the best of intentions.
 
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Odira wrote :
From the many many threads, this seems to be the biggest complaint about eHarmony. TPTB at eHarmony are certainly aware of this criticism; however, this is part of their marketing strategy. You as a paying member represent the 'bait' to lure the non-paying members to fork over their money so they can communicate with you. No one knows the success rate for this strategy, but I don't see them changing.
This is the same strategy that is used by all paying online dating sites.

Also, I'm guessing if they were to differentiate paying from non-paying you would find the number of viable matches pitiably small and then you would question you wisdom in paying lots of money for a tiny number of matches. Volume (paying or non-paying) gives us the illusion of 'bang for your buck.'

Finally, eHarmony doesn't appear to be all that concerned about keeping their 'valuable' customers. They already got your money - you fell for their sales pitch, and so will others. If they are lucky, they will get them to sign up for a year, but they will take three months.
They will take only one month if you want to sign up for only that.

Do I sound a little jaded and cynical. Gee, I wonder why
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you say you are a BBW? this means a larger than average woman? your dating pool is likely to be even more limited on this site - I suggest you try other sites. when I use a site, I immediately close anyone who is BBW and I suspect a lot of other men do this.
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